Just as some men are quiet some partners are pushy or picky, they only want to do it their way. As he learns your needs he may open up, you don't know what his previous partners were like or how many really. Experience is a great teacher.

It is not right to pressure/guilt people into sex things they are not comfortable in doing.

If he isn’t used to talking or talking dirty during sex, it might take him a while to figure it out or get better at it.

i fucking love dirty talk and suggestions etc its horney as fuck xx

Once you change him into what you like I hope you're both still happy with him.

He might not be telling you what he likes/wants because hes told others what he likes/wants before and gotten negative reactions from it. That tends to shut us up and be much more cautious to the question What do you like?, especially when around someone who likes things "just so".

Don't ask him what he likes. Ask him if there's anything hed like to try that he's never done before or only been able to do infrequently, and make sure you don't laugh or appear shocked at what he says. Also make sure you try and do it - he's trying to do what you like that he normally doesn't, after all.

If a woman sent me that article after we'd had sex twice I'd at that point consider the relationship temporary at best. Hopefully that's just me and not him, though.

Have you checked for a pulse?

Do you talk during movies too? Asking for a friend.

I think I was silent during sex because I was having a wonderful time, and didn't want my focus interrupted......pure selfishness, I know.....

People have various hangups and baggage they carry from how they were raised to what they experienced in past relationships... my FWBs was not vocal at all, not even moaning, so I had a talk with him about it and now he at least tries to do spicy talk during... and if he does not, then I ask him to do so during our fun

He's vocalizing, though not verbalizing, and that's one way he's communicating in the moment what he likes and that he's enjoying himself with you. Unlike the situation in the advice column, where the man was perfectly silent, physically still, and inattentive and unaffectionate during sex, your guy is just not expressing in words that he wants something in particular.

When asked, he said he liked everything you were doing. Take "yes" for an answer. Listen to his moans if you want to know what in particular is most arousing to him. Not everyone can talk effectively while engaging in sex; some people are feeling the moment intensely and vocabulary is just not there. Maybe ask yes-or-no questions instead of open-ended inquiries, like "does this feel good?" and "do you want me to go faster?" to gauge his response.

I understand why he felt inadequate when you sent the advice column to him, because that situation is so much more dire, where the sexual act isn't just lacking verbally but rather all response and affection is absent. If I'd received that in response to my sexual performance, I too would have felt like I was inadequate and being called out for being entirely unresponsive, inattentive, and unaffectionate when it wasn't actually the case.

He says he'll try to be more verbal and that he likes that sexy talk turns you on, and I'd believe him — though he may not be especially adept at it, but he's willing to make the effort. You said, "We'll see," at the end of your post, which doesn't really sound like mere effort will be enough to satisfy you. If his attempts fall flat and he still doesn't measure up to your expectations, I think the kindest thing you can do is break it off. You shouldn't have to settle if this is something you need, but at the same time he shouldn't continually feel judged for an inability to articulate himself beyond moans and some short answers during sex. If I were him, I'd feel some trepidation about my next sexual encounter.

At least he sounds willing to give it a try. Be patient with him.

I think you are scaring him off, be careful or you will be boy-friend-less.

i just laughed when picturing myself trying to be very vocal while eating pussy, mumble mumble mumble.

I read that women are turned on by a deep male voice and that men are turned on by a high female voice so at least some moaning and growning by both should be used during sex.

I like to know the man is enjoying himself. I PREFER a little talk like, "that feels good" " goddamn" "fuck."

However, my best lover was pretty quiet. He did gasp the first time he saw my boobs. He did tell me that in order for him to cum from a blow job I would have to use my hand also.

However... in the middle of everything... pretty quiet.

noisy screaming sex with the headboard banging is great if you live in a big house, no others listening and no neighbours with recording equipment .... doing howling banshee sex is great so long as you have the bottle to cope with the breakfast table looks from disgust to admiration....and desire
Of course , the anonymity of a hotel makes it all ok ... ... hotels are good

Often I think people who first started having sex while still living in their families home learn to be quiet so they don't get caught. Especially homes with thin walls or lots of family members. Once a habit is learned it can be hard to unlearn,

That said on average it seems that men tend to be quiet, where as women vary more

If he’s anything like me, he may take a while to warm up to someone new. I’m a dirty girl, but for only ONE man, and a man I’m very connected to and in tune with. Until we get to that level of comfort, he’s not going to be getting sexy talk or porn sex from me.

Your partner may need time to build a connection. Unfortunately, showing him that article is likely to backfire and push him further away rather than draw him in.

At the risk of sounding blunt, this post feels you could be a self-absorbed lover, focusing not even on your needs, but on your wants. Try to go easy on the poor man so early in your relationship ... you don’t want to shatter his confidence in the bedroom.

I'm not usually one for talking during sex. It is one of the times in life that talking seems superfluous. I want to relax and enjoy the experience, not play at improv and come up with dialog and I'm completely ok with him being the same. Words, sparingly.

It may have absolutely NOTHING to do with you... Did he grow up in a home with thin walls, where every word/breath could be heard by others? He may have trained himself to be super-quiet rather than deal with the questions or comments of others. Enough years of that and making noise/sounds/talking would be "trained" out of him.
(the same if he was brought up in a home where there was any kind of abuse for making too much noise)

Sex is a very vulnerable experience and he may be uncomfortable with allowing himself to be even more vulnerable with you.

Take the nipple out of his mouth.

For many years I was silent during sex.

After awhile I realized how and why it is important to some women.

I felt like a complete idiot when I first started talking during sex. It felt fake to me because it was fake.

Now, it is something I just do and actually like it. I have to do it with honesty though. If not, I am not as into it.

As for the guy below; Dude I totally get eating while having sex. Fucking in front of the refrigerator is like Christmas to me.

I stay pretty silent unless something is going really wrong or really right. Talking requires a part of my brain that is best left alone during sex. It's better for everyone involved.

That article is a lot to digest. I can see where he would feel bad. May take some work on your part to help him feel.good about this part of your relationship and that you only want to make it even better.