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Should one bring/send flowers on a first date? Not a coffee. A real date. Dinner and a show, or lunch and a ballgame.

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Bring babies. If she's a proper heathen, she'll know just how to cook them.

davyjones Level 6 Sep 17, 2018

I think it's sweet, and it keeps you on her mind with a smile when she sees the flowers in her home for the rest of the week. If you have the idea to do it, then do. Even a $5 bouquet from Safeway adds a splash of color. If she's allergic, perhaps she can keep them out on her patio.

Julie808 Level 7 Sep 17, 2018

Well, I wouldn't be displeased, but you do risk that the lady is allergic to flowers. Then there is the issue of where to put the flowers if you do something else after dinner.


It's a lovely gesture. If the impulse is genuine, do it.
Just keep it simple, and make sure she can put them in a vase before
you head out. No one wants to tote around flowers for the duration.

KKGator Level 9 Sep 16, 2018

I vote "no", if for no other reason than one of you then have to carry them around. If you want to give flowers, send them the next day.

cmadler Level 7 Sep 16, 2018

I’ve only had that happen once in my life. It was so surprising and amazing! I loved it....doesn’t have to be an expensive bouquet. He brought pretty wildflowers. Still makes me smile even though we didn’t work out


Sure! It's a lovely gesture. Yes it's old fashioned and rarely done these days. That makes you unique. Allergies? I suffer through the allergies

Iamkratom Level 6 Sep 17, 2018

Lunch and a ball game, the beers would be my flowers! Anyway a ball game would be fun, you can actually talk with one another in a relaxed atmosphere, low key and laid back


$2k Bloomingdales gift card and limo voucher


Someone brought me a bunch of ripe wheat was beautiful and I was impressed!


It’s a very sweet gesture but at the same time it would be hard for me too to carry them around the entire time. Instead you can send them to her workplace with a hand-written note (seriously, skip the ready written fake notes) and it’ll mean a lot.

Guys have no idea how small but thoughtful things mean a lot to us.


If you want to, do it. Personally, I love cut flowers. I buy them for myself nearly every week.

Me too . And u know what ? It makes me feel very good .

@Pralina1 But of course! Cheerful flowers in a vase brighten one’s mood.


I, personally, wouldn't want flowers. Just smell nice, when you show up and show up on time.

@Omen6Actual Oh, I don't agree. Be there at our predetermined time. On time is on time.

@Omen6Actual Dating me isn't akin to being in the army, luckily. smile001.gif

@Omen6Actual true, at ease


I don't want to receive anything on a first date . If we don't know ea other enough , giving me anything will make me uncomftable and what's the point ?
Also for me , a coffee time is a real date . A show , a movie , a game will never do for me . Not as first date at least , maybe two months later . I want to hear u talk , not the actors / athletes / whatever .

Pralina1 Level 8 Sep 17, 2018



Don't bring them unless you're picking her up at home. No one wants to have to fuss over a bunch of flowers while out on a date. Maybe have some sent after - if the date goes well.
I dislike cut flowers - gardener - a potted flower or bulbs win points with me.

AmiSue Level 8 Sep 17, 2018

It really depends on what kind of people you two are and where you are going on the date.

  • If you like bringing flowers on the first date; if that's your thing, then go ahead. But be considerate of your date and the place of the date.
  • Your date might not like the flowers (could be allergic or have a specific flower he/she likes); do research before buying your date flowers.
  • Don't bring flowers to a date where you or your date can't set the flowers aside; you don't want someone holding a bouquet of flowers the entire time, do you?
joeymf86 Level 7 Sep 17, 2018

I would say that's your call but it would be better than a set of wiper blades

oldFloyd Level 7 Sep 17, 2018

@Omen6Actual I use Rain-X


I have gotten a good response from a single rose on the first date. Classy but not overdone. Really though it depends on the person, use your best judgment.

ThisGuy Level 6 Sep 17, 2018

A resounding no! I think you shouldn't act overly chivalrous on the first date. Women say they like it and that it's "sweet", but they secretly hate it (trust me on this), and later use your sweet behavior as a weapon against you ("but you weren't always like that" ). A reasonable combination of courtesy and genuineness should work out fine for you. Just be yourself and don't be afraid to show the masculine side of you.

Darius77 Level 6 Sep 17, 2018

Wrong. I think a gentleman should be a gentleman and not show up empty handed.

Yeah? And what should "ladies" bring to the table? I should not show up empty-handed just because the other person has a vagina between her legs? I thought we were all equal.

@Darius77 I generally give books on the first date....but I also prefer to COOK and stay home to have a conversation. Therefore, I am providing food and professional skill. Thanks for showing you are a TYPICAL man who goes straight to sex. You do know that women have brains too, right? And, seriously dude, do something about that chip on your shoulder. It makes you look ugly.

Thank YOU for playing the victim card. I have NO problem giving my date a gift as long as I know there is reciprocity. But if someone EXPECTS me to automatically bring something to the table just because she happens to be the one with the vagina, then I have a huge problem. This is the exact opposite of going straight to sex! It shows I'm not willing to get laid through any means.

And just because I express opinions that you don't approve of doesn't mean I have any chip on my shoulder. I get along fantastically with women. I'm just not willing to bend over backwards to please them. That's against my dignity. You are free to interpret it however you wish to.

@Darius77 hahahahahaha YOU were the one "playing victim"
Oh, poor's good manners to bring a gift and I don't want to because why should I just because she's a are sooooooooooo taken advantage of......

ugh. Men like you are gross. I'll be blocking you now for being an asshat.

Class act by deleting all your comments!!


I personally feel it's a little over-the-top. Also, they are a little inconvenient to deal with during the date. I would save that sort of thing for after it has progressed to the next stage and you have become an item. But that's just me.


not if she has cats or allergies. find out if she even LIKES flowers! likewise a bottle of wine -- she may not drink (or she might love it). try to find out what she likes before you decide.


genessa Level 8 Sep 17, 2018

I had my first date in a really long time a few weeks ago. He brought me flowers, which was sweet, but awkward because I had to carry them around since we met at the restaurant. I echo no if you aren't meeting at one's house before the date.


why not i think any thoughtful gesture should be viewed for what it is flowers chocs beer wine beer whisky beer rum really anything

weeman Level 7 Sep 16, 2018

This seems to me a bit old fashioned however, given the age of your date this may be appropriate. I do think that if you get on well and decide to continue to date each other that you could do this on the 3rd or 4th date to show that you are really into them.


In my mind, I would love getting flowers on a first date, after the date had happened, and only if in picking the flowers they showed that they paid attention to my story about my favorite flower - the Zinnia. I'm picky, but I've also never had a woman try to buy me flowers, so your mileage may vary.

PolyWolf Level 7 Sep 17, 2018
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