Fall in love and out of love ; what is that ? Don’t get caught up .

Love can be found in many places, i.e. pets, family. True happiness comes from within. Besides it's just a chemical in your brain.

Soo true I've given up been hurt so many times love will turn up when least expect it xx

Try being Vegan, Atheist, and Anti-Natalist. LOL

I shook my Magic 8-Ball, you're right
I never could get a clear picture of future events.

Looking back, I think I rushed things, and was willing to accept things just to have love. With time and experience, I have learned the difference between compromise and losing myself for the sake of acceptance. Although I am open to love, I am also happy with where I am in life. I think that, if I am in a relationship again, it will be on a completely different level.

I think that's all in your head.

I'm 54, it seems I have become more complacent and acceptant that I probably will be alone until the end. I am of the attitude of 'if it happens, it happens'. Meanwhile I try to keep my surroundings in my favor and my dogs and cats as buddies. I haven't shut myself down but I'm not actively seeking either.
Also, I have found out all the crap I suffered through earlier wasn't my fault. The social interaction with my family and a couple others ruined my first 53 years. So now I have a new life, I'm exploring it and having fun with it. Perhaps it's a sort of mid-life crisis happening later, whatever it is I feel new and unencumbered. I feel hopeful again.

Love isn't hard. Negotiating an adult relationship is the mind killer.

I’m quite certain that I will find much happiness in my future . Life in general always gets more complicated though .Being selective should be a requirement for your soul and ensure personal happiness.................................BUT Being too set in your ways will guarantee loneliness !

Perhaps being more picky makes you not waste time with unsuitable people and makes it more likely that you will find someone.

I've gotten a bit cynical about the whole 'falling in love again' thing myself. Was (mostly) happily married for a lot of years, and still love her (mutually we have no desire to be married any longer), but am not in love with her (and vice versa). She's now just a good friend who I happened to have been naked with regularly for 20+ years.

I remain very interested in intimacy, finding one or more kindred spirits that I can spend time with, and shared interests and activities - but I'm not seeing that I have much probability of falling in love again in that same way again. But good luck to you if that is what you seek.

Well I haven't been too hopeful. I believe that the intensity of my marriage would never be felt again, but, I am now casually dating a lady with whom I think that old flame could revive. Taking it slow but the energy and attention is starting to flow, so, just maybe.

"A little in love with everything" -Al McDougal

I am not hopeful about being in a relationship when I live in a conservative, uneducated, Trump loving corridor of churches. There is a church near every school, more than one on nearly every street and the few single men I have met want to change me into their idea of a traditional lady but pay my own way.

I am paying my own way and having shit my own way as well.

I do not know any other non believers near my age of any gender. Added to the above problems is that I am related to people of color and will not tolerate that racist bullshit my area is so fond of.

I get up at 3am for work so go to bed too early to socialize. Sometimes I think I may be lonely for adult companionship as I spend my off hours with my grandkids since they live here but even they are outgrowing me.

It is true that I am more intolerant of things I accepted when I was young but I spent a lot of years just being alive rather than living. At least I respect myself now.

If you're expecting to be swept off your feet with adolescent wonder, and capture the excitement of the first time. It isn't going to happen. But if you approach the prospect of relationship with a more mature expectation, then fireworks are very much still on the agenda. Enjoying another's company is the key factor, you can never feel you're too old for that!

I don't think you become more picky...I just think your tolerance for BS greatly decreases.

I see where you are coming from. The pickiness works both ways, I've had zero interest since I 'came on the market'.

I think it can go either way. I was brought up to marry within my religion and I had a list of things I expected in a spouse. They were all the wrongs things to determine whether they were a good spouse or not, though. I now have a different set of indicators on whether a relationship will work or not and I feel certain they are far more solid than the list I had before. I could have a relationship with a much wider range of people than before. That said, with my higher age, opportunities are more slim. Many people are already married or hurting from previous bad relationships. That is the reason I feel like I have fewer opportunities at a healthy relationship now than I did before.

Oh, silly, I turned 70 in July, am now in the Most Wonderful relationship of my entire life!

I am 81 and I do not even want to "fall in" love again. Been there, done that a few times and do not want, or need, it again. Love and be loved, yes, just not "fall in" love. Your mileage may vary.

That’s seriously pessimistic. I’ll be 48 this month, I’ve never been in better health mentally or physically. I know it will happen.. when, I don’t know but it will. In the meantime, I work on enriching my life in many positive ways.

I’ll be 43 next month, haven’t dated in over three years because of medical issues but now I want to scream from the rooftops that I’m more ready than ever, let’s get this love stuff going!! ?

Falling in love is getting a whiff of the cheese in the mouse trap. That approach never turned out very well for me. As I got older I realized that too much heat and sparks are detrimental and that long-term trust is built through personal commitment along with continuous attention and communication.

I had to go through those earlier turbulent but reproductive years, and the outcome was very positive, but at this point I am spawned out.

Enjoy your youth!

Nah! I'm 39 and the guy I'm seeing is 50. It is the best and healthiest relationship I've had. It's about connecting with the right person not age. Be you, be respectful and honest and the right person will respond to that.