Gary's eggs are scambled.

These are the photos that Gary put on his photography website. I took these pictures from a high ridge while climbing Mt. Labyrinth in August 2016. It shows Minotaur and Theseus Lakes, and surrounding mountains. Isn't it gorgeous there? This quickly became one of my favorite hikes. It's close to where I live in Wenatchee, WA.

I'm a rescuer, I can't help it. Stray cats, stray humans, you name it. I rarely allow the rescue and dating worlds to touch, though. My one exception was a former friend with benefits who I helped get out of his pain pill addiction. Got him down to alcohol, tobacco, and weed. He later married someone else, and we're not in touch because wifey got jealous. Um, no honey, you can have him with my blessings!

I got out of the people-rescuing business a long time ago. It's a futile endeavor, and often leaves
the rescuer in need of the same.

I have not ever been asked that. It stuns me that people have such gall, it reeks of weak character, to me. At first, I didn't quite understand the rescue connotation, I thought literal rescue as in saving someone from peril, which I have done more than once; then, as I read on it almost seemed incredulous to me that a person could be so weak. I'm sorry, that's terribly judgemental toward someone I don't even know. And I do not mean to belittle the value he placed on your apparent strength of character...I just didn't realize people really do such things.

I just rescued myself from a similar situation, one ust like those that have characterized my entire 69 years until right now. YAY ME!

Holly shit... l really feel sorry for folks like this. l wonder if this stems from how they were raised, or is it really a chemical inbalance in their head.

I used to run into those types of people on kink sites. One of the many reasons why I don't frequent them or dating sites.

I think my late wife was secretly trying to do just that. She was looking for support. She probably knew she was too mentally ill to function on her own.

Lose the loser, not your problem.
I get sought out to rescue people all the time, story of my life.
A few months back a guy at work I had only spoken to about 4 times decided I shoudl let him come and live with me because he was homeless. Yeah, that's gunna happen = NOT! All because he heard I have taken in homeless kids from time to time. Big difference between 14 and 59.

Back to yours, so many scammers etc on dating sites.

No one wants to be put in that position.however I've always been the sane one amongst friends. In college I had girlfriends who would go over to a party at the boys dorm and never make it home. It was up to me to rescue them - they would send out a search person to find me and I was straight enough to navigate my way through a huge guys dorm and find my friend passed out in the hall during a beer bash party.

As far as rescuing someone emotionally - a guy in distress like @LiterateHiker's friend my I dated a guy who was a minister's son, on the conservative side but a jock on the baseball team. He had to constantly touch me. Have you ever tried eating a bowl of cornflakes while someone has their hand on your knee constantly. Drove me bonkers. Or try to watch the Wizard of Oz with a room full of people and he is belting out every song during the movie? Funny thing ran into him at my college reunion with his new 2nd or 3rd wife and he still looked the same.

Wow. I've had more, "Want to hook-up?" messages more than rescue me messages on dating apps.

When I was 16 had just learned the Heimlich maneuver was eating lunch in and the young child about 8 or 9 months old started to choke I used 2 fingers and applied this saved the kid.

It is very hard to rescue someone that is emotionally damaged. You want to help and you end up getting drug down their rabbit hole. My I suggest reading the book "Are you the one for me" by Barbara Deangelis. Great insight on types of people to avoid. It also includes keys to a successful relationship.

At one time I was probably a rescuer. Maybe it comes from inexperience and low self-esteem. Lucky for me I gained experience and hope to avoid that bridge again. If a problem arises at the beginning of a relationship imagine how it will look after time?

And you passed on this guy? I run from emotional vampires as soon as a little bit of that needy thing rears its ugly head.

Yeh everytime I have a date I rent a u haul.. just in case,

If it's someone who's a close friend or you're already in a relationship, then help where you can, but put your own mental and emotional wellbeing first at all times. If it isn't, then "not your problem." Walk on.

Spent 19 years trying. Finally had to bail when I found myself wondering if the garage rafters would hold my weight. Hate myself for abandonong her, but didn't want to do it via a rope.

bigpawbullets, "You can whip me into shape," overweight, sedentary men say. "Motivation is internal," I reply. "Only you can motivate yourself to eat right and exercise regularly. You would resent me if I nagged."

With online dating, research show that 82% of people post old photos and lie about their age, height and/or athletic ability. Most of the time, I don't recognize the man I'm meeting. Suddenly my "hot date" has aged 10 years, gained 50 lbs. and lost all his hair. As if I wouldn't notice.

It's not my fault that people lie and misrepresent themselves. I don't have to "up my game," as you put it.

All of my photos were taken in the past 1-1/2 years. My last two photos were taken in the last two weeks Many men say I look better than my photos.

I usually assume the role of rescuer and have burnt many years of my life in the position. The most sad example was after wasting several years trying to rescue a profoundly damaged (she was repeatedly raped when she was around 7 until a teen-ager by her Grey-haired next door neighbor so she was a wreck). I could fill a page with the nuances of the time with her. After she left to try to fix a 25 year younger drug addict in a different nation, I spent many hours reflecting as to why I sacrificed so many opportunities trying to fix things that were largely unfixable. My life would be much different now if I would have choosen the woman who did not need fixing.

Time is limited and if you waste time trying to fix another’s problem, you may miss out on opportunities that will not come again.

Whoa.
You need to "up your game" and simply walk away from this type. Is this a recurring theme in your dating experiences?

Even at my ripe age I am easily suckered by a pretty face and a sob story. I think I'm going to turn their life around, but they're that way for a reason and it becomes an exercise in bashing my head against a brick wall. Even though I know that, I still can't seem to stop myself somehow.

Once years ago, my daughter asked me about her "new daddy." It seems this guy had actually told my daughter that. The only contact we had was weekday meetings at the bus stop. I was very upset and the next time I saw him, I let him have it and told him to never go near me or my daughter again. The only conversation we'd had previously was on the weather!