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I just received an invite to an upcoming Death Cafe. Was sent by my local Humanist chapter.
I have never heard of such a thing.
Anyone have experience with them?
[deathcafe.com]

AmiSue 8 Aug 29

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Sounds interesting. If you go maybe you could post about it?

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I am 81, I know that I will die reasonably soon (time frame unknown), it does not frighten me, and I do not concern myself with it. I will deal with the issue as it happens. Today is the first day of the rest of my life.

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I go to it quite often. It is extremely interesting. Discussions about life, death, honoring transitions, fears or no fears, beliefs traditions surrounding death. Death is so feared and covered up, and so full of superstition that it is great to discuss this part of our lives. I have met several atheists, agnostics, pagans, and Christian's there, but religion itself, is not part of the discussion. Just our ideas about what happen when we die.

@AmiSue it seems like they have been from around 30s to my age, ( I'm almost 72) but sometimes people come and go. I miss them from time to time, and in the summer, people go away on weekends, so that age range can change from week to week.

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I would do that. I took a "Death and Dying course" in college (Psych major) and it has served me well. This would be time well spent.

But no I get cards from AARP for my birthday instead - you definitely hang with the cool kids!

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It sounds interesting. I enjoy discussion groups. Besides getting me thinking about the subject at hand and think of differing opinions, it's is a good way to meet people.

Death usually is not discussed in depth in social circles. Maybe it would be a good thing to do? Also, when talking about death we must also talk about life which is really the point.

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I have heard of this. As a member of the Humanist and a big supporter of Death with Dignity I am all for it. The only way we will know of our choices is to share information with others. After writing a DwD letter to all 3 of our local papers our pharmacist thanked me. He said the major problem with the states DwD program is so few people even know it exists.
Please attend.

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You need to go and tell us what it's like. You are the guinea pig, I'm sorry.

That's true. Them's the rules.

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Interesting. Definitely better to discuss with Humanists.

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I had no idea these places even existed. I think it's great. Might even look one up. Thanks for bringing it to my attention. 😀

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I’d cry the entire time.

@AmiSue I’m just emotional about death in general. My dad passed away and my mom is 93.

@PalacinkyPDX Well that’s good. Maybe if they had a dog we could pet while we talk. But I’d hate to depress the dog.

@PalacinkyPDX Oh I’m not. I have my own resources for that. Just that if I’m in a group talking about death I’ll automatically cry.

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maybe you have already died and this is how you find out 😛

My dude, did you have to say that? I wanted to go, now I'm not so sure lol ?

@DoctoralZombie existential angst we all need more of that

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I was going to ask, if you go let us know how it goes.?

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I just joined. I thank you for the link. In a rural area there is not much likelyhood there will be a meeting. I don't need the cake anyway. But when I am in a municipality that does host a cafe' meeting I would attend when I am not feeling introverted.

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Might be a great outlet for grief management. Nothing really prepares you when you lose someone close. I need to look into this.

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Sounds like the English Victorian era where we had Memento Mori as so many people died at a young age because of the filth in the streets and unclean rivers they had marble baby arms and hands on the mantelpiece and lots of black cloth on the table legs etc it was sort of a celebration of death and people went into mourning for huge amounts of time

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I believe I may enjoy a "Life Cafe" more.

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I speak of death quite often. I’d probably fit in well there

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How did you get on the radar for that sort of privilege! Just get lucky?

@AmiSue : I enjoy the Humanist Sunday morning lectures. The Humanists I have met are usually good and independent thinkers. I encourage you to get out and meet them! 🙂

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I had caught this on the news a short time back. Think they intend for it to be easier to talk to acquaintances about your death issues. buried/cremation your last will and testament etc. It is supposedly for most people easier to talk to strangers than friends and family about death issues.

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This is the first I've heard of it. I would be interested to attend if it were happening near me.

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Never heard of it but seems like a good idea to discuss it openly vs. keeping it taboo...

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No, but a special get together for discussing death?
I guess I'll just say have fun.

@AmiSue point well taken but some people prefer cupcakes I for one care less for them

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Huh. I've never heard of such a cafe, but seems like worth a visit! I'd love to hear how it goes if you do decide to check it out.

@AmiSue
Or, you're the "human sacrifice" guest of honor.
😉

OMG that is my same response to most things! Even read it in the same tone I use when deciding to go out on my own haha. Maybe find a buddy or something? That's the best way I've found to motivate myself.

@AmiSue
Was that a whine?

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Is that anything like a suicide booth?

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Nope. I probably wouldn't go anyway...but I never say never. Er, except to say I never say never...again.
Huge James Bond fan

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