I'm 58, the chances of me finding someone else are remote for a number of reasons:

1. I don't do things that would be conducive to meeting someone else
2. I'm not convinced I'm making myself available
3. Without sounding dramatic I've lost the ability to trust someone emotionally
4. I'm not that fanciable (That's not self loathing it's a truth that life has taught me)
5. I have my work and my daughters, not sure I have room or want to make room for someone else.

And contrary to the questioner I'm actually less picky in what I find attractive, could be it doesn't matter anymore or that I've gained a bit of wisdom along the way.

I don't like many people and i imagine even less like me ... so i'll see how that goes-! Lol ???

I am right there with you. Almost 47, single with no appreciable relationships for the last 6 years. It's fine to think positively but at some point the reality of the situation has to be embraced. Hang in there and try to be happy anyway.

I think you're selling yourself short. You can meet someone and fall in love at any age.

I'm 73 years old and give myself a 99% chance of falling in love again, though I've been divorced 15 years and just started seriously dating the last three. My biggest challenge is finding a woman who wants a committed relationship. [I have not read the 86 comments that proceed mine but hope to later.]

Never say never.

Fall in love and out of love ; what is that ? Don’t get caught up .

Love can be found in many places, i.e. pets, family. True happiness comes from within. Besides it's just a chemical in your brain.

Soo true I've given up been hurt so many times love will turn up when least expect it xx

Looking back, I think I rushed things, and was willing to accept things just to have love. With time and experience, I have learned the difference between compromise and losing myself for the sake of acceptance. Although I am open to love, I am also happy with where I am in life. I think that, if I am in a relationship again, it will be on a completely different level.

Love isn't hard. Negotiating an adult relationship is the mind killer.

I’m quite certain that I will find much happiness in my future . Life in general always gets more complicated though .Being selective should be a requirement for your soul and ensure personal happiness.................................BUT Being too set in your ways will guarantee loneliness !

Perhaps being more picky makes you not waste time with unsuitable people and makes it more likely that you will find someone.

I've gotten a bit cynical about the whole 'falling in love again' thing myself. Was (mostly) happily married for a lot of years, and still love her (mutually we have no desire to be married any longer), but am not in love with her (and vice versa). She's now just a good friend who I happened to have been naked with regularly for 20+ years.

I remain very interested in intimacy, finding one or more kindred spirits that I can spend time with, and shared interests and activities - but I'm not seeing that I have much probability of falling in love again in that same way again. But good luck to you if that is what you seek.

I am not hopeful about being in a relationship when I live in a conservative, uneducated, Trump loving corridor of churches. There is a church near every school, more than one on nearly every street and the few single men I have met want to change me into their idea of a traditional lady but pay my own way.

I am paying my own way and having shit my own way as well.

I do not know any other non believers near my age of any gender. Added to the above problems is that I am related to people of color and will not tolerate that racist bullshit my area is so fond of.

I get up at 3am for work so go to bed too early to socialize. Sometimes I think I may be lonely for adult companionship as I spend my off hours with my grandkids since they live here but even they are outgrowing me.

It is true that I am more intolerant of things I accepted when I was young but I spent a lot of years just being alive rather than living. At least I respect myself now.

If you're expecting to be swept off your feet with adolescent wonder, and capture the excitement of the first time. It isn't going to happen. But if you approach the prospect of relationship with a more mature expectation, then fireworks are very much still on the agenda. Enjoying another's company is the key factor, you can never feel you're too old for that!

I don't think you become more picky...I just think your tolerance for BS greatly decreases.

I see where you are coming from. The pickiness works both ways, I've had zero interest since I 'came on the market'.