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I recently became single because my ex decided he couldn't live with my cat. Prior to this, he kept giving me ultimatums: the cat leaves or he does. Would any of you give up your pet to make somebody else happy?

ShabbyChicGirl 5 Mar 1
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All I will say is that I would not ask a family member to give up their pet to accommodate ME. Unless maybe the decision to have said pet was unilateral, I wasn't consulted, and my issue was not mere dislike but some horrible allergy or something. Apart from that it'd be fine to set some ground rules for how the pet interacts with me. For example my wife and I frequently eat in the living room while watching TV, and she does NOT like the dogs on the couch with her while she's eating, even though they don't pester her, but just look longingly from a distance. I don't personally care. But I put them in the mud room while we eat so that she's comfortable. It's the same deal when she's cooking, she doesn't want to trip over them. I think reasonable compromises like that should take care of most issues.

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Not only no, but hell no. And if you loved me you wouldn't ask.

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Ummm - NO !

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If it is because of severe allergies then his health and well being should take precedence if you really care about him. Otherwise a cat is no big deal and he can get adjusted to that.

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there is a country song where the wife is telling the guy her or fishing. The chorus is about how he is going to miss her when he gets back. I like my pets. Someone who is not interested in animals in general or pets would not be a good match for me. I would never ditch a pet for a two legger

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I absolutely would not. Being willing to or requiring that I dump a beloved pet would be a huge point of incompatibility. Super huge.

Zster Level 8 Mar 1, 2018
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Never!

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Hell no. All cats are not evil. Here's my sweetie Heidi in her vintage doll bed. Pure love and sweetness. Boyfriend you're out. Don't let the door hit you in the butt.

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My boys (2 Shih Tzus, 12 and 13 yrs old) are family, nobody comes before family.

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I refuse to have a dog in the house, of any size. I grew up with 4 wonderful dogs -- big ones on the backyard, while my wife had house dogs. I forbid her from getting house dogs, for several reasons. But once we move to a house with a nice yard, I'd see no problem. Would I leave her if she insisted and got a house pet? Maybe

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Some people do not realize the affection that are given to their animals and are ignorant of the fact that these creatures of God have a special soothing capacity that they cannot understand or render. I have a special approach about this because I know that sometimes it goes a bit off the deep end, but I would only add that the creature doesn't understand your language but your affection which is their way of making someone else very uncomfortable. If you used the cat to torment him then you caused a problem which I am very familiar with and I loved the dog who was involved with our relationship very much and the other person used this in a way that was totally disturbing.
But we don't know the other side of the episode which like a bad marriage where one spouse will say that her chosen was a total Assh@#e which brings one to the conclusion that if you agreed to the union then exactly who are you talking about.

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No. Just no.

I guess if I ever get serious about dating I'd have to add "Allergic to pets - need not apply".

I myself am allergic to cats and dogs. I've had both - at the same time. You take a pill. Or two.

Granted if it's anaphyalaxsis - that's different. But no could not re home.

I went 37 years hearing "Your sister is allergic it would be like telling her not to visit!". She also now has a cat. (Allergies can change over time. She was scarily allergic as a child. Not now.

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Nofucking way. My animals come first always.

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Not a chance. My pets are part of my family. That would be like asking me to get rid of one of my kids. If given that ultimatum I would just say, "There's the door."

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No way! If there was a severe allergy or if my pet was biting then maybe

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Hit the road Jill and don't let the door hit you in the rear on your way out.

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Nope. Love me love my fur ball.

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I'm not even going to bother reading the 38 comments. If you have a relationship with your pet and somebody doesn't like, tell him/her to pack his/her bags and get the fuck out. Unless it's an allergy thing; then you can offer an opportunity to work on it.

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Any person who would abandon a loved one due to the presence of a cat in the house, is not worth the time of day. In any relationships one must accept children, and even animals, as part of the deal, or show the depths of your love for the partner by bailing out, and proving how shallow your love was in the first place.
Be grateful that he has shown his colours, and be assured, there is another REAL man out there waiting for you..

I have since thought about this again. I believe he wanted out and used the cat as a lame excuse to leave you.

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I'd be slamming the door on their sorry ass before they even finished speaking.

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Noooooooooooooooooo

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I define these persons as abusive. Today is your pet, tomorrow is a friend... in few weeks your cel, your job...
No, is not they are allergic but the fact they can't stand the "competition".

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I have 4 cats and I would not give any of them up. If someone doesn't like animals (or cats specifically) they 're not the right person for me.

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He didn't love you to begin with. Sounds like the cat is a better lover then he was. Someone who dishes out ultimatums is looking for an excuse to ditch. If you dumped your cat, then it would be quit smoking, lose weight, take out the trash, etc.

zrez Level 4 Mar 1, 2018
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Absolutely not. Any person who doesn't like my pets isn't for me. I'm sorry this happened to you. There are many other people who will love you AND your feline family.

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