Every time I think I'm ready to start dating...
I look at profiles on dating sites and realize I was wrong.
I think I just need to admit that my interest level can be described as lazy. I'd like to date but I'm just not willing to put all that much energy into it. lol
Note: This is just me commenting, I am not seeking advice on how to "change".
I'm with you. Sometimes, I start questioning whether my decision to be done with the pursuit of another relationship should be reconsidered.
Then, I look through profiles, start thinking about logistics (which are really NOT my friend), start thinking about exactly how I would navigate another emotional minefield, and I'm right back to "fuck that noise".
I'm really appreciative of the peace and quiet.
That's hilarious.....and maybe just a little too true for many of us. I think at some point we come to value friendship, companionship, camaraderie more than that constant and sometimes elusive desire to find that perfect love, hot sex, etc etc. Some seem to forever love the adventure of the hunt....others have no problems having sex the way they pay their taxes (quarterly). I guess that's what makes us all such interesting creatures, eh?
I suspect that this is the problem with dating sites.
Those who are desirable (as dating "material" ) aren't that interested for whatever reason(s) while those actively seeking a "date" aren't particularly "dateable". Now, this is a vast generalization, so no attacks, please!!!! My ego is VERY delicate!
I've never really gone the dating route, I just met people in the course of my daily life and things developed one way or another from there. I'm not going to say it's exciting or an active pursuit...
To paraphrase Murphy McManus: I'm sort of like 7-11. I'm not always doing business but I'm always open.
I am not a dating site person but I know the felling, you go and within minutes you look for the reset button or the escape clause. Or you reach the bed and it is just not there, not your type of lovemaking. Harder when you are not intoxicated. It is a lot of hard work, shouldn't be but... the question of.... "What and who am I suppose to be today for this person I know I will never get to know in deep terms?" Funny the last woman I felt really comfortable with was as honest as it could be, she said "lie to me tonight". Impressed me so much that I wrote the song... "Bed of lies". But do not give up hope soccer mom!
One thing about dating, it's expensive. It's also a time sink. I can go casual for a while, like let's go get some drinks. But I don't want another ltr, or to hear someone critique my clothes, lifestyle, hair, friends, or food choices. So I can relate, red.
I've used just about all the dating sites,some free,others membership,lot's of interest,mostly scammers,no dates though,many women are too far away Lost wife to lung cancer 10 months ago,not replacing her after 27 years,but great sadness at night,when the memories come....