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How would you reply to a theist who says, "You send yourself to hell"?

I don't really believe in an afterlife. I've had talks with my close friends, asking them why a good God sends people to hell. The reply is always, "you send yourself". This statement irks me so much!! How would you respond to that?

Biblebeltskeptic 6 Sep 8
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When religious metaphors are taken literally they send us to silly places; sometimes dangerous places. But when seen as symbolic imagery, many of them contain deep wisdom. We often do “send ourselves to hell” but not after we die. We do it daily while we’re alive. It’s human nature to blame our misery on other people or on circumstances beyond our control, but I think the deeper truth is that we always have the potential to free ourselves from the hell we have created or have become conditioned to. The only mistake the theists make, it seems to me, is taking it all literally, which, in all probability, it was not originally “intended.”

skado Level 9 Sep 9, 2019

How do you know that it was not originally intended ? People who use religious texts as metaphors are welcome to do so, personally I think that there are better texts to mine for such wisdom, but you are welcome if you wish.

However to see them as "originally intended" in any way, supposes an almost psychic understanding of the minds of people long dead, and is an example of the "golden age" fallacy. The one thing that we can say for certain about people in the past is that they were in no way different from us, except perhaps in their lack of education in spheres such as science. Most, if not nearly all, texts written by people today, including those ill educated in science, are not intended as meaningfully metaphorical. Especially not in gutter press red top publications, from the equivalent of which the bible almost certainly obtains most of its content, ( That is not a pychic judgement, the trashy content betrays that.) and which the Koran then plagiarizes. The golden age fallacy is one of the main pillars of literal belief, and by supporting, it even to justify metaphorical interpretations, a great deal of support is given to those who use biblical literalism to promote misunderstanding and the exploitation of others, by lending weight to the stupid idea, almost universal among believers, that old texts are in some way hallowed and therefore better than modern writing.

@Fernapple
You'll notice I placed quotes around the word "intended" to alert the reader that I was using the word in a way other than the most conventional understanding. I'm sure nobody has any way of knowing what was in the conscious minds of the ancient writers, but by observing similarities across sacred texts of different cultures and different times, it becomes pretty clear that the messages were coming, at least in part, from the "collective unconscious". And the unconscious mind, collective or otherwise, speaks in metaphor. So if not "intended" by the individual writer, it does appear to be "intended" by the species, so to speak. People don't always know why they are writing or speaking or singing or painting what they express, but out it comes, and we are left to make sense of it the best way we can.

What makes the most sense to me, considering that certain themes kept emerging from different cultures isolated in time or distance from one another, is that they came from a common source, and the only common source I can see is human DNA. Human DNA doesn't speak in literal English, or Greek, or Aramaic - it speaks in images. Metaphoric images. Symbols. And then people record those subliminal intimations in their local language with local cultural embellishments and prejudices.

From Joseph Campbell:

"For some reason which I have not yet found anywhere explained, the popular, unenlightened practice of prosaic reification of metaphoric imagery has been the fundamental method of the most influential exegetes of the whole Judeo-Christian-Islamic mythic complex. The idea of the virgin birth, for example, is argued as a historical fact, whereas in practically every mythology of the world instances have appeared of this elementary idea. American Indian mythologies abound in virgin births. Therefore, the intended reference of the archetypal image cannot possibly have been to a supposed occurrence in the Near East in the first century B.C. The elementary idea, likewise, of the Promised Land cannot originally have referred to a part of this earth to be conquered by military might, but to a place of spiritual peace in the heart, to be discovered by contemplation. Creation myths, furthermore, which, when read in their mystical sense might bring to mind the idea of a background beyond time out of which the whole temporal world with its colorful populations has been derived, when read, instead, historically, only justify as supernaturally endowed the moral order of some local culture.”
~Joseph Campbell
"The Inner Reaches Of Outer Space"

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As far as support is concerned, I support whatever appears to me to be true, and worry about where the chips fall later. But I also speak consistently and firmly against religious literalism, not only because I think it is erroneous, nonsensical, and potentially dangerous in itself, but even more because I believe it influences otherwise thoughtful and intelligent people to reject wholesale our authentic common narrative, which appears to me to be the only indelible seed of peace.

@skado Good answer thank you. And yes I too have found such metaphors in writings common to all humanity, and enjoyed the study of some of them. Especially the classical Greek and Roman stories, but the all important distinction is that those come to us from a dead culture, and are usually classified as myths, and it is very important to make that distinction between the two, since it would be impossible to promote any part of a living culture in any way without endorsing that culture. St Augustine took the bible as a deep metaphor in his personal view, and yet his influence on theology was used to justify much literalism, and many of the crimes against humanity committed by the church. While Christianity remains a living religion it is dangerous in the extreme to glorify its mythology, without using the myth word rather than religion. Especially so when there are plenty of other and often better mythologies to mine.

