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This is what happens when you have a country where most of the population is poorly educated, and their religion, which regards women as inferior to men, is forced onto them from an early age.

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Petter 9 Oct 12
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Country? Not all of Earth?

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Gang violence is prevalent in chimpanzees, rape is prevalent in orangutans, and infanticide in gorillas - three of our closest relations. Males top the hierarchy in all three.

Another branch of great apes and a close relation, bonobos, have the most peaceful societies. Tellingly, in bonobo societies, a coalition of females rule.

That's not to say that human males are destined to be violent. But I think that, compared to women, men are more predisposed to violence, by genetics and hormones and their effect on development. (Of course, culture and society play a huge role too.)

I truly believe that if women held the majority of political and economic power worldwide, the world would be healthier, better educated, and more peaceful and equitable.

Demonic Males: Apes and the Origins of Human Violence
By Richard W. Wrangham, Dale Peterson, 1996

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Bonobos have lived for centuries in a peaceful area of plenty, without population pressure. Chimps, their almost identical relatives, live under population pressure in an area of fewer resources, with çonstant danger. Hence, their behaviours diverged.

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Women are inferior to men only if they accept that premise.

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Lest we be accused of finger pointing, our rape culture is a much greater problem than that of Bangladesh. "According to Ain o Salish Kendra, a Bangladeshi human rights organization, 907 women or girls were raped in just the first nine months of 2020." That awful number equates to 3.3 sexual assaults every day. But in the U.S., a country with roughly twice the population of Bangladesh, a staggering 98,213 rapes were reported in 2019, or 269 per day!

Both countries need to do more, to be sure. I imagine that the physical (not chemical) castration of rapists on a broad scale would be more effective than even the death penalty--there's nothing quite so sensitive to a man than the thought of losing his balls and having to live that way.
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If one is going to de-bollock a man why not go the whole way, so that he has to sit down for a pee?

Bangladesh to introduce death penalty for rape

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In some countries , Women are stoned to death if they are raped.

Because religious leaders say it was their fault. 😠😡

@Petter Yes..Crazy isn't it

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Disappointing, humans.

Mvtt Level 6 Oct 12, 2020
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Yes indeed! Religion has a dreadful effect on America.

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Hey, what the heck do you have against America dammit!

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Women do not seem to be raping men who have less clothing on and want to attract attention. I read little of this happening. Almost none. Also, I'm not reading of lesbians where one woman cannot control herself and attacks the other one who had on less clothing. It's time to stop giving men a pass on this sort of issue. Men can control themselves also if they want and rape is not part of their nature. Reports of "she was asking for it" to explain why the woman got raped are all male bullshit. Religion dictates that the man has property and a carryover of that is women as his property. It causes some women to get raped regardless of the developmental stage of the country where the crime occurs.

Do I tell women that they look good, or look very sexy, etc? Yes, I do all the time. It doesn't mean that I follow them down the street saying these things as if I expect something and then get pissed coz they are ignoring me. Men often act like they have a license to screw you because they bought you dinner, then they get pissed coz you called it rape. No does not mean yes.

No one is arguing that point. The point is that too many religions regard women as a man's chattel.

@Petter I thought that was what I was explaining in a round about way and bringing it up into modern times as well. IDK.

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What would you think if your daughter had license plates on her car that said SEXY1 and another on her motorcycle that said SEXY2? I asked her if she wanted it to be a public announcement about her libido. I thought that was extremely tacky of her and would draw the wrong attention.

It doesn't matter what her license plates say, what she wears, how much she drinks, or where she goes. If you had a license plate that implies that you're wealthy, would that give someone license {sorry, I can't resist) to rob you. Rape is solely the responsibility of the rapist. There is no scenario in which it's acceptable to have sex with anyone without their consent.

We have a terrible habit of trying to excuse the actual criminal and blame victims in sexual assaults and other sex crimes.

@JimG Thank you for saying these things.

My license plate does not say that and yet, I have had men approach me in public to tell me how "sexy" I am and who make other inappropriate remarks.

@Gwendolyn2018 yes, me too. And if you tell them how inappropriate that comment is, you’re called a bitch for not taking a compliment!😡

@Gwendolyn2018 as a man, I have had some similar experience, though I won't claim it is equivalent. As a 20 something man, I had done some modelling, was a bodybuilder and a serious lifetime athlete. I remember walking down Boyalston Street in Boston and two guys walked by me and then turned and started whistling and cat calling. From their appearance it was clear they were gay. I am not. I laughed to myself and kept walking, not feeling any fear, but the average women doesn't have my physical attributes, which have been called scary by some. Through the years, I have been hit on by gay men, sometimes anonymously(hotel lobbies) and others by men who knew me from college and one of whom was a teacher. One was a friend, who knew I had been married and had met all 3 of my wives. Even after telling some of them, I was as straight as could be, they continued to pursue their feelings. If there is a point to my ravings here, it would be that the idea that sex makes the world go round is a concept with some weight. After reading Dawkin's, The Selfish Gene, it made a great deal of sense that genes will do anything to get replicated from one generation to the next, which involves, in many or most cases, regardless of species, sexual reproduction. So the genes that create the most amorous phenotypes(human bodies, in our case) are the most successful replicators. Of course, this does not excuse the behavior you have experienced from men, but the sex drive cause much craziness in men and women, many of whom have little or poor control over it. Then add cultural mores such as from the bible where people like Moses took many concubines after the "chosen" tribe defeated another such as the amalakites. So the god of Moses was OK with Moses and his serial raping "parties".

