I don't like many people and i imagine even less like me ... so i'll see how that goes-! Lol ???

I'm 58, the chances of me finding someone else are remote for a number of reasons:

1. I don't do things that would be conducive to meeting someone else
2. I'm not convinced I'm making myself available
3. Without sounding dramatic I've lost the ability to trust someone emotionally
4. I'm not that fanciable (That's not self loathing it's a truth that life has taught me)
5. I have my work and my daughters, not sure I have room or want to make room for someone else.

And contrary to the questioner I'm actually less picky in what I find attractive, could be it doesn't matter anymore or that I've gained a bit of wisdom along the way.

I'm done. Being "in love" isn't worth the aggravation.
But that's just me.

I will allow that the older one gets the picker and more irascible one tends to get, but the rate at which that happens is very individual. I've met people younger than you who have already repaired to their off-the-grid cabin in the woods, to degrade to a vocabulary of a handful of grunts and gradually forget how to interact with Other People; and I've met people older than me (which is getting to be really old) who are still incurable romantics.

Much as I love my wife, if I were to be bereaved of her at this point I am 96.3% certain I'd walk to the end of the path alone. At 61, I don't see any percentage in finding, wooing, and winning someone else only to be faced with years of figuring out their hangups, hot buttons, neuroses and non-negotiable conflicts with who and what I am. There is less energy and vigor / health to devote to such essentially Sisyphian enterprises, and that's triply true on days when I inexplicably hurt all over and my brain doesn't seem to have gotten the memo that I'm awake now. There was a time when I was all-hands-on-deck up for that sort of thing, but that train left the station probably shortly after we got together, back when I was ... what was it ... 52. It's got nothing to do with my wife, it has to do with health, well-being, and what I call psychological overhead. It was probably cemented by my son's death a couple of years back.

But that's me. Your mileage can, and will, vary. I think if you are still up for romantic flings, you should do your best to enjoy them while you can. When they work out, they are one of life's finer pleasures. If you're truly fed up, and not just using it as cover for fear of acting on your real desires, then you should not impose yourself on others or waste their time.

One way to tell is, to look back on all your past romantic experiences. If you're reasonably satisfied with them, then you probably have "The Knack [tm]" and should carry on. If you're not, then you probably should find your real strength (writing, fixing cars, playing Mah-Jong, whatever) and focus on that.

I'll be 47 Wednesday and I give myself a 99.9% chance of finding love again. You always find what you look for.

I'm days away from 48 and although I've never put a number to it, I can see how 5% might seem about right. However, I'm not sure it's the "falling in love" part that would be the problem, more the "putting up with someone else's quirks and them putting up with mine" that would be the issue.
I find happiness, joy, friendship, companionship all the time, but not in a "significant other" sort of way.
I'm okay with it; I'm pretty set in my ways, but I wouldn't say no to the concept.

True, but I would not let it get to you. Be grateful that you can say ‘fall in love again’.

I don't (maybe won't?) believe that.
I am more capable of a relationship now than I ever was and most of the people I meet are more open and honest about their lives as well. I think we just get to cut through the BS faster these days.
I see it as an advantage more than a disadvantage...

I think that is your mindset. I was 59 when I met a woman who I was physically attracted to, we are still together, I'm 64 now.

5% seems a bit optimistic doesn't it? I mean look who you're dating now. She can't be that great of a conversationalist. ?

Don't be so sure. I was 53 when I met the love of my life. Yes I was picky too (and because of her even more so now). She was 47 and we had 16 wonderful years before she died. Of course luck plays a big part but you need to remember actions increases the likelihood. Don't sit still!

So you can accept that or do something about it to improve your chances. Unless this is just a post to say "it's hard".

I'm sorry you're feeling so low. In the absence of other factors, however, you have a high statistical chance of finding someone. For men, since it has traditionally been expected that their partners will be younger, as you age, the size of the pool opens up. For women, it gets much smaller if you follow the 'marriage gradient' which shows that men tend to partner with women who are younger, less well educated, shorter, and less well off.
Again from the research, it seems that men who are single are choosing to be by rejecting the available options, while women just don't have options.

So try to open your eyes and look around you. There are women everywhere -- in clubs, on sports teams, on websites like this -- sort of everywhere. If you decide you want a partner, you might look for someone with whom you share interests and compatibility. Falling in any regard is painful. People in long term relationships describe their partners as their best friends.

I'm only 28 but I've pretty much given up on the idea of falling in love again but honestly, the prospect is kind of exciting. Focusing on and cultivating non-romantic relationships has been the best investment I've ever made. Not putting up with the BS of others is honestly glorious. Do you want to fall in love again?

I think it can happen for all of us. BUT it won't happen if we sit home feeling bad for ourselves. Go out, make new friends, find stuff to do.. Do things you wouldn't normally do.. And don't let finding the one be the only thing you have going on in your life. Romance finds me most often when I'm not looking for it.

I think u r lucky I am not your friend or near u when I red this . I will have hit u on the head . 5% my eye , how u got up w this number . Listen mister , u got out of bed today right ? Great ! That indicates u r Alive .
U can be alone and be very happy u know . But if u don't want to be alone and if u think it's too late bcz 48 or whatever math u did there , then snap out of that crap . Love can happen and will happen if u want it to happen . If it's gonna be great or not , up to u and who u will chose , and STILL things can go shity . So ? The itching and scratching of life my friend , is all worth it in many ways !
I ll be 48 next month ! See if I care . !!! There are probably 48 losers I can chose from if I walk down the street and sane goes for u .
Take the time , and fall for something better than a loser ? Capish ? Ughhhh !

5% ? So there's a chance? Lol ?

I am 64 and i fall in love, on average, 3 times a day. the only drama is . by the evening i don't remember who with

I just went through a divorce. I am not looking for it to happen. At 50, my chances of finding someone are fair. If it happens, it happens. In the meantime, I will work on myself.

Nah! I'm 39 and the guy I'm seeing is 50. It is the best and healthiest relationship I've had. It's about connecting with the right person not age. Be you, be respectful and honest and the right person will respond to that.

Falling in love is getting a whiff of the cheese in the mouse trap. That approach never turned out very well for me. As I got older I realized that too much heat and sparks are detrimental and that long-term trust is built through personal commitment along with continuous attention and communication.

I had to go through those earlier turbulent but reproductive years, and the outcome was very positive, but at this point I am spawned out.

Enjoy your youth!

I’ll be 43 next month, haven’t dated in over three years because of medical issues but now I want to scream from the rooftops that I’m more ready than ever, let’s get this love stuff going!! ?

That’s seriously pessimistic. I’ll be 48 this month, I’ve never been in better health mentally or physically. I know it will happen.. when, I don’t know but it will. In the meantime, I work on enriching my life in many positive ways.

I am 81 and I do not even want to "fall in" love again. Been there, done that a few times and do not want, or need, it again. Love and be loved, yes, just not "fall in" love. Your mileage may vary.

I went through a divorce at age 57 after over 30 years of trying to live with a woman with borderline personality disorder. At age 58, I married a bright, caring lady and we have been married for 23 years. She was 50 when we married.