Moreover the fact that a metaphor is part of a collective conciousness does not mean that it is good or leads to good conclusions. In the Oedipus myth for example, Oedipus slays his father and then goes on to commit incest with his mother, fathering children who are destined to great misfortune, the central metaphor of the story being that one crime or sin places a permanent stain on the person which leads to other crimes and can be inherited, and there is no doubt that idea is a fundamental part of the human mindset to which we all instinctively respond. Yet that does not make it a good idea. And when people talk of religion rather than myth, there is a real risk of dignifying such ideas, with a name which many people revere.

Nor is it true to my mind, this is more oppinion than history, that all collective conciousness and common myth comes directly from human DNA, that ignores the fact that culture alone, will and can have a creative impact. The idea of inheritance for example is a common cultural idea, yet except at the most basic level, it could not have existed in precultural species, and therefore the over reverencing of culture even as a whole can and does promote many errors.

@Fernapple
I suppose, at some point, some of these issues just become a matter of personal preference, and must be held or discarded according to what is most meaningful to the individual. I'm not here to say my way is the only right approach. But I do think it can be mutually beneficial to share our reasoning as to how we arrive at the positions we hold. So, in that spirit, I'll add these thoughts.

To start with, I don't think all risk is avoidable. Neither Augustine nor I can control how others use, abuse, or distort our words, so the question then becomes, will I remain silent while the living culture in which I am immersed is raped by ignorance, or will I do my part, however minuscule, to illuminate the facts, even at the risk of being identified by my fellows as being a voice for the very forces I am opposing? A greater risk, in my opinion, would be to allow the opposition to dominate and command the entire social mechanism by which our species inspires itself to higher purpose.

As far as I am concerned, religion and mythology are the same thing essentially. I believe it was also Joseph Campbell who said mythology is just other people's religion. But the word religion has secular utility as well. It's not uncommon to hear phrases like "He plays golf religiously every Saturday." We all know what that means. It suggests devotion. It is simply not reasonable or tolerable to allow the ignorati to despoil useful culture that rightfully belongs to the commons. To support the healthy, innate systems of symbolic communication in no way glorifies its thieves.

Of course not everything that oozes from the subconscious is a good idea to take as a literal directive. And certainly, DNA doesn't spell the specifics of any culture; just that we will generate culture. So... since the existence of culture is a given, but the health of it is not... I see no alternative but to assume that the job of cultural reform must be accepted as a permanent maintenance responsibility. There has never been, and will never likely be, a religion-free human population. Our choice is between allowing religion to continue to fester by non-involvement, or to get our hands dirty with the task of reclaiming and renewing our "spiritual" inheritance. And in order to do that, it is the earnest and well-informed who must own its language; not the con-men and looters.

@skado True. And I am sorry to say that perhaps the only real meaningful difference between us, as often happens is mainly the use of a word, since I would always choose myth and would choke at using the word religion for fear of promoting or it.

Yet I have to say that I am not a culturalist and do not believe that there is any way to reform any culture, only the promotion of science, which I define as anti-culture offers anything worthwhile. Since the problem with culture is that there is nothing inherent in it which, leads to truth, metaphors may be truthful, but they are just as likely to be untruthful, the only thing which an idea requires to be favoured by culture, is that it is attractive enough to get itself propogated and to survive the natural selection which removes ideas which do not appeal, and that sadly tends to favour bad ideas, I do not therefore think that culture can be redeemed.

@Fernapple
That's right. I think we just like and dislike certain words, but our values are not so different. It's good that no two people are exactly alike, or the the culture would surely stagnate then! I tend to use the word culture in a more anthropological way like this description from Wikipedia"

"Culture is considered a central concept in anthropology, encompassing the range of phenomena that are transmitted through social learning in human societies. Cultural universals are found in all human societies; these include expressive forms like art, music, dance, ritual, religion, and technologies like tool usage, cooking, shelter, and clothing. The concept of material culture covers the physical expressions of culture, such as technology, architecture and art, whereas the immaterial aspects of culture such as principles of social organization (including practices of political organization and social institutions), mythology, philosophy, literature (both written and oral), and science comprise the intangible cultural heritage of a society."

"The modern term "culture" is based on a term used by the Ancient Roman orator Cicero in his Tusculanae Disputationes, where he wrote of a cultivation of the soul or "cultura animi," using an agricultural metaphor for the development of a philosophical soul, understood teleologically as the highest possible ideal for human development. Samuel Pufendorf took over this metaphor in a modern context, meaning something similar, but no longer assuming that philosophy was man's natural perfection. His use, and that of many writers after him, "refers to all the ways in which human beings overcome their original barbarism, and through artifice, become fully human."

If we think of the word 'reform' as meaning 'bringing something into some final perfect condition,' then I don't expect that to ever happen. But culture is constantly re-forming... though, like mowing the lawn, it is a job that will never be finished. And human ideas do influence which way the culture will evolve. It is the work of influential thinkers, writers, artists, philosophers, statesmen, merchants, and according to anthropological definitions, scientists, who will forge the next iteration of a given cultural norm. It will never be static for long. Our only options are to "keep mowing" or let it all go to weeds.

