So what can we do about this? I was fine and then, after 2 years it hit me. Will another solve the problem or will we keep pining for the past? Sometimes being socially active helps. Luckily, that is not a problem here. But is it enough in the long run? Time and effort are what is needed.
Because only another widow understands what it is to be widowed, I started a monthly/weekly, dinner/lunch group. It was one of the best things I have ever done since becoming a widow. We go to fine dining restaurants and also burger joints, we do day trips and potluck picnics, photographic safari’s, dinner boat cruises or just a walk in the park. Nothing is off limits conversation wise, because there is a lot of wisdom in our group of women and no judgement. All I did was place an ad in the local online newspaper and now there are ten of us.