I'm with you. Sometimes, I start questioning whether my decision to be done with the pursuit of another relationship should be reconsidered.
Then, I look through profiles, start thinking about logistics (which are really NOT my friend), start thinking about exactly how I would navigate another emotional minefield, and I'm right back to "fuck that noise".
I'm really appreciative of the peace and quiet.

That's hilarious.....and maybe just a little too true for many of us. I think at some point we come to value friendship, companionship, camaraderie more than that constant and sometimes elusive desire to find that perfect love, hot sex, etc etc. Some seem to forever love the adventure of the hunt....others have no problems having sex the way they pay their taxes (quarterly). I guess that's what makes us all such interesting creatures, eh?

I suspect that this is the problem with dating sites.
Those who are desirable (as dating "material" ) aren't that interested for whatever reason(s) while those actively seeking a "date" aren't particularly "dateable". Now, this is a vast generalization, so no attacks, please!!!! My ego is VERY delicate!

It has been a while for me. It seems like so much work! And I am a busy girl who is not looking for more work! I have been single for a long time. Happily I might add. I guess if it happens it happens. I am open to it.

Since I stopped drinking every night online dating is very boring these days ....

I think my number one rule is keep it simple..... which does everything but rule out dating and makes a relationship seem like begging for complexities

I know what you're saying. I take spells where I'm super interested in dating and others when I couldn't care less. I guess both are a byproduct of being single for so long.

I've never really gone the dating route, I just met people in the course of my daily life and things developed one way or another from there. I'm not going to say it's exciting or an active pursuit...

To paraphrase Murphy McManus: I'm sort of like 7-11. I'm not always doing business but I'm always open.

Me too. I'm not separated very long, almost three years, but in that time I think I have got very selfish and set in my ways.

I'm glad I'm not the only one lol

I am not a dating site person but I know the felling, you go and within minutes you look for the reset button or the escape clause. Or you reach the bed and it is just not there, not your type of lovemaking. Harder when you are not intoxicated. It is a lot of hard work, shouldn't be but... the question of.... "What and who am I suppose to be today for this person I know I will never get to know in deep terms?" Funny the last woman I felt really comfortable with was as honest as it could be, she said "lie to me tonight". Impressed me so much that I wrote the song... "Bed of lies". But do not give up hope soccer mom!

Ya gota put on the costume, paint the face, & adopt the vertical lambada. It is just too exhausting.
One person here is in the throws of amour. He is in it for less than 4 months. After 3 years , then we shall know.

One thing about dating, it's expensive. It's also a time sink. I can go casual for a while, like let's go get some drinks. But I don't want another ltr, or to hear someone critique my clothes, lifestyle, hair, friends, or food choices. So I can relate, red.

No advise will be given.... Just oughta say something and take the points ???

I look at it as looking for someone who likes to hang out and talk. Maybe go see a movie or go listen to some music. But no "official" date. Let's just get to know the real us.

Too much baggage and expectations come with "dating".

Just fly to England, look me up and be prepared to get your feet back on the ground.

You can have the other bedroom and you don't even need to do any housework.

I can relate-although I’m starting to venture out of my solitary comfort shell.

I've used just about all the dating sites,some free,others membership,lot's of interest,mostly scammers,no dates though,many women are too far away Lost wife to lung cancer 10 months ago,not replacing her after 27 years,but great sadness at night,when the memories come....

Lol this is the same for me.

The words that come up for me are "discouraged" or "disillusioned." It's such a crapshoot.

Since I so rarely even get a response, let alone a date, it hasn’t been an issue.

If it were easy I would have done it by now.

Not a bad disposition. When/if someone inspires action on your part, chances are better that the effort will be worth it. Good luck.

Profiles on dating sites are just cheesy, including mine. We know in our hearts and minds that self-description is far from the truth. Wish we could count on it, but in reality we just can’t.