I actually had a similar discussion with my children, and I told them there is nothing that would ever make me love them any less than I ever did. I don' t care who they love, who ever they love I will love too, because they love them. I will be their rock and their protector, I will be their champion, their Mama bear, and I will lay down my life protecting them.
Dude, you seriously better be joking (and I think you are). If your first reaction was anything less than immediate acceptance, you lose 10 points. You can still get B+ for telling her right now that you completely love and accept her no matter what, and you my be able to earn some points back with extra credit over time, but the longer the delay, the bigger the damage.
Tell her you love and support her and then love and support her.
I have a friend whose 14 year old just came out to her as a transguy. She's doing a lot of research to see what she can do. I suggested looking into PFLAG (Parents and Friends of Lesbians and Gays).
I wish that my family would have accepted me at age 10 when I knew I was bisexual. Instead they did indeed try to pray and exorcise the demons out of me. It was pure hell being held down by 4 full grown men as the entire church gathered around and yelled at the so called demons inside of me. I, to this day, don't do well in crowds. Kudos to you for accepting your daughter for who she is and loving her just the same.
My 12 year old came out to me in September as lesbian and then a little while later as nonbinary. They advocated for themselves by sending thoughtful emails to all their teachers about their new chosen name and to their choir teacher to ask permission to wear the boy's suit for concerts.
They are so much happier for having done so, even though there are kids that are mean, they have a strong support system in school and they go to therapy (related to anxiety, not because they are confused). The therapist is lgbt friendly and they have a weekly support group for lgbt kids and their parents.
It will all be ok.
Just love them as they are.
I wanted to hit everyone of those buttons because I am an awful person, but since I could only hit one, I hit the one that should apply to almost any occasion, unless she says she likes Ryan Seacrest. Then we do the other three options in succession.
I would encourage her to explore her feelings. I would encourage her to be patient withherself. True love is hard to find whomever it is.
That is one of the reasons I liked the movie "Call Me By Your Name" and hope it wins the Oscar for best picture. It showed that parents can be supporting and truly loving without judgment when the relationship is gay.
Just be her dad, and tell her you love her. Just try to imagine how much courage it
took for her to tell you. Also, try to imagine the level of trust she's just shown you.
She believes in your love for her, enough that she took what may be one of the
biggest risks of her life, by coming out. Do the right thing, be her dad, and love
each other. Compared with some of the other things that life can throw at you, this
is small potatoes.
Just in case this was supposed to be a joke of some kind ... the area I live in has attitudes just like the "outlandish" ones you mock here. Given the trump "presidency" and other outlandish things of the present I would hope you understand why I find it harder and harder to remember which thing is actually satire.
What decision this will come down to between the 2 of you is do you love your daughter unconditionally and accept her choice. A child s is a precious part of yourself to lose. I had 2 daughters. My oldest was ill and had not told me. She called me the night she chose to die and ask me to visit. I sad be right there. End stage liver failure, but i knew she had taken somethings. She refused me and an ambulance. She was married to a drunk who beat her, but she wouldn't leave him. I stayed with her until she ask me to leave and found her the the next morning. Her Sister, Father, and I would gladly have her back lesbian.My youngest daughter was her best friend. I am glad she is safe now, but I sure do miss her.