it boils down to: you learn to live with it or it controls you.

I just watched this for the second time and feel as though this is the best explanation of how my grief feels. She didn't say anything about what you should do or how you should feel about your loss. She helped me to understand that you don't move on, you move forward in what life you have left. Never forgetting your person but knowing they will always be a part of you even if you're fortunate enough to find love again. She did this with a little humor thrown in, which I personally liked.

No “ one size fits all” . This applies with grieving as with everything. We all manage it in our own way, the only thing that we have common is the fact that we have been bereaved and are feeling grief. I am determined not to let myself be controlled by it, and in my case I keep trying to remember the positives of having them for the time I had, and not on the negatives of their loss. Btw, yesterday was my son’s birthday...would’ve been 42, had I not lost him in January. I knew it would be a difficult day so I spent it out with my brother and sister in law, visiting new places in and around Colchester, a town I am unfamiliar with, and it distracted me for a large part of the day. My husband died in 2010, and I no longer feel grief, only a sadness that he cannot enjoy things such as seeing our grandchildren grow into fine young boys.

Thank you I much needed to hear this.

Thank you for sharing that.

Still grieving after 8 months,however,the dark clouds are lifting just a little bit.Just maybe there are less emotionally troubling times ahead

Thank you for posting this. I needed this today.

move on or move forward. we're splitting hairs., we learn to handle grief over time. nora makes a living with this minimal difference howevera