A drag.

That is not a casual relationship. FWB is casual and not exclusive.

Odd way to look at things. Casual to the person who said this must mean we get it on when we get it on and when apart there's no messing around. Weird oxymoron there. I think that 'casual' to most people means 'no restrictions', yet the 'monogamous' part is a restriction.

That is a contradiction! At least in my view.

Going steady, Your not living together, married, engaged or committed in any way except monogamy. If you decide to see someone else you end it. I spent 15 years with a partner but we still described it as casual. No kids or bits of paper just a hand shake. When it ended we still stayed friends.

A control freak and an enabler walk into a bar....

If a casual relationship requires an expectation of monogamy it is, in my opinion, no longer a casual relationship.

What do YOU want? Do your expectations matter? It sounds like a way to get sex without the drama that accompanies it. Musician style. IJS.

I say I have a monogamous partner. Though it's been a while. I think that really meant like "I don't want people to know I sleep with this guy."

I also had a boyfriend who wanted to break up, but I bargained my way out of it. I really wanted to introduce him as my boyfriend because he was an incredibly accomplished and attractive guy. Eventually, I was like fine, you don't have to be my boyfriend but let's stay "friends." Except I still came over every weekend and eventually convinced him we can still have make out sessions, it was ok to still be attracted to me, I'm totally a chill laid back girl. Which, that facade broke my heart and essentially he wouldn't become more attentive or proud of me. I actually regressed and wasn't the person he was attracted too in the beginning. So don't end up in that situation either.

Essentially after being single single, nobody online, no lingering exs, no future prospects, etc I had a moment to breath.

Labels are bullshit. I had to reevaluate the purpose I gained from men. What relationships are for. What companionship looks like. If intimacy amd sex meant the same thing. How to sustain my identity while coupled.

Figure out what you want them to call you, make sure it means the same thing, don't compromise. Compare what's expected of you, what you expect from them. And it is ok if these evolve as you grow and change together.

that's what I would really like as it goes. I don't care what its called. it definitely wouldn't just be about sex

A relationship "To be mutually expected not to label and possibly to keep private between the two". It's a silent voice against the social norms, it's a position of certainty through some uncertainty, unidentifiability, it's a position of less friction, minimum restriction and if executed educatedly and mindfully, a total freedom and pure love, which doesn't draw any obligation, as not required between two trustworthy, responsible and sensible adults. But if not done properly, it can be a control freak show and manipulation and humiliation.

I've never heard of it and don't think it has a term.

I would have to say though that if I was interested in a person enough to want them to be monogamous, I'd probably want something more than casual.

I'm guessing from the comments here and your responses that this is something that was proposed to you. My take: This is a person who wants to ensure YOU are monogamous while also not pressuring him for extensive together time. This statement is so fatuous that all I can imagine is that the other party uses this as a control method while not adhering to the tenets himself.

Crazy?

Not very casual.

Casual tends to imply no commitments, while monogamous implies a commitment. So, there seems to be some confusion of definitions here. I'd predict such an ill defined situation is nto likely to end happily.

"I get a little bit 'Genghis Khan'
"Don't want you to get it on
"With nobody else but meeeeeee..."

"Exclusive FWB". Someone wants STD-free sex without heavy feels. Something I once wanted in my life. Couldn't find a guy who didn't want the feels. Ugh. Humans.

Not casual...

I call it smart. In my 20's, I realized dating more than one man at a time was crazy-making for all involved. Both men wanted more of my time.

No, thanks. I don't want to expose myself to STDs and emotional anguish by dating a womanizer.

Two years ago, I met a great hiker (what a body!) who doesn't understand being exclusive. Although he lives with a woman, he actively dates and has sex with multiple women.

"Male horn-dogs are a dime a dozen," I told him.

Romantic illusion

We simply arent very well wired for monogamy. My wife and I were monogamous the first few years of our marriage. We get along much better, and have much more productive social lives since we switched to being open/poly.

Expected? Trouble! No expectations is how you approach another personality.
Speak truth about self. First into the mirror, then to others.

No longer casual.

"Casual sex" defined by Urban Dictionary:

Having sexual contact with another person with no plans on furthering a long term/committed relationship with that person.

I had casual sex with him/her because I needed sexual gratification and nothing more.
by hmm February 06, 2004

Being exclusive does not mean a committed relationship. You are not sleeping with other people.

For three years, I jokingly called a man "my f-ck buddy." Neither of us were sleeping with anyone else. To my surprise, he asked me to marry him. Although he was an extraordinary lover, I don't consider him marriage material.