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Do high heels impact the amount of respect men give women in the workplace, especially those who hold higher titles than them?

ElusiveMoby 7 Feb 26
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Wow. It's amazing to me that this topic even has to be brought up. But it is relevant. Whether it is conscious or not, the way someone dresses, man or woman, plays a big part in the respect factor. Anyone who says they don't judge a woman in high heels is full of shit. You look at a woman in high heels and what do you think?... wow, she's powerful? hey, she's got it together, or omg, I'd like to fuck her? There is always a thought when someone is seen in whatever attire they wear. Conscious or not, people, especially women, are judged.

@PalacinkyPDX I really think it's a lack of awareness; self and social awareness. This kind of thing is what I've been studying for years. And although I point it out I've learned not to argue.

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Not in my opinion. Seems like a superficial, shallow reason to respect someone.

Perhaps these women believe the additional height gives them more authority.

@ElusiveMoby Or the additional height makes hem look thinner. Put on a black suit and wa la, Twiggy (probably before your time).

@JackPedigo She was before my time, but I’m still very fond of her look.

@JackPedigo Could be

@ElusiveMoby There's both anecdotal and research supporting that notion

@indirect76 I want to feed her.

@ElusiveMoby Me too, but probably not in the same way you meant. ?

@indirect76 You're right about that. Shit.

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Heels, like make up are used to accentuate physical attractiveness.

Ive noticed this topic has come up in some debates on what is appropriate in the work place.

Weaponizing sexuality is nothing new. There are many reasons to respect someone. What sort of 'respect' one is after may need to be explored. No guy has ever said to me, 'Man, she looks so smart in those heels'.

SCal Level 7 Feb 26, 2019

Don't underestimate the ability to look a man straight in the eyes. That can command respect. And if you're in a position of authority it makes them pay more attention.

@ladyprof70 A fabulous response.

@ladyprof70

Probably the most telling thing about this entire thread is that nearly across the board, people assume the 'boss' is a man.

I seriously doubt a male manager/boss will be affected by height over sexuality. He might be more lenient or whatever because he wants to bang her, but not because hes in intimidated because shes tall.

That said, ive heard women state that they dress for themselves, or other females. I have no clue how a female manager/boss may internalize the whole heel thing.

If you look at my comment I mention subordinates. There's a lot of research that shows the effects of height on perceived power. I can tell you that when I was the boss being the same height (or taller) never hurt. And I made a point not to dress in any sexualized manner at work. I was the boss because of my smarts -- not my boobs.

@ladyprof70

If I look at your comment? Thats a rather condescending thing to state.

Ive been the boss for my own companies. I have hired and fired people. I don't care if youre 10 ft tall. Can you do your job? In this dichotomy there is no doubt where the power lies, so perception is discounted. Perhaps in a negotiation or in hiring this may be a thing.

I don't doubt the research. There has been a ton of research done on sexuality in the workplace. Perception of power does not outweight sexuality. Did you ever find yourself intimidated by a subordinate because they were tall due to wearing heels? It hasnt happened on my end. Its possible there is validity in both positions.

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It does from me only because I'm impressed with their ability to maintain their balance while wearing those shoes. I trip all over the place on the very rare occasion that I wear my boots - can't imagine high heels - I'd have broken my neck on day one.

What a brilliant answer! I love it!

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I don't care what you wear to work as long as you do your job.

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I feel sorry for them for the discomfort but I do find them attractive. As far as my respect they are irrelevant to me.

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That's " high HEELS", people

Thank you.

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Absolutely not, but I can't deny that u like a woman in heels. But business is business.

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It depends on the workplace and the type of shoe. If they are appropriate for the job, then they won't make the slightest difference to how I view someone.

The same with men's shoes - if they are appropriate for the job, no problem.

If a woman (or man) turned up in high heels where safety shoes are required, then no respect will be earned - just a sneer about form over function.

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I can't for the life of me figure out why they would.

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Amount of respect? It depends, if the shoes are proper attire, no problem , but if they are too flashy it doesn't help getting respect. Unless the workplace is a Strip Club...!

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I've only worked in techie areas, but the only women I've ever seen wearing heels to work were either sales reps or corporate executives. Of course, they also stood out by wearing make-up and dressing nicely. So I guess it's effective depending on the type of position you have or want.

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Simple answer... yes. In my line of work, I would question why someone would choose to wear something like that. Absent any other context or info, I would lose respect for that person.

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For me I have negative feelings about women, especially older women, who feel the need to mess up their feet in the name of show. I do not see this as being professional.

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Not sure it has an impact. Don't know office fashion among women.

Used to work at a place that had an office area and a warehouse area. In the warehouse, work shoes were called for. This particular woman, married to another co-worker, frequently wore her heals out in the warehouse area. Also a short dress and low-cut blouse. Not proper workplace attire, but she was a boss so...

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High heels alone - stretch leg muscles and give 'shape' Proper high heels as in the proverbial 'fuck me' shoes - not seen too often in the office - a more specialised type of work.
Respect - comes from the way a woman (or man) uses their brain and the arguments they propose.
Titles - known and had to work with many very stupid directors, not deserving respect, or their job.

Here's what I'm noticing. The women in power at my workplace wear very high heels. I'm not sure why because they walk a lot. It makes me wonder if I have to don heels to be promoted.

I'm in education. Those heels abound.

@ElusiveMoby It is really stupid in education to wear uncomfortable shoes. Been there, done that. That said, probably does have an impact especially with the administration. And, as many know, the administration sets the tone for everything.

I worked in big corporate America. Plenty of high heels. I think it depends on the company, and the areas of work. For instance, more high heels were seen in the sales and financial areas, less in the science and tech areas.

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For me it never mattered, only what was said. Not to say I did not appreciate their physical presence, but in matter of work dress was never important -- same with makeup.

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if they can walk well in them then i respect that....they seem to be fall magnets. there used to be a girl i saw that wore high heels. she was like super cute but couldn't walk very well in them heels... i think it might have been the hardest thing she did all day - walk in the heels

I wobble so I save everyone the sight by sticking to flats.

No judgment there.

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The internet is a terrible place to discuss anything work related...

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High heels only appeal to fat, unshowered truck drivers with half their ass crack showing out the back of their pants.

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I respect people for who they are, not by their footwear. This question doesn't make sense to me.

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Very succinct.

@ElusiveMoby I call them like i see them =)

I call bullshit.

@Wildflower if you judge a mans work performance based on their tie selection or shoe type, that's on you.

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