@skado Very interesting. Have to go now but will try to reply when I can.

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It is your god, it is your hell. It exists only in your mind and no where else. It has nothing to do with me, it doesn't affect me in any way and does not concern me at all.

True.

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No, I'm actually taking the highway to hell. It's faster.

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There is no hell

The only hell that exists is the ignorant present company of believers who voted TrumpOLINI turning up the pollution temperature of poison earth

Please don't post spoilers.😀

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Sounds like a bunch of 'covfefe' to me!

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Wow, that sounds like an abusive relationship where the husband kicks the shit out of his wife, then yells at her, “Why do you make me hit you?” “I love you.”

Exactly.

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My reply has always been with a question. Why would a benevolent god create a horrible place like hell for his/her children in the first place? Why would a god create evil?

Yes.

People invent the fictions and terrors of religion....the entire idea of a creator of something out of nothing is stupid beyond measure

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" I ll take Marriage for 800 Alex ".😂✌🏻

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"I don't believe in an invisible being that resides somewhere beyond the clouds. I chose rational thought, not magical beliefs. There is no heaven or hell. Leave me alone."

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There are many rational responses to offer, but in the end I would always be kind. An insulting response will only deepen an already tarnished view they have of agnostics/atheists. Some theists do eventually leave their faith, as many of us here did, and if you're kind they're more likely to consider your words.

Show them how good, kind and respectful people can be even without religion.

Love that response. I'd have a hard time being kind about that.

@Biblebeltskeptic Yeah, me too sometimes. Building bridges is always harder than burning them.

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I would probably say, " whatever" and go on to another subject. I don't feel defensive about my beliefs, and I don't need to defend them. I am happy to get into a discussion about religion, but, with a self important, smug christian, who feels very entitled and superior, will never listen anyway. They are just looking for a heathen to brow beat and force their beliefs on. I have no desire to convert them, and they will never succeed in converting me, so I don't supply them with a punching bag. I just let them know that I don't care what they believe, and they will never bully me into succumbing to agreeing with them, so I just shrug my shoulders and say " okay" or "whatever" and go on with my life. I have a feeling that pisses them off a little.

That's good you're not bothered by it.

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Anytime I can't think of an argument or a devastating comeback, I use the following technique:

  1. Echo the last thing they just said in a 'whiny little bitch' voice.

  2. Repeat until they go away,

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Look them straight in the eye and say "Do you really want to get into a discussion about free will versus predetermination? Because the greatest minds of Christendom have struggled to square that particular circle. A circle that, funnily enough, vanishes as soon as you take god out of the picture."

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As the song goes, "In hell I'll be in good company.'

Better than being a mindless drone forced to be happy, while loved ones are burning in hell.

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Shrug and walk away. I'm not the jackass whisperer.

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Look at him/her and say:"suck my what"?

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The last time a Faithfool pulled a similar thing on me I simply replied with " That's okay, I'll save you a seat close to the fires if you'd like."
Haven't seen hide nor hair of that Faithfool since then and, to be 100% honest, I like the space they've left behind since their departure.

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You're going to have to show me some evidence. 🙂

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My response would be which one?

The White House or Betsy deVos DEPARTMENT of Education? 2 hells on earth busy burning truth for greedy lies

@GreenAtheist haha. I was thinking more along the lines of other religions, but sure, hell is whatever you believe it to be right?

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I don't even discuss this as it is a no win situation with people who are firm believers. As far as hell, we create it for ourselves in this life time by choices we make or things we do. I do believe in hell on earth but not in the afterlife - which I should mention I don't believe in either.

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"You choose to believe in things that don't exist. I don't believe in hell,
or heaven, or your make-believe god. Leave me alone."

Or I might just cut right to the chase and tell them to "fuck off".

It's really going to depend on my mood in that moment, and whether I've
been sufficiently caffeinated when it happens.
Too many variables.

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More fun people there

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"See ya there!"

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Hmmm, I might say go f**k yourself.

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You can't reason with stupid. I would just mock the stupid hypocrite with lyrics from Billy Joel: "They say there's a heaven for those who will wait, some say it's better but I say it ain't I'd rather laugh with the sinners than cry with the saints, the sinners are much more fun. Only the good die young."

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My musings on this question always center around why would a loving, compassionate being whose FORGIVENESS and MERCY never end and are everlasting (both characterizations in scripture), who is all powerful and can destroy or create anything he wishes would even allow for a place like hell to exist or allow me to go there. If my child decided he wanted to walk on a train track while a train is approaching, I am not going to fucking watch and do nothing with my arms crossed donning an attitude of indifference and claim “I gave him a chance to avoid this. He is choosing his fate. Nothing left for me to do”.

I ask you, how can otherwise rational, intelligence people subscribe to such an awful edict???

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