Do you believe in love? If so how do you describe it? Emotional/ physical? For me I see it only as a chemical/ biological reaction. I have never and probably will never get it. So your answers may help enlighten me.
Love changes. As a young person it is a combination of physical and sexual attraction, a deep appreciation of the other, a desire to share time and space with the other. As one ages, and if the relationship is real, it shift toward simply appreciating the presence of the other, an appreciation of how the other completes one's own life, of simply being glad to share he same life space and be there for each other. It is not as passionate, but just as deep and real.
The beauty of having this knowledge and awareness about these hormones is that we can actively/purposely stimulate them. For example, caring acts toward another can increase oxytocin, and strengthen attachment, even with strangers. I love that we can be empowered in this way.
Romantic love I experienced three times and two ended badly. Then there is the love of your children ,the love of your pets ,the love of friends and relatives.If you have not experienced at least one of these you are very unfortunate . But if you don’t love your self (Not in a narcissistic way) I mean in a self respect way this can lead to negative consequences . I always think if you never loved a person and you were never able to love a dog ,cat or other creature then there is definitely something wrong psychologically .
I think it is scientifically reasonable to take a reductionist approach to describing love in terms of brain chemistry, etc. Nevertheless, I find it more meaningful and satisfying to embrace the sense of wonder and beauty that experiences or even thoughts of love elicit in me.
The experience of love is most powerful for me when it involves shared empathy with another person that I trust.
It's probably over-rated. Personally, I think real love--however defined--is rare. I'll settle for a good companion, a true friend. Someone I can always rely on and share my thoughts and feelings. That doesn't take love, as far as I'm concerned. Maybe with all that, true love would follow. I can't answer to that because I've never experienced it. I did miss some good opportunities though. Guess I should just get a dog.
Love is a many faceted idea with different meanings to each of us. Oh, we may share some portions of our idea of love with others, but I don't think you'll find a consensus.
That being said, remember that we are biological organisms and the biggest difference between human beings and most of the other biological entities on this planet is that we have reached a point where our brains are capable of carrying on abstract thought processes -- we call that mind and mind is who we are.
Mind is affected by everything that happens in our bodies, by external experiences, by our environment, and much more. We are social animals and that means we have a built in capacity to empathize with others, to form bonds with others. The key word is 'animal'. This thing we call love is generated by chemicals/hormones, our natural desire to be with others of our species, those hardwired tendencies that we call instincts.
What does it all mean? Well, if one bases their entire understanding of love on how it feels when those hormones are rushing along, being pushed by the instinct to procreate -- to preserve the species -- then it is a coin toss whether a lasting relationship will come of it. I think, and this is entirely personal, that to form a lasting relationship there needs to be a bond (friendship) associated with it from the beginning. Just my two cents.
I know that love exists. I experience it myself. I see it in others. It is evident in young women (18-25) in their faces when they are "dosed up to the eyeballs" with oxytocin.
In terms of how I would describe it, it depends on which aspect you are talking about.
From your post, it is just possible that you are asexual, in which case what follows may have very little meaning for you.
At its simplest, it is a strong attachment to another person who has the power to change how happy you feel.
There is often a sexual component where there is an inclination, however subdued, to have sex with the other person. People who are sexual will recognise the word orgasm" in this context.
I could go into a lot more detail about how a loving relationship works, but this is not the place to do that.
I have no idea if this will help you or not, but I hope that it helps to at least some extent.
Hard to say. I've seen love go wrong before, so whether humans were really meant to be monogamous as so many seem to believe, I can't say. But yes. I do believe that love exists. Biologically, it's an electrochemical reaction in the pleasure center of the brain that activates when you're with the object of your affection or thinking about them, etcetera.
But from a more metaphorical standpoint, it can be anything from a hindrance to the reason for being, depending on whom you ask.
Yes, I believe in love. It has had far, FAR too much impact on human history to be nothing more than sexual combustability. I submit for example, my love for my wife of twenty years. Would I leave her if she were disfigured in an accident? Absolutly not. The place she holds in my heart is so much more than the chemistry of sex or attraction (and visa-versa). I have come to have such an intellectual and emotional bond with her, that I can't imagine her NOT being part of my life. We've just shared so much, I don't have enough of "me" left to even begin another relationship of similar intensity. I had a lot of prior partners based on enjoyable friction, but none like my Kellie. And yes, we are both atheists.
One of my requirements for a life partner, is the ability to ask their opinion on anything, and to truly care about how they answer.