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First Date Question: "How aware are you of your traumas and suppressed emotions and how are you actively working to heal them before you try to project that shit on me?"

AwarenessNow 8 July 29
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Damned good and relevant question, but you would drive a lot of potential suitors away with that one. Perhaps that is just as well.

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This is why I don't date much anymore

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good luck with that line !

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The date must have been a hoot! ?

Livia Level 6 July 29, 2018
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Each of us carries "Baggage",past relationships,upbringings,work, personal habits,likes, and dislikes.Now to see if all the various parts match up,the smooth mesh of a finely tuned high speed gearbox,running for many years with little maintenance.

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Holy shit!
What happened to: "Yowza! She's HOT!"
I'm going to push my luck and ask her out!!!

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That's brilliant!

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If you don't want a 2nd date that is probably a fantastic question

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Silly, Random and Fun? Ok it's random? Baffled.

Seems like group therapy negativity... Or something?

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Geeze I try not to be into drama and crisis. But it sounds like you got burned fairly bad. So I guess you may now be in a position to have to works out a few negative kinks. Sometimes life truly sucks.

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Assuming there is shit.

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Yeah you might want to hold that one for the third date or so.

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What kind of results have you had asking that question?

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Ha! I wish we could be so straight forward!

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If they were aware, would they still be projecting?

Pook Level 5 July 30, 2018
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Having read all the responses, I'm not sure whether this was intended to be tongue-in-cheek, or serious.
If the first, I think on a first date any attempted humor in this question would be missed. If serious, I agree with the response that suggested walking out.
THEN I read the response about wasting on women who don't want sex. Is that what this is really about? I think it's fair to determine very early on what sort of relationship might be possible before anyone wastes their time or other resources on a relationship that doesn't meet their criteria. Although that's very personal, I still think it's fair game and should be asked in the conversations that precede the first date.

@HotAlutiiq Nor should you be. I think both parties to a new relationship should share their ultimate expectations very early on. Clearly if you get a horrified reaction to bringing up the idea that sex would need to be part of the relationship, you move on.

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I wonder how aware are you to being with

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That seems more like a third or fourth date question to me. 🙂

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I've got enough to do, dancing with my own demons to make some other broken soul my pet project. Learn to cha-cha with your own demons, leave me out of it.

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Maybe a 3rd date question unless I know she's just as obsessed with wacky thought experiments and deep conversations as I am

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