@PandaCat I took an online test, and it says I'm "preoccupied". I watched the video that goes with that and apparently we are unsuitable for any kind of relationship. The best I can hope for is that reincarnation is real.

@PandaCat
Be emotionally secure, know your place in life and in the world and a good man will come along with having to hand on to anyone. Hanging-on to someone for a good life, for dreams, for just having someone in life and rushing to marry are wrong approaches. You accept a companion because you understand like him internally. Moderation and pragmatism are keys. I did the second well but not the first.

I have watched people in my 55 years of life across cultures and lands. I know what happened in my life. I have always been very pragmatic and did not follow old age customs, traditions and rules except of parents. I focused on education, financial success, being strong but I never paid much attention to building life as a whole. I failed to understand that there are stages of life. It is important to live life through stages, for example not continue going to college until 35 of age or saving too much before starting life was not important. I was wrapped up being strong and independent. I failed there. That was the other extreme.

That is why I am not a big fan of not being pragmatic. Dream, be ambitious but plan to achieve on own. Don't make your dreams dependent on others. If you do, dreaming will abort soon. There is a good match for everyone. It is up to him or her to be wise and pick the right one. Also you get to correct mistakes if done in time.