Try being Vegan, Atheist, and Anti-Natalist. LOL

I used to be much older. You are only young once but immaturity can last a lifetime. I fall in love at least once or twice a week. In the sixties one slogan was "this is the first day of the rest of your life". Now I'm closing in on seventy and my slogan is "this is the first day of what's left of your life". Love is not a winning hand. Love is a mediocre hand played well. Watch things happen, make things happen, or stand around asking what happened? There's a great children's book called "The Velveteen Rabbit ". Find the passage in there where the rabbit asks the hair horse what it means to be real. That will give you a clue.

I think that's all in your head.

The way I see it, it doesn't diminish and I believe it's possible to fall in love again. The problem lands likely on the fact we are not young and good looking anymore. That's the part keeps getting worst by the day.

Never say never!! Never give up. If you don't find it..it will find you no matter what age.

Oh, silly, I turned 70 in July, am now in the Most Wonderful relationship of my entire life!

i was 48 when i met the man with whom i fell in love. he was just shy of 52. i'm 66 and a half now and we're still together. as for being pickier, isn't that a GOOD thing? that's how you find the right one!

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surry to be you. I plan to fall in love several times and older than you

I went through a divorce at age 57 after over 30 years of trying to live with a woman with borderline personality disorder. At age 58, I married a bright, caring lady and we have been married for 23 years. She was 50 when we married.

I am 81 and I do not even want to "fall in" love again. Been there, done that a few times and do not want, or need, it again. Love and be loved, yes, just not "fall in" love. Your mileage may vary.

That’s seriously pessimistic. I’ll be 48 this month, I’ve never been in better health mentally or physically. I know it will happen.. when, I don’t know but it will. In the meantime, I work on enriching my life in many positive ways.

I’ll be 43 next month, haven’t dated in over three years because of medical issues but now I want to scream from the rooftops that I’m more ready than ever, let’s get this love stuff going!! ?

Falling in love is getting a whiff of the cheese in the mouse trap. That approach never turned out very well for me. As I got older I realized that too much heat and sparks are detrimental and that long-term trust is built through personal commitment along with continuous attention and communication.

I had to go through those earlier turbulent but reproductive years, and the outcome was very positive, but at this point I am spawned out.

Enjoy your youth!

Nah! I'm 39 and the guy I'm seeing is 50. It is the best and healthiest relationship I've had. It's about connecting with the right person not age. Be you, be respectful and honest and the right person will respond to that.

I just went through a divorce. I am not looking for it to happen. At 50, my chances of finding someone are fair. If it happens, it happens. In the meantime, I will work on myself.

I am 64 and i fall in love, on average, 3 times a day. the only drama is . by the evening i don't remember who with

I think u r lucky I am not your friend or near u when I red this . I will have hit u on the head . 5% my eye , how u got up w this number . Listen mister , u got out of bed today right ? Great ! That indicates u r Alive .
U can be alone and be very happy u know . But if u don't want to be alone and if u think it's too late bcz 48 or whatever math u did there , then snap out of that crap . Love can happen and will happen if u want it to happen . If it's gonna be great or not , up to u and who u will chose , and STILL things can go shity . So ? The itching and scratching of life my friend , is all worth it in many ways !
I ll be 48 next month ! See if I care . !!! There are probably 48 losers I can chose from if I walk down the street and sane goes for u .
Take the time , and fall for something better than a loser ? Capish ? Ughhhh !

I'm only 28 but I've pretty much given up on the idea of falling in love again but honestly, the prospect is kind of exciting. Focusing on and cultivating non-romantic relationships has been the best investment I've ever made. Not putting up with the BS of others is honestly glorious. Do you want to fall in love again?

So you can accept that or do something about it to improve your chances. Unless this is just a post to say "it's hard".

Don't be so sure. I was 53 when I met the love of my life. Yes I was picky too (and because of her even more so now). She was 47 and we had 16 wonderful years before she died. Of course luck plays a big part but you need to remember actions increases the likelihood. Don't sit still!

I think that is your mindset. I was 59 when I met a woman who I was physically attracted to, we are still together, I'm 64 now.

I don't (maybe won't?) believe that.
I am more capable of a relationship now than I ever was and most of the people I meet are more open and honest about their lives as well. I think we just get to cut through the BS faster these days.
I see it as an advantage more than a disadvantage...

True, but I would not let it get to you. Be grateful that you can say ‘fall in love again’.

I will allow that the older one gets the picker and more irascible one tends to get, but the rate at which that happens is very individual. I've met people younger than you who have already repaired to their off-the-grid cabin in the woods, to degrade to a vocabulary of a handful of grunts and gradually forget how to interact with Other People; and I've met people older than me (which is getting to be really old) who are still incurable romantics.

Much as I love my wife, if I were to be bereaved of her at this point I am 96.3% certain I'd walk to the end of the path alone. At 61, I don't see any percentage in finding, wooing, and winning someone else only to be faced with years of figuring out their hangups, hot buttons, neuroses and non-negotiable conflicts with who and what I am. There is less energy and vigor / health to devote to such essentially Sisyphian enterprises, and that's triply true on days when I inexplicably hurt all over and my brain doesn't seem to have gotten the memo that I'm awake now. There was a time when I was all-hands-on-deck up for that sort of thing, but that train left the station probably shortly after we got together, back when I was ... what was it ... 52. It's got nothing to do with my wife, it has to do with health, well-being, and what I call psychological overhead. It was probably cemented by my son's death a couple of years back.

But that's me. Your mileage can, and will, vary. I think if you are still up for romantic flings, you should do your best to enjoy them while you can. When they work out, they are one of life's finer pleasures. If you're truly fed up, and not just using it as cover for fear of acting on your real desires, then you should not impose yourself on others or waste their time.

One way to tell is, to look back on all your past romantic experiences. If you're reasonably satisfied with them, then you probably have "The Knack [tm]" and should carry on. If you're not, then you probably should find your real strength (writing, fixing cars, playing Mah-Jong, whatever) and focus on that.

I'm done. Being "in love" isn't worth the aggravation.
But that's just me.