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Why do we feel territorial about parking space?

Living in a three-plex, I have two reserved, covered parking spaces. One space for my car; the other for guests.

Have always felt archly amused when normally kind men swear at bad drivers while behind the wheel. Road rage? Not me.

But for the last two days, a Honda sedan has been illegally parked in my second reserved space. Using duct tape, I stuck two notes on the windshield:

"NO PARKING. MOVE THIS CAR NOW."

"Your car is in my parking space. If you don't move your car immediately, it will be towed. Towing is expensive for you."

"I have guests coming for the holidays," I told the building manager. She said the Honda will be towed in 24 hours.

I was suprised by how aggravated and territorial I felt!

"Refugees are starving and you're upset about a spare parking space?" I thought. "Put this in perspective."

The jerk finally moved his car last night. He tore up my notes and threw them on the ground.

After picking up the litter, as is my habit, I breathed a sigh of relief.

LiterateHiker 9 Dec 13
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Humans act very bizarrely with parking spaces. I don’t get the obsession to getting the absolute closest spot possible. I’ve seen people wait for someone to pull out when it’s much quicker to get a spot that availability a few spaces further away. I’ve seen this behavior in gym parking lots.

I’m somewhat of a young buck still, so I typically park a good distance away so people that may need closer spaces can have them. It’s OK. The extra 100 feet aren’t going to kill me.

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Your space is your space. Rules are rules. Having to personally enforce the rules we live by is always frustrating because we shouldn't have to.

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Whoever parked there did not ask you, but just took what he wanted. He intruded on your turf, and that's nearly always annoying. And he was a sulky brat when you called him out. You summed it up in one word: Jerk.

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...what your anger is is about tribalism...mine over yours etc...In all honesty we all get like that at times, either over something as small as a parking space or as large as denying an entire group or race (which is technically only a human construct to differentiate classes of people via physical features, yet we never call dogs of differing backgrounds races of dogs).

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Those are the type o people that allow people like Trump get elected. They feel that rules don't apply to them. I would also be pissed off.

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I don't know why but it pisses me off to see someone in "my" space at work. My is in quotation marks because I do not have an assigned space; it just happens to be the one I chose as mine

That is why I tend to park in the same spot all the time even if I see an empty closer to the building...I don't care if someone parks where I normally spot, we have lots of spaces, but some people just are territorial and like the comfort of going to the same place when they leave at night...I get it...I won't steal your spot! ha ha ha

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Next time... Just go to Walmart!

Head to the kitchen items and get a basting needle setup (for injecting flavor into meat) and then over to the sporting goods section to get a bottle of fox urine.

Load the basting syringe with fox urine and stick it through the rubber weatherstripping of the car to spray all over the inside and on the upholstery. Of course this works great if it is a really hot day... But still smells bad on a cold one. When you pull the needle back out you will leave absolutely no mark anywhere and the person will be wondering how you did it.

Wtf? That's evil af.

I like it

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Those of us who believe in civility and respect, sometimes feel indignation at these trespasses, and justifiably so. We give respect, we expect it in return. Unfortunately, there are many out there that were not raised with the same principles.

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Because you pay for the space.

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I feel frustrated even if it is an unassigned stall at work. I park in the same stall all the time, every day and I'm even early to make sure of it. When my routine is broken when my stall is gone it throws off my day.
When people used to park in my second stall at an old apartment I would leave a friendly note the first time. The second time I towed them out of it.

It will only affect me for a little while before the days work distracts me but the flash irritation will return when I leave and see my precious parked NOT where it should be lol

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It's an invasion of space, your space, you have every right to cop the arse 🙂

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we are creatures of laws and rules then we try to cerconvent them by ignoring them thinking it makes us rebels or bad people. We pay rent on those spots so we need to have them for our use. I found aprtment mangement do not enforce the rules.

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I park far away because it's better for my health. Light green eyes I sometimes find a huge vehicle parked beside me. Fortunately I parked far enough away that I can just drive forward and not worry about it anyway. More than likely the people that Park beside me just want to walk as well and why they didn't park in a Solo spot is beyond me but it doesn't really make me angry if they do Park beside me. I drive an older car perhaps that's the reason I'm so Live and Let Live.

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I park as far away from the store and anyone else possible because I have a nice car and I would love to keep it that way.
It always amazes me how often a huge pickup will park right beside me when there’s a whole parking lot.

Doesn't that just frost you when they do that? I mean, what's up with that?

People that drive newer or pricier vehicles like to park next to the same because they presume those people will take extra care not to let their doors fly open.

My truck is older now and scratched from vandals but when it was new, I absolutely looked for a spot between two new vehicles.

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I don't mind walking... so I don't look for parking closer to the store... I am annoying to many normal people... and I don't mind... but I admit having forgotten where did I parked on a night of party, dancing and drinking... Not Good.

I live in Florida so we look for the spaces under trees rather than up front.

@Lucy_Fehr Looking for that shadow... I like florida... no mountains. Big City life is a hustle... too many cars, too little parking... make people crazy. Right Town in Florida can Work for sure.

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I live across the street from a Catholic church. One Sunday morning my son went outside to find one of the parishioners blocking our driveway. He talked to the church and told them it was bad enough that they park all around the house, but NEVER block our driveway again or the car will be towed. So far, we haven't had any issue.

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Gee, I hope it's the end, not the beginning of something

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I just have a little Ford Focus and can usually fit in any spot. But I get super annoyed if 2 vehicles hug the yellow line on either side of a space so that I can’t even fit my little car there

@PalacinkyPDX yep! Or when a truck tries backing into a stall but doesn’t quite have the driving skills to accomplish it

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Usually because we follow the rules and do not like it if someone else does not.

I like the simplistic truth to this one

Bingo.

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Wow, that's some aggressive behavior. I think I would have written a note that said something like: "please find another spot to park by xx/xx I have company coming, or I have to tow your car". I would write a much different note if it wasn't where I live or if the spot was nowhere near my car. Then I would agree with the aggressive approach.

Nah. I'd have confronted the asshole.

@bigpawbullets

The asshole left his car in my spot for two days.

First I put a note under his windshield wiper. Carrying a bigger note ("NO PARKING. MOVE THIS CAR NOW" ) and duct tape, I taped both notes firmly onto his windshield. Hoped the tape would be hard to remove. The car was not moved.

Then I called the manager. She promptly called around, asking if anyone knew the car owner. No luck.

"If the car is not moved in 24 hours, I will have it towed," she told me. He moved the car that night, tearing up my notes and throwing them on the ground.

What a jerk!

@LiterateHiker
Some people are just abrasive.

I don't think she was overly aggressive at all. She left a note and was ignored.

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We must not encourage rude behavior,good job

@WayneDalton

Thank you.

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Do you pay a premium for that extra space? Most apt complexes and other developments where there is assigned parking typically leaves guests with a select few spots. If I had to pay an extra premium to ensure my visitors had a place to park I'd sure as hell be territorial. LOL!

@IAMGROOT

Two reserved, covered parkings spots are included in the rent.

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I was moving in to my house, and a neighbor two houses away told me my van - in front of MY house- was in his parking space. Two years later, when out to dinner with his hair dresser, she told me the street i live on is full of real jerks, then told me of the parking fight i had on day one. Needless to say, when i got home, there was another fight in the neighborhood.

We get parking wars in the summer...people dig out a place in the street and some asshole parks there...I have seen people snow people in for doing that...fights ensue...it is nuts!

@thinktwice i'm seen some fights in philly!

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Because you captured it. Primal lizard brain kicks in defend what you capture.

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That's when it's fun to block their car in ...
"ya wanna park here ? STAY !"

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