Best. Answer. Ever.

I would enjoy visiting, often.

I thought that was W.C. Fields

And now you're wondering if that was a good idea.

@Jacar, Now why the fuck would you say something like that????

@Woodron Finally found the thread you were referring to.
i was being silly, in context with the thread.
You stated you were together 22 years. And now not.
So, i was joking about how it took 22 years to think maybe it was not a good idea.
But, i was not, in any way, inferring that there was any thing wrong with what happened with you and her.

I’m not sure if this is just a regional thing but after never hearing from a couple guys after I thought we had a good time a clicked, I sought out advice from several guy friends. They all said if you give away the goods right away.....then they do not consider you someone to date.

So much for guys not wanting to play games.

@Marcie1974 Well, I will tell you my experience - Most guys do NOT know what they want. And, yes, that can be regional. I lived in the deep south for quite awhile and that archaic way of thinking is still prevalent. It's so stupid. I would be real quick to tell them that they aren't worthy since they slept with you so quickly. Nothing but trash. LOL!

Anyway, in all honesty, I have found most non-agnostic/atheist men don't know what they really want when it comes to so-called morals - and they play some serious games. I have not had this problem with men without a religious foundation.

@tryingcake it’s so damn frustrating.

@Fanburger There are, believe it or not, a lot of women, me being one, who before they're dead below the waist, don't want to get too many "feelings going" if it's not going to "click" between the sheets.
I think there is some "broke dick mountain" mentality with expecting the rules to be different than it is for men. And just because there was an "early intro" doesn't mean there will be ANOTHER.
Some men seem to think that once you decided to take your panties off ONCE that they can stop trying. That's a good way to be shown the EXIT sign.

I also find it fascinating that some with practicing "open" relationships are so judgemental about this. smh /looking at you Jacar.

@Fanburger So allowing oneself to be genuinely attracted and acting on it, because tomorrow is promised to no one, is being an "asshole like men are"???
How much time are we going to devote to "the chase"? That's asshole stuff too, just another flavor.
Prey drive, it's a thing. Men say they don't want the "game" but they do. So be it. But if I play this "game" and it gets "blown" it's over, and especially so if just a conquest.
I don't have many super powers but ICING the bleep out of a game players & idiots is one of them.

@Fanburger and just some trivia for you. I was in a 20 year, 17 year marriage to someone I adored who I slept with on the 1st day I met him. Yes I was smitten and remained so to the day he died and after.

@Fanburger LOL so the fact I slept with my future husband the day we met makes me a "cum bucket"? ?
My non quality man was an autodidactic who could and did go anywhere & made 6 figures. He also happened to be gorgeous inside and out. I did hit the man lottery for sure.
Yes he was of no quality. LMAO
This "cum bucket" made sure he wanted for nothing ever, and more so when he became ill. I've seen princess types do less for their men. So whatever dude.

Hey everyone. I'm a cum bucket! LMAO

@Fanburger Good luck on your quest for a princess. You're going to need it.

@Qualia I can't respond to Fanburger directly because he blocked me back in December of last year on his 1st membership here however I wanted to comment on his judgemental attitude. Real freethinkers like me don't give a shit what others think. Thank my lucky stars for meeting Dan here.

@sassygirl3869 I've not blocked him yet because well.... I think our exchanges are worthwhile so far. Maybe someone, somewhere will see something they needed to hear.
There are a lot of men who think like him and it's sad. I'm sick to death of being "splained" with archaic thinking. Women have needs too and insisting on an extended chase, only to "catch" and then stop the courting is toxic.
Just because someone sleeps with you doesn't mean the "chase" is over. But for some men, that's what they believe. Look at all the married men on here looking for extra. They've stopped "chasing" their women, and their women have clamped down below the waist, so they think they're going to apply their stupid formula somewhere else and have it work. SMH

I think he's wounded and doesn't know how to escape the rubber room.

@Qualia I know some personal info-why he blocked me. Wounded yes.

I just saw the survey results... cool.

I’m not sure if this is just a regional thing but after never hearing from a couple guys after I thought we had a good time a clicked, I sought out advice from several guy friends. They all said if you give away the goods right away.....then they do not consider you someone to date.

So much for guys not wanting to play games.

@Marcie1974 understand. It's all context. You won't get the same answer if you ask young guys or any other possibilities. Everyone is different. I am saying this is not important to me. Therefore my answer is still a hell yes.

@Marcie1974 well I am still processing a bit further your insightful comment about (what it sounds like a one night stand)... Those guys went ugly quick and that was a good thing in disguise. Or, do you wish you would've hold your ground with the goods to get their attention only to find out later on their true colors and then you would've wasted more time?..... I know, its a sensitive topic on a thin line.

@IamNobody I don’t know. It just seems like I’ve really clicked with a few guys, we meet and there’s ton of chemistry, one thing leads to another and then I never hear from them again. I always try to make it crystal clear that I’m not looking for a hookup or FWB. So I don’t know if they’ just lying to get me in bed and had no intention of seeing me again? If they simply changed their mind after seeing me naked (which is what my self esteem assures me is the issue). But like I said, I’ve asked 3-4 good guy friends and they acted shocked that I didn’t already know that if I give it up right away, then I’m just someone to fuck but not date.

@IamNobody and it pisses me off to NO END that every damn guy’s profile says they aren’t into games. Yet I have to play the game that I’m not into sex in order to be taken seriously as someone to date. Wouldn’t you WANT to know you’re sexually compatible ahead of time? I don’t want to waste my time unless you have a high libido. And I want to make sure you’ve got a few kinks and actually understand and care about the fact that a woman can and wants to have a damn orgasm!!

Clearly this is a heated subject for me

@Marcie1974 I hear you. I still believe you should consider it as a good thing that you got rid of someone that clearly didn't and wasn't going to care for you. You have to keep trying until you find the one that will make you forgive and forget everything

@IamNobody I’d rather get rid of someone before I’ve had sex with them.

@Marcie1974 that's the way to go !!!!

@Marcie1974
One guy in my office was going through 'dates' at a scandalous rate. I'll call them dates, because to him they weren't really women. He wasn't treating them as anything but a number. Anyway, I'm talking stuff like 5 or 6 different women a week... With the simple goal of seeing how many he could get sexual activity out of asap. We were working nights so lunch dates, were mixed in with dinner dates... And as soon as the deal was closed he would deliver the "I don't think its gonna work out" phone call!
Working toward his 'sex by the 3rd date' line in the sand, he would lie and say anything.

I’m 44 so I guess that qualifies me as middle aged? I was married for 20+ years so I’m learning all over again. After reading comments I think it might be a bit of a regional thing as well, I live in Minnesota

I get that. Not condoning the hypocrisy. I just find where I’m located, you aren’t seen as dating material if you have sex within the first couple dates.

@Marcie1974 In what part of Minnesota are you?

@BlueWave southern