Is it OK to lie on your profile in order to get a date? Some people claim they lie because they don't want to be judged for their circumstances. Personally I think its disgusting to lie and manipulate people when you know sooner or later the truth will come out. How do you feel about lying for romance?
I'm always pretty up front and honest about who I am and what I'm about. I absolutely don't see the point in hiding something, getting emotionally attached, and have it come out later to find out it's a deal breaker.
Ask yourself this.... If it's something you feel you need to hide/ lie about to this particular person because you fear they won't accept it, should you really be considering dating them in the first place?
If there is any thought to meeting a person from the site it's absurd to lie. It's obvious that you did and why would anyone trust you at all after that?
If I find out someone has lied to me, we're done. I've been lied to before, and nope will not do that again. I keep it truthful, just easier to keep things straight that way.
There is no need to lie when you are trying to find a date online, this is where you can put in what you actually want in a date and see if it is actually out there. Now I can understand holding some stuff back until you meet in person, but if someone asks then you need to be honest. What you may think is a red flag for someone, that might be what they are attracted to and they are looking for it...but then you tell what you think they want to hear and you just missed out...
I voted "A Relationship That Starts On A Lie Has No Future". Be yourself and you can worry less about rejection later or worse yet, going through marriage and then being asked for a refund later. I heard that can be very expensive.
Not exactly lying, but there are a handful of scenarios where a half-truth would be acceptable. Some situations are too complicated for a profile and better left to a face to face conversation on the first date.
I keep saying to people "If you don't lie, how the hell are you supposed to lead an honest life?" Everybody lies about something to someone sometimes and usually more than most of us realize. So sure, it depends the lie. There's good as well as bad lies.
People lie when some aspect of their life is not what they want it to be. I've found giving into that compulsion just makes things uglier and more complicated.
Better to expose your own warts up front and be rejected on that basis than to be discovered to be a liar and rejected as a liar and inherently not trustworthy.
To the people that voted for "relationships built on lies have no future", some religions are over 5000 years old. I agree lies are bad and destroy relationships but bullshit can get a long way.
I am who I am and I am not a liar nor do I want to date a liar.
I met a man who seemed like a great fit on his profile. We had a nice dinner and conversation. Near the end of dinner he confessed that he had lied on his profile that he was actually four years older. I told him I had a wonderful evening but I had to go.
Why? Because I am honest on my profile.. even about my weight! If you hope to develop mutual respect you cannot start out with dishonesty. If he was going to lie about something insignificant as age, what about other issues?