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Is it OK to lie on your profile in order to get a date? Some people claim they lie because they don't want to be judged for their circumstances. Personally I think its disgusting to lie and manipulate people when you know sooner or later the truth will come out. How do you feel about lying for romance?

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exilesky 7 June 14
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I'm always pretty up front and honest about who I am and what I'm about. I absolutely don't see the point in hiding something, getting emotionally attached, and have it come out later to find out it's a deal breaker.
Ask yourself this.... If it's something you feel you need to hide/ lie about to this particular person because you fear they won't accept it, should you really be considering dating them in the first place?

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I don't approve under any circumstance.

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If there is any thought to meeting a person from the site it's absurd to lie. It's obvious that you did and why would anyone trust you at all after that?

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To lie is a breach of trust and a betrayal of self. Wish it was rarer...

StJohn Level 6 June 14, 2018
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Explaining my "other" vote: I don't expect total honesty from others so no biggie if they lie. I expect honesty from myself so not okay for me to lie on my profile.

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If I find out someone has lied to me, we're done. I've been lied to before, and nope will not do that again. I keep it truthful, just easier to keep things straight that way.

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There is no need to lie when you are trying to find a date online, this is where you can put in what you actually want in a date and see if it is actually out there. Now I can understand holding some stuff back until you meet in person, but if someone asks then you need to be honest. What you may think is a red flag for someone, that might be what they are attracted to and they are looking for it...but then you tell what you think they want to hear and you just missed out...

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I'm a brutal honesty type of gal. I always pick ugly truth over a pretty lie.

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I voted "A Relationship That Starts On A Lie Has No Future". Be yourself and you can worry less about rejection later or worse yet, going through marriage and then being asked for a refund later. I heard that can be very expensive.

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I would always prefer to hear an ugly truth over a pretty lie. I believe if both people want to overcome something, anything is possible....through communication and honesty. But what do I know. Guess that’s why I’m single lol.

KK-okc Level 5 June 14, 2018
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I recently ended a 20+ year friendship over a lie. Honesty is important.

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Not exactly lying, but there are a handful of scenarios where a half-truth would be acceptable. Some situations are too complicated for a profile and better left to a face to face conversation on the first date.

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I keep saying to people "If you don't lie, how the hell are you supposed to lead an honest life?" Everybody lies about something to someone sometimes and usually more than most of us realize. So sure, it depends the lie. There's good as well as bad lies.

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People lie when some aspect of their life is not what they want it to be. I've found giving into that compulsion just makes things uglier and more complicated.

Better to expose your own warts up front and be rejected on that basis than to be discovered to be a liar and rejected as a liar and inherently not trustworthy.

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To the people that voted for "relationships built on lies have no future", some religions are over 5000 years old. I agree lies are bad and destroy relationships but bullshit can get a long way.

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I am who I am and I am not a liar nor do I want to date a liar.

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Once I know you have lied to me about anything, even something inconsequential, there is no reason for me to ever believe anything you ever say; and every reason to assume that anything you say could be a lie.

Deb57 Level 8 June 18, 2018
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There's information I wouldn't reveal in my profile that I would in more private communications, but an outright lie gives you some idea as to their integrity at the onset.

JimG Level 8 June 18, 2018
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If a man lies for romance he is just trying to get laid. If a woman lies for romance it is usually about money.

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Lying is what children do.

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You can't survive much on lies

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Wouldn't it be preferable to tell the truth and find the person who is OKAY with your truth? Wouldn't you be happier with that person, instead of the person you lured in on false pretenses, with whom you'd have to continue lying to, in order to keep?

Deb57 Level 8 Oct 27, 2018
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I met a man who seemed like a great fit on his profile. We had a nice dinner and conversation. Near the end of dinner he confessed that he had lied on his profile that he was actually four years older. I told him I had a wonderful evening but I had to go.
Why? Because I am honest on my profile.. even about my weight! If you hope to develop mutual respect you cannot start out with dishonesty. If he was going to lie about something insignificant as age, what about other issues?

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