My hubby's sisters were and are good people. A little quirky perhaps, but after 42 years of being part of the family they felt and continue to be a part of my network of friends. There is one that has always felt a little more distant than the other, but I think she tried harder to be supportive after JC passed, so I have kept the connections open. Just let them grow farther apart.

Yes let go. I let go of my hubbys siblings. We were together 13 yrs and married for almost 8 and some I never met but a few as they were not close. But they sure tried to come out of the woodwork after he passed . Makes me sick. I Let them come to his Celebration of life because my hubby would not have wanted conflict in front of his friends ect . And I did that for him. I never want to speak or hear anything about them ever again.Glad there is a distant Aunt and a niece you can talk to.

My husbands family was great except one sister. My husband was the only father my daughter knew and he raised her as his own. Everyone else in his family said "this is Lees daughter". Sister always said step daughter. So when we wrote his obit we listed his family as brothers (technically they are all half siblings) but his sister we listed as his half-sister. An aunt remarked that sister was pissed about it. My reply was f*** her. We never have to speak to her again.

I understand how families can screw up things for a supposedly outsider. When my 2nd partner and I were breaking up I heard "blood is thicker than water" so many times I wanted to scream. This was the 2nd time family got involved and both time I came out ahead When my late partner was dying her family came from Vancouver BC and tried to stir things up (her sister-in-law couldn't stop crying, her brother kept challenging her signing on to the DwD program and a Niece kept telling her, miracles do happen. This was the moment I had discovered I had found (but then lost) the right person because she kicked them out and made them return to Canada.

I've found it is always good to walk away from people who show you no respect. Sending hugs your way.