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How easy is it for you to fall in love? Let's say everything is aligned. They check all of your boxes and more. There is unbelievable chemistry and they feel the same way about you because they tell you...checked boxes, chemistry, etc.. I know you learn more about someone as you get to know them, but wow, I am falling fast.

ArtzyNerd 7 May 5
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I've fallen in love with a lot of women in the past, unfortunately it was never reciprocated. Added to that I had no female figure in my household growing up so I never knew how to talk to them.
But I imagine it has to do with similar interests and hobbies (yes I am using references from movies because that was the medium in which I understood love)...
I understand very much what you mean by falling because I too am falling for someone at my work, sadly she is married, so as much as I like her, I have to keep arm's length.

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I've fallen in love with a lot of women in the past, unfortunately it was never reciprocated. Added to that I had no female figure in my household growing up so I never knew how to talk to them.
But I imagine it has to do with similar interests and hobbies (yes I am using references from movies because that was the medium in which I understood love)...
I understand very much what you mean by falling because I too am falling for someone at my work, sadly she is married, so as much as I like her, I have to keep arm's length.

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Yea! Love without hesitation.

MrLink Level 8 May 6, 2019
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This is but one small part of getting to know someone. It's a great start!

SukiSue Level 8 May 6, 2019
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It sound like you are having endorphin lust not love at this point. Keep hold of yourself and enjoy iy but hold back and see if it turns into love. best of luck to you.

@ArtzyNerd I hope it goes well for you Kate Wolf said it best "give your self to love if love is what your after. Open up your heart to the tears and laughter...." I envy you let me know how it goes I'll listen.J

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Chemistry is the key, and if they check off all of the boxes? Life is short . Why hold back? Enjoy the ride!

hippydog Level 8 May 5, 2019
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Bonding body and mind can last a lifetime....it's worth the risk when it feels so good....just be sure your lover is not acting but is really mating for life

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Well I'm happy for you and Congrats, I would say for me if everything was lined up right it would not be to hard for me to fall.in Love.

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Welcome to the club .

Cast1es Level 9 May 5, 2019
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I don't intend to frustrate or upset. I feel that love is a tricky word. I love my coffee and my kids. For me to "fall madly in love" would probably take a year or more at the present. We all want to be liked, best foot forward and all that. I was told years ago that, we like people for their strengths and love them for their faults. I married my ex-wife 7 months into our dating. This was a huge mistake as her faults turned out to...not be appreciated. The same view was held by her towards me, actions speak louder than words. I feel that we both perceived the other not as they were, but as the person we desired them to be. Desires of mates are picture perfect, and we each fell horribly short of the others dream.

Long story short, to me love is built not fallen into. The last time I fell no one caught me. So now, if I notice myself falling I step back and figure out why it is and talk with the other party. This far it has basically ended the relationship. People seem to want that super exciting, blind jumping, all in head first stuff...I just cannot allow a repeat of what has already occurred. Maybe I am missing out, but i'd rather a roast cooked for 8 hours that melts in your mouth and is healthy then a burger and fries at the local drive in.

Phayon Level 5 May 5, 2019

@ArtzyNerd I think that is the right attitude, granted I am but a young buck (33 as of this post) my perception of the "honeymoon" phase of dating has taken quite a negative hit. All is well on the sunny days, it's the rough patches that we get to see more of a persons core, and what shade and hue it has. Best of luck to you both!

Well said @Phayon

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I fall hard and fast when the boxes are checked and there is chemistry. Sometimes even when my feelings are not reciprocated. Those end up hurting but that doesn't stop me from continuing my seemingly endless search for romance and true love.

Nukdookum Level 8 May 5, 2019

@ArtzyNerd It sounds like the start of a great relationship. Try not to lose yourself in it and enjoy the love you are feeling.

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Right now your brain is on a high, not love. Give your body time to come down, than the real feeling show up.

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I didn't think I would but it turned out to be really easy. It's a timeless sensation.

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Not easy

St-Sinner Level 9 May 5, 2019
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It was easier than most for me; I married 4 times. I lost my first wfe to cancer; so it became easier to do as Ken Keyes jr. suggested; "hold on tightly, let go lightly". Divorced the next 3; after 11 years, 2 years, and 5 years. Last one in 2006.

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I think I’ve ‘fallen’ too hard and fast in the past - end up feeling ‘trapped’ or ‘caged.’ I’m trying things differently now. Actually feeling reluctant and reserved - very odd for me! But haven’t yet completely divorced (tho separated for 2 years) plus regrouping after fire wiped out my world in Nov. I’m gonna take whatever time I need.

Justjoni Level 8 May 5, 2019
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Same here! It was totally unexpected too. Feels like kismet though.

Sacrilege Level 6 May 5, 2019
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If it’s real, it will not suffer from going slow. I think if you have that intense falling feeling, it’s good to move slowly enough to get some air in the situation. When you’re ravenous for someone, recognize that that’s lust, infatuation, etc. and keeping the pace moderate will only serve to keep everyone from making drastic decisions. This is not to say you’re not falling in love. Just that you’re better served by walking into it rather than running into it. Plus, if it’s real, giving it some space will only make it that much sweeter when you can get close.

@ArtzyNerd If your eyes are open, have a ball!

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It has been so long since I've had that experience I really don't know. I don't think I can easily just because I've had 10 years of scammers and insincere men, it is going to take a while to earn my trust and my love.

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