@Redheadedgammy I have experienced that, too! When a man tells me how "sexy/beautiful" I am, I often reply, "Yes, I know." Most the time, this upsets him and makes a remark about being conceited. I then say, "Oh, so you were lying?" Gets them every time.

@Healthydoc70 I think that your experiences are equivalent! And the serial raping meant that the Hebrews were spreading their seed, and that was the prime directive.

@JimG You are correct and yet I think it's up to women to protect themselves from unsavory, unwanted comments or gestures by the way they dress, drink, make up, and it doesn't help a woman's cause to send messages of sexual promiscuity into the nether world with licentious license plates. JMO. It's a protection thing I have due to childhood male misconduct, I can see issues with certain behaviors I would not risk.

@K9Kohle789 I am a father of a grown daughter and son, but my concerns were with her guy friends more than with strangers. I know there are risks from encounters with strange men, but if you want to focus on the greatest threat statistically, that comes from men she trusts, men who she wouldn't be worried about being alone with.

Teaching girls that their only, or even their greatest concern comes from strangers is doing them a disservice. The best we can do is learn the truth and pass it on to them; so that we can educate and arm them with facts. It also doesn't hurt to arm them with mace and a few self-defense techniques. Also, and this is the big one, make sure she understands that she should never be afraid or ashamed to walk out of a situation she's not comfortable in; even if it's with a friend. Often people ignore warning signs because they don't want to hurt someone's feelings or make a scene.

@Gwendolyn2018 You're welcome.

@JimG Trust me I did all I could on that front. She left home at 18 to move into her boyfriend (manfriend?) of 33 who lived with his mommy. I told her call me when it's over cuz I didn't have anything nice to say about the predator she spent 4 yrs with. THEN she was gay, THEN she married the gay bar owner and they have children. She's more fucked up than anyone I ever knew when I was her age. I mean really screwed up. I"m not allowed to see my grandchildren with out her perched on my shoulder I can't even speak to them on the phone. Last time I spoke to my granddaughter the husband grabbed the phone said she can't talk now and hung up on me. Nothing I ever did prompted this crap.

@K9Kohle789 A woman should be able to walk down the street wearing what she likes. In no way is that an invitation for a male to do anything apart from look at her. Men need to be held responsible for their actions and to learn to control. Telling any girl that how she dresses, acts, talks, etc is making her responsible for someone elses behaviour is wrong. Teaching people to be honest, to be fair, is important and as long as she is honest and fair then she can wear what she likes. I used to go nightclubbing in my youth and I picked up one or two men while out clubbing, if I knew that there was no way I was going home with them then I was up front and told them. It did not stop me from dancing with them, from us touching each other as much as is permissible in a public place and from kissing. I just made my intentions clear. At the end of the night I went home with my friends. If I felt like going home with them then I was clear about that. How I dressed barely changed, if guy had pursued me out of the club then my friends and I would have dealt with him. I lived for a while on a small island with a bunch of miners. The ratio of females to males was 1 to 10. I would go down the pub, flirt, drink with them but as I was being honest I made sure that I also bought rounds if I wanted a drink. Once a bloke kept buying me drinks after I said I did not want any more. I told him that I was not going to sleep with him and to forget trying to get me drunk to see if it would happen. He had to accept it and trust me I walked home alone that night. Those guys for all of their faults accepted that women had the right to choose what they did and actually respected it.

@Budgie I agree. SHOULD BE ABLE TO. Truth is--
.“Nearly 1 in 5 women (18.3%) and 1 in 71 men (1.4%) in the United States have been raped at some time in their lives, including completed forced penetration, attempted forced penetration, or alcohol/drug facilitated completed penetration."
I'm not going to ask for rape. PERIOD. Should, could, would makes no difference.
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Oops. I thought the story was going to be about the USA

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Unfortunately, true.

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Which is why starting with Reagan every Republican administration has tried to make education way too expensive for anyone with the capacity to use it, while keeping the doors open for wealthy cheaters like Trump. Giving someone like Trump a degree is like giving a degree to a blowfish.

Please don’t insult blowfish!! Lmao.

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I have read also how these men say it is the woman’s fault that she gets raped because of the way she is dressed. 😡 blame the victim seems to be their reasoning.

Precisely so. In the same way that in Saudi Arabia an adulteress is stoned to death, the man involved is given a few lashes. Bloody male orientated religion.

Men AND women say this in the USA. I have heard them say so personally and I have read many times.

@Gwendolyn2018 Sad when raped women are accused by brain-washed women.

@Gwendolyn2018 It’s Always been amazing to me that men are not held accountable for their behavior toward women they attack and rape. I have heard both men and women use that excuse about what a woman wears is the reason she’s raped. I guess men get a pass for not being able to control their urges!😡

@Petter It's even worse than men saying it.

@Redheadedgammy I have heard that many, many times. It seems to be ingrained in the culture from ancient times. People can't seem to understand that rape is about power, not sex.

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