I recently joined a couple of other free dating sites, and I am quite open about being atheist. When someone looks appealing, of course I check out their profile. What do y'all think about my automatic deletion of anyone's message if their profile says "Christian", "Baptist", or whatever, under religious beliefs? Am I being intolerant, or just time-effective?
No, only the ones that say "If you don't LOVE JESUS we won't get along". Some people list an affiliation out of habit but don't care too much about it.
Or when they're asked about favorite books, "The Bible"... Oh, I read quite a lot of fiction as well
@Wendy965 Expand your search range 1200 miles, and we can "like" each other. ?
Well religion is such a big deal for a lot of religious people I would say that is just being efficient
I think you are doing the right thing, efficiency, I had an experience, actually a couple, one guy I was chatting with, told me, it would never work, because I was an Atheist, then another time I went out with a guy, once, we went to visit his sister or brother, I don't remember and when we discovered we had Atheism in common, he never wanted to see me again, his loss !
I think it’s time effective in most cases but for myself I will also consider political bent because extreme conservativism will get a very quick no from me. I don’t do willful ignorance very well and in my experience, most extremists willfully embrace their ignorance in the name of their god.
You might be automatically deleting your soulmate.
I would not date a religious person. I also don't understand why a religious person would want to date an atheist.
To coin a phrase, there are some fine people who hold religious beliefs. But we each have different levels of tolerance for them, so you should keep doing this if yours is low. I'd do it too if someone so identified with religion that they felt compelled to put that in a dating site profile. I also eliminate people who say they don't drink, that saves a lot of time too.
I eliminate people who say they drink more than one drink socially. Recent studies now show there's no safe drinking limit. Better to take cannabis oil..it cures almost anything, no hang over or addiction, and you still feel happy and peaceful.
@birdingnut we all have our priorities.
I wouldn't dismiss them just because of that. Some people just want to be accepted, to fit in and don't really take religion all that seriously. Some feel pressured to go along with the crowd. Maybe your freedom of spirit is just what they are looking for? You could just say, I'm not interested in religion, and see where that goes.
There are many scammers out there on those date sites I have had run into a slew of them from Ghana Africa. I put agnostic in my bio and the religious still try click they like you. On Zooks and POF I a fairly certain I make it clear I am agnostic. The auto-delete would be good though.
I don't think I would automatically delete them, I would say, "due to your religious beliefs, I don't think we'd be a good match". They can try to argue their case and you have the option to hear them or ignore them. OR, they'll just accept your response and move on.
There are a lot of fish in the sea . If it's not what you want , you're most likely making things more efficient and less painful for yourself .
Do regular fish eat athiest fish or do they discriminate.
@Healthydoc70 Personally , I don't eat fish at all , if I can avoid it . But I have noticed some strange fish on the back of other folk's cars .
It wasn't TOO terribly long ago that I might have listed myself as Christian. Growing up in OK, that was the default position, even if you weren't religious. So I expect there are plenty of people that don't give religion enough thought to label themselves as Atheist or Agnostic, but when asked "what religion are you?" They just say Christian without thinking much about it.
Of course though, I wouldn't waste time with anyone that actively talked about god, church, faith, etc.
Depends on how important belief is to you. There's a lot of arm chair christians out there that will put it on a form but never attend church and not defend their faith.