I recently joined a couple of other free dating sites, and I am quite open about being atheist. When someone looks appealing, of course I check out their profile. What do y'all think about my automatic deletion of anyone's message if their profile says "Christian", "Baptist", or whatever, under religious beliefs? Am I being intolerant, or just time-effective?
If their profile indicates they only want to date Christians, then certainly delete. If they say they are open to any belief
or non belief, I would suggest giving them a closer look. If
you are happy to just date with no particular interest in marriage, I would say go for it, regardless of their religious beliefs. Several years ago, I had a year long relationship with a Jesus freak, and it was great. We just agreed to side step religious discussion and focus on fun. I actually suspect that our different existential views may have heightened our sexual chemistry......at least in my kinky little mind.
It wasn't TOO terribly long ago that I might have listed myself as Christian. Growing up in OK, that was the default position, even if you weren't religious. So I expect there are plenty of people that don't give religion enough thought to label themselves as Atheist or Agnostic, but when asked "what religion are you?" They just say Christian without thinking much about it.
Of course though, I wouldn't waste time with anyone that actively talked about god, church, faith, etc.
Saving yourself a lot of wasted time, I would say. Unless you're on the fence about what you believe and could entertain the idea is of faking belief for his family's sake, unless that person opens the subject in a positive way in the early interaction, say a sweet goodbye.
"Christian" is a pretty broad label and doesn't necessarily mean "fundamentalist" or even particularly "believer". It may be more of a cultural association. So it could be needlessly limiting to auto-delete Christians. Baptists, yeah, go for it. That's a different story.
If you were in the Bible Belt then Christian almost = Baptist. In Colorado, it depends more on urban vs rural.
If you're meeting plenty of people I'd say don't change your strategy but if you want to stretch a little you might, who knows, find yourself a Episcopalian who is for all practical purposes an atheist who either doesn't know it or doesn't like the social approbation that goes with the label.
Look, we all have things we find attractive, and things we find repulsive. We should not judge each other by what those things are, just accept that what some folks like or hate is going to be different than your likes or hates.
Some men love blondes. That's fine. Some women wouldn't date a short man. Also fine. I could not date a religious woman. I find that terribly unappealing. And that's fine, too.
I can't imagine why you would waste time considering someone you know you don't like. That makes no sense.
I quit POF because of the religious freaks. I tried dating one once and couldn't tolerate his religious and political views but most of all his hypocracy sickened me. You're right. Don't waste your time. They are out to evangelize but still wanna fuck.
To coin a phrase, there are some fine people who hold religious beliefs. But we each have different levels of tolerance for them, so you should keep doing this if yours is low. I'd do it too if someone so identified with religion that they felt compelled to put that in a dating site profile. I also eliminate people who say they don't drink, that saves a lot of time too.
I think it’s time effective in most cases but for myself I will also consider political bent because extreme conservativism will get a very quick no from me. I don’t do willful ignorance very well and in my experience, most extremists willfully embrace their ignorance in the name of their god.