@bleurowz

Thank you. Well said. I agree wholeheartedly.

@Stephanie99

What a wonderful video! THANK YOU. I will send this TED Talk to my daughter and others.

@guynoir I have a tendency to agree which is why I believe lesbians and gays have much more fulfilling relationships. And that's just my personal opinion

You've been dating the wrong men. I mean that in a sympathetic way.

@Kojaksmom

You have my sympathy. I agree.

@chucklesIII 100% of all males watch porn. Celibacy is just a choice for me right now, I'm taking a much-needed break from relationships and sex.

@chucklesIII

Don't blame women for the fact that online porn is ruining men's perception of sex and intimacy. I have experienced this, too.

One man I met was so addicted to online porn, he could not relate to a living, breathing woman. He required online porn to get an erection and come. I showed him the door.

Porn addiction treatment centers have opened up around the world. The Ranch Porn Addiction Treatment Center is located in the South:

[recoveryranch.com]

@LiterateHiker no sympathy needed, it's all my choice to steer away from casual sex and relationships.

@Kojaksmom

I understand. I steer away from casual sex, too.

@LiterateHiker That’s just sad...

@LiterateHiker , I'm not blaming women. I'm blaming the men she has dated and those like them.

@chucklesIII no, I said all men are that way,all of them. There are so few exceptions your chances of finding them are near zero.

@Kojaksmom , You have my sympathy.

@chucklesIII it's not just my experience, there a whole hell of a lot of women out there that feel just like me

@Kojaksmom , then there's a whole hell of a lot of women who date the wrong guys. I know this to be true. I'm friends with a couple who have experienced it. The problem is, they keep dating pieces of shit, all the while thinking, "I can change him". No. You cannot. In my 50 years, I have never hit a woman. I intend to keep it that way.

@chucklesIII

The only person I can change and control is myself. I learned that in my 20s. I refuse to fall in love with a man's potential, expecting him to change.

I can change my reaction to people's behavior. That point was driven home when my daughter was a teenager. "This is temporary," was my mantra.

"I love you, Claire," I said calmly. "You may not act disrespectful to me. I'm leaving now." She apologized and asked me to come back and help her.

@chucklesIII some women are so afraid of being alone and yes your statement is correct .I haven't dated in 3 years. I was married to cheater. approximately 60% of all married men are cheaters. I went on a few dates after my husband died ,but never made a connection with anybody because sex is the only thing that interests men. Occasionally I would indulge them, but most men are far more interested in finding more women to indulge them. At 53 im done with bad dates and bad men. Dating and looking for a relationship is risky and it's a waste of time.

I agree with your liking / stmnt about emotional connection... for good of bad, anal sex has almost become normalized.

@guynoir

What does "stmnt" stand for?

@Shouldbefishing

Please spell out words. Thanks for translating it.

Indeed. I was asked "butt" once. She wanted to try it out of pure curiosity.

Too much dick..that hurts.

that might be a common misconception that the bigger the penis the better (not for me), but then again i can only speak for myself. everyone has their own insecurities about their bodies. the only thing that matters is what your partner likes and if she likes you, you can stop worrying about it I think.

@callmedubious well you might as well just send a dic pick now huh?

@Mitch07102 Thanks, good video.

@Mitch07102

Thank you. High praise.

1. yeah sure here is a tip: LOOK AT THE REAL WOMAN IN FRONT OF YOU
2. sorry you don't agree but that doesn't mean the world is broken

@Janiesuper I'm not disagreeing with anything U said.

@guynoir

Stop making excuses. As @Janiesuper said, look at the real woman in front of you instead.

People can overcome genetic tendencies, society pressure, religious inhibition, their upbringing, etc.

How to Overcome Genetic Tendencies

[psychcentral.com]

@LiterateHiker why should differences be ignored or forsaken? Didn't nature give us differences? Celebrate Diversity!!

@Xunande

What is a hitachi wand? Never heard of it.

"Harmless escapism?" I disagree. Pornography hurts and degrades women.

Watch the excellent TED Talk, "Why I Stopped Watching Online Porn," by Ran Gavriel posted by @Stephanie99 below:

@LiterateHiker it's a thing that goes bzzz very effectively, or so I hear.

The idea that porn hurts or degrades women is archaic and frankly, anti-woman.

Are you upset over men and women's sexual imaginations? Yes, there are some people who fetishize things like assault, and a small percentage of porn does show men doing bad things to women who APPEAR to be suffering.

These are fictional portrayals. The power dynamic is not real. Porn also depicts many female fantasies, including the opposite power dynamic. It's a celebration of female sexuality, more than anything.

You're free to find them distasteful, but that's not the same thing as demeaning. Saying that it is denies that women also have similar lusts and desires.

No, porn doesn't demean women anymore than action movies about buff dudes shooting each other demean men. All media is sensationalized and not rooted in reality. I'm not about to stop watching football because it depicts men as big, hulking and strong.

In fact, saying that porn is demeaning to women is demeaning to women. Female sexuality is not defined by what men look at. It's its own thing, and it doesn't matter that men see it or not.

If we lived in a world where porn was demeaning to women, the only non-demeaning sexual encounters would be very unexcitedly vanilla.

If we're going to preach today, let's preach literacy of the media. Understanding that porn is not real life, just like the latest Tarantino film isn't.

It is not uncommon for porn addiction to lead to male impotence.