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I recently joined a couple of other free dating sites, and I am quite open about being atheist. When someone looks appealing, of course I check out their profile. What do y'all think about my automatic deletion of anyone's message if their profile says "Christian", "Baptist", or whatever, under religious beliefs? Am I being intolerant, or just time-effective?

Wendy965 5 Aug 29
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I use a somewhat less rigid filter. It applies to the profiles that include God-fearing, Jesus-loving or church going in the essay section. If I filtered anyone who picked Christian in the Religion: drop down, that'd be about 90%.

Filtering out 90%, I'm trying to figure out if that's a good thing or a bad thing! But YEAH great point, especially considering I work 2nd shift, that probably eliminates a good 80% of matches anyway... unless one is cool with only getting together on the weekends. It's been quite a while since I had a sexual relationship but as I recall I prefer more frequency 🙂

@Wendy965 Lately I could filter 100% with no loss except time

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Its ususally a waste of time, now sometimes those sites kinda corner you into listing a source of religion, so I would be curious as to their view on that, esp if its christian, immediately find out if theyre trumtarded or not,lol and I would find out right away just to not waste time, you would think a christian would hate trump, but this hasnt been my expierence so far! Lol I just can't do christianity or right of center,, but I can say this is the only site im active in thats considered a "dating site", but I consider it a more of a community type of site, and thats why I enjoy alot of the topics and groups, Ive always felt amongst friends here,and know if it lead to more, then religion issues are definately not gonna be an issue or politics,, idk, is there a atheist for trump group here? ive never checked,lol

Interesting question, ARE there any atheists in favor of trump? I have family and friends who are idiots, er I mean trump supporters, and these are people I also know to be religious nutcases. I don't have enough atheists in my circle to know if left-wing is another of our common denominators...

@Wendy965 id say most likely, though i do remember a few trumlards in the beginning complaining this site was too liberal,, theres always a yellow pea in every bushel,lol

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Having had more than one relationship end because I refused to buy into her religious beliefs, I am with you on automatically ruling out anyone with religious tendencies, other than possibly Buddhist.

I’ve been dating a Witch, when her magic doesn’t work she throws her hands up and says, “I gave it my best shot”. Or some variant to save face... I am amused by the need to make excuses for her beliefs.. she gets that I think it’s silly, at least she doesn’t believe in God so I can deal, the sex is good.

@ArdentAtheist, my last girlfriend was pagan. I might consider dating another one.

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Why would there be an issue with not wanting to share your bed with religious types? It's going to be a source of conflict in the relationship. People choose who to date by physical characteristics that a person can't change(height, skin color, country of origin, ethnicity). Why not choose your partner over that which they can change(religion, health habits, cleanliness)

Excellent points, Rick! So true, I wouldn't date someone who does drugs regularly, or doesn't bathe or exercise. Religion IS something that one chooses to follow or not, even if one THINKS they have no choice because they were raised with it. People are raised by physically abusive parents, doesn't make it right...

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Is the only option . I don't give believers of any god or faith or whatever any time of mine . I just can't date stupid ? I am not the smartest but at least not the stupidest . No .

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I do too, but I know at least couple of friends who are Chatholics and they are truly good people. Liberation theology, I hope, is still a thing.

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In the vacuum of pure theory you might be a little prejudicial and short-sighted.

In the reality of our world, you're making the smart call in terms of probability. The odds of finding a religious person with whom a romantic relationship will be successful are pretty low. It's not impossible, but it'll be the exception more than the rule.

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If it's free, than why not. Be aware of dating sites that charge, you can end up paying for the same thing that you can get for free, I recommend "bumble" "tinder" for the best of the free sites, and "baddo" for chat and dating.

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I think it’s very important to be straight forward and honest up front. I think what you’re doing is very practical. I see no problem. Welcome to the site!

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As many hovers as I show , compared to the number of actual visits , I'd have to say , most only stop in long enough to view my photo , then leave like a bat out of hell .

Their loss

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If people of religion only want to date people of the same religion you should have our freedom not to date religious people.

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I am so happy that I don't have to date anymore.

BTW: when I first met my wife she identified as a christian and republican. She was like me, an ex-Catholic with major problems with the church. She was a member of some positive-thinking new agey church that was "christian" but... not really. She knew from the start that I identified as agnostic and that I hated ALL religions (more or less) equally. Religion is rarely an issue in our relationship and since we have been together she is much less christian and much less republican. Although, I give credit more to Donald Trump than to me for coming around to my point of view of vis a vis republicans.

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If you intent to raise your kids atheist you should automatically delete them.

On my dating profiles I say I am atheist and that I don’t intend to have religion in my personal life.
There was this one time I was on a date with a guy and at the very end he said hey I am Christian is that a problem? This is a guy that had supposedly read my profile. I said no, but I intend to raise my kids atheist, is that a problem? He said no, we can still be friends.
The point of this story is that in some level there has to be shared values in a couple that isn’t as much of a requirement with friends. Both atheist and christians realize that. Even though that particular man had to be faced with a hypothetical scenario to realize it himself.

Myah Level 6 Aug 29, 2018

Friends and family vs a romantic partner, that's a big difference! We probably choose some of our friends as other atheists, but friends thru work and family could be either/or. I can nice if an extended family member wants to say grace before a meal, but I don't want to have to muffle my eye-rolling if a partner was to do the same.

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I wouldn't even consider anyone who is religious.
I've been that way for decades, even before I knew I was agnostic because I found that religious men are typically undereducated, uninformed, non-curious about anything, low IQ, and misogynistic.

Especially when you see that their favorite/only book read was the Bible... really? The plot twists are inane, imagery is repetitive and violent (for something supposedly preaching 'love'😉, and as you mentioned, the biggest fans of this book aren't interested in reading anything else :/

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I do the same. Is time efficient. Of course, when you put athiest down, as do I, you are immediately eliminated from 99% of other's consideration. Athiests are a loathed minority. You don't believe in the invisible man? You must be a bad person? Actually , one of my nick names is BAD BOB. I love it.

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It's your life and your personal preferences. If you are not interested in dating someone who has religious beliefs, then you are being time effective.

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I can separate someone that has religious beliefs but if they say something like “it’s a big part of my life” or something like that, I cannot date someone like that. I don’t judge. I just want someone like minded.

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I rarely respond to those that have any religious nonsense in their profiles.

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I recently joined Zoosk and I also identified myself as athiest and was not responding to anyone who identified a religion but now if they interest me otherwise I'll just ask them how religious they are.

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Your Choice!!!

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That's what I do most of the time as well! Basically, reduces your matches a lot!

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There are a lot of fish in the sea . If it's not what you want , you're most likely making things more efficient and less painful for yourself .

Do regular fish eat athiest fish or do they discriminate.

@Healthydoc70 Personally , I don't eat fish at all , if I can avoid it . But I have noticed some strange fish on the back of other folk's cars .

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I don't think I would automatically delete them, I would say, "due to your religious beliefs, I don't think we'd be a good match". They can try to argue their case and you have the option to hear them or ignore them. OR, they'll just accept your response and move on.

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There are many scammers out there on those date sites I have had run into a slew of them from Ghana Africa. I put agnostic in my bio and the religious still try click they like you. On Zooks and POF I a fairly certain I make it clear I am agnostic. The auto-delete would be good though.

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Time effective and prudent.

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