Marionville, the relationship had neen strained due to an incident from 2000,and was further damaged because of my behavior at her mother's funeral 5 years ago
I behaved poorly both times,and while I only regret that I caused pain to Sonia
As you may well imagine, this situation has upset me greatly. As for now, I will concentrate on regaining my footing,and trying to make the best of the situation.

Some people are assholes.

I understand your frustration with her family. I was a very active member of my ex's family. Since I really had very few family members his extended family became mine for a long 20 years. I called his mother mom and my sister-in-law's became my sisters. After he betrayed our marriage and destroyed me for a spell in the beginning, his family was at a loss of words and failed to contact me. It took a while because they just didn't know what to say to console me. The wrongdoer was their blood brother and they obviously couldn't just write him off. After the initial shock was over they did come around and contact me. But by that time I had Hardened to make sure, in order to survive and heal, I could erase all memories of him which unfortunately meant his family and friends as well. It was kind of too late. It's an all-around sad situation. ? I am very sorry that your Sonia has passed.

such family dynamics are not so uncommon

I understand some of what you're going through. My husband died 1 week after his cancer diagnosis. I haven't heard from his 3 kids since. I even sent them some of his things and I didn't hear if they received it or a thank you. I guess they don't feel they need to show they like me any more or ????

So sorry you are being ignored by your family when you need them most. Do you have a sibling you can talk to about this issue It's difficult to heal old wounds within families,but it seems this may be an opportunity for you and your family to take a shot at trying.

So sorry for your loss and am glad that your own family and friends have been there for you. It must be quite hurtful that her family has not given you any support but without knowing the details of the relationship you and Sonia had with her family it is hard to understand why they have been so distant. We can’t make people do things, much as we sometimes wish we could and maybe it is just thoughtlessness on their part. Cherish your own close relationship with your own friends and family and take comfort from knowing that they care for you. Keep carrying on....it is all we can do.

I've learned to never count on common decency from any human, as so many simply don't care. I am sorry for your loss and hope you will embrace the people who count in your life, ie; family and friends, and turn away from those without compassion or common decency. Love and hugs to you.