I prefer without music because I have a tendency to sing along with the lyrics. That being said, I almost always play music because I worry that my neighbors will hear me in the act.
Imagine my former partner's thoughts when I sang "would you upset if I told you we were dying?" in the middle of intercourse. How embarrassing!
This had me laughing because in eighth grade my friend was compiling a mix tape of songs she wanted to "do it" to the first time. I remember her playing it for me to get my opinion. She had taped them off the radio. It was a mess!! Parts of commercials, DJs talking, missing first few seconds, or the ends of songs. Hilarious. It was the early 90s so it was Bell Bive Devoe, Nelson, Paula Abdul, Johnny Gil, Tommy Page, Sinead O'Connor, Mariah Carey, and right in the middle she had that Michael Bolton song. It was the stuff of nightmares.
Surrounded by 4 floor speakers hooked into a 150 watt per channel amp. Cue up dance/techno of your choice. Insert earplugs, feel the drive. Also put an oscillating fan blow back and forth for sensory change. Strobe lights can be interesting also.
Oh the memories!!!