"Tales of the Literate Hiker" just got moved to the "Really ADULT" section of the bookstore.

That’s what I would call a selfish dick! Literally!

The hell? That's not incompatibility, that's abuse.

You need to fire your headline writer.

Anyways, I'm assuming you won't be seeing him again. Maybe you should review his book on amazon...

Definitely a deal breaker long term disaster looming I can't do what she describes the moment there is pain I lose my erection automatically. Causing pain is wrong

As a man, I listen to the words and the sounds of a woman. Then there is looking at how she reacts to touch of all kinds, sometimes just brushing fingernails along a forearm or over the left hipbone will work wonders. Other times a lady may demand a 'jackhammering'. In the end, the point is truly learning each other. The sensitivity of a womans vaginal area changes, not just day to day, but during sex as well.
As I grew older, I learned not to be afraid to ask during lovemaking and after.
Lubrication is important in vaginal sex, even just with fingers. Oral sex done properly will help. It's a skill that can be learned and if you don't like doing it, say so. I've had girlfriends who no way were even going kiss my penis, never mind take it in their mouth! So, I assume there are some men who won't lick a woman's pussy.
Importantly, communication requires listening, not just talking.

Incredible! Why do thugs like that always have girlfriends, while us gentle, communicative, loving guys just get to date our hands?

There is no point in staying with someone who isn't sexually compatible with you ( I'm using "you" in general). I can have unhappy sex by myself! The point of being with someone sexually is that they bring you pleasure, not rub you raw with their ineptness.

It’s absolutely a dealbreaker for me. I have a high sex drive and like some kink. I do expect to orgasm...preferably more than once.

An enjoyable read for an unenjoyable experience.

Ouch. Sounds like he had himself some viagra. And didn't really care if you were ready for penetration or not. Hardly the definition of kind and thoughtful lover. Sounds like what he says and what he does doesn't line up. Very unkind and untrustworthy.

I'll be 100% honest here. When I started reading it, I thought you were telling a joke. About halfway through, I realized you were being serious. So happy for you that you are away from him.

Yeah that had nothing to do with compatibility. That guy was a narcissist, *sshole, rapist.

While I don't expect everything to jive out the gate, comfort and compatibility need to be there soon.

Otherwise - "bye-bye"

One thing i learned from a very early age, listen to your lover, if she says she needs lube, then get the damn lube, but i also learned if you take care of a ladies needs, if she is a sexual being then you should be in for the ride of your life. I found that most women prefer a tongue to a penis, that just my experience. Guy sounds like an egotistical idiot, no consideration at all, but let me show you what a stud i am...lol

Um entering roughly after you asked not to would piss me the fuck off!!!!!!! What is cunnillingus?

After an episode like that, the guy is lucky there were no scissors in the side table. Is there an on line list for people like that its definitely sex offender material she said stop!

I don't think people become lesbian after adulthood. I do think some people are ashamed of their sexuality and get into horrible relationships as a way to divert attention from it.

That sex thing you describe is horrific. You have the right to stab him, next time you see him. I'd call that assault at the very least. It clearly was physically harming and your consent didn't /needent enter the picture. My 2 cents

I always tell new girlfriends, for me this is playing the piano while deaf, I need a ton of feedback in the beginning to know what you like. Some girls need it rough, some girls need to gentle. transitioning from 1 to another after years of doing the same thing is tricky. but yes, he should have listened a ton better than he did.

Absolutely a deal breaker. And all of u ladies r absolutely right. Sex should be enjoyable to both parties, and what u want/like/need is very important. This isnt the 1950s. Men and women both should be more liberated and open minded

For Complete Nirvana without missing anything... Yes... at my Age I want it all in one Individual!!!! I emphasize One.

It's not a deal breaker for me providing that we're not polar opposites. With commication and consideration I would maintain a relationship with a woman with a higher or lower sex drive. Preferably higher!

I will often ask my partner if she is ok during sex for fear of hurting her. She has rheumatoid arthritis and it can be hard for her but I care about how she feels so I do my best to read queues to give her an enjoyable experience. Often we will just cuddle and snuggle. I guess i'm saying that men can be gentle too. I can handle not reaching orgasm during sex if doing so means hurting the woman i love. So no sexual incompatibility is not a deal breaker with our circumstances. It wasnt always like that.

Yes it is.

Yes.

Yes, it is a deal breaker. Not for friend (duh) but for a relationship, absolutely.