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I am agnostic and I am dating a mormon. Is this a recipe for disaster?

BSquared 6 Sep 18
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With some maturity and understanding, it certainly doesn't have to be .

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It is strictly up to you both! Can you live & let live? Life together is So much more about going to church, or not....

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So... you gonna where special magic underpants? ... anyway, you deserve a real answer.... You both deserve to be happy... she is the one you should ask this question, it’s somthing that can only work if you both want it to and neither of you should be tryinging to convert the other, that is unless one of you wants to be converted but I would get the kinks worked out before you reach a point on needing lawyers to undo the knot.

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Yes. But men usually think with their nether parts so maybe it doesn't matter to you.

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How Mormon is she? What is your objective for the relationship? If she's religious and you are looking to her as a partner, why would you even ask this? Same would apply were she any other religion and dogmatic about it.

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Probably!

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I imagine it will be. I don't discuss religion or politics around my husband or his family as they are devout in their "non-denominational" (whatever that means I haven't figured it out) Christian faith. Everythings that happens is "God's plan"...certainly never anything anyone should take responsibility for. It's ludicrous. Can be solating and lonely to be surrounded by robots...good luck! I would prob look for a like-minded partner...

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Reminder to mormons marriage is considered to be "forever". Sounds like a great opportunity to practice talking about it before making any major commitments.

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Warning: Mormons have this (unofficial) “Flirt to Convert” concept. If she’s a TBM (True Blue Mormon), there’s a good chance that she’ll eventually switch from being ok with the difference in beliefs, to insisting that you need to start going to church with her so you can be an eternal family. Also, Mormons have a particularly hard stance against premarital sex, and tend to be really hard on members (her) if they marry outside the temple (only available to “worthy” members, ie: not you). At best, she ends up being the person everyone at church gossips about under their breath, but she’ll stick with you. More likely, you get to a point in your relationship where you both want to move forward (either by having sex or getting married), but can’t without compromising the beliefs and morality of one of you.

On the other hand, there are a LOT of closet exmormons who only attend to keep their families from disowning them. If she’s one of those, you’re good.

Whatever happens, don’t mix relationships with deconversion attempts. That almost never ends well.

Just so you have a little bit of an understanding of Mormon relationships:
One of their fundamental beliefs is that in order to get to the Celestial Kingdom to live with God for eternity, you have to hold the priesthood. Women cannot be given the priesthood. In order for a woman to enter God’s Kingdom, she has to be sealed for eternity to a faithful priesthood holder.

From her point of view, if she dies while in a relationship with you, and fails to convert you, she can’t make it to heaven. That’s the mentality you’re dealing with.

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I just lost my mormon girlfriend of 5 years. She texted she was going back to the church. I am still in mourning.

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Could be...definitely on shaky ground.

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I was married to a great man that was a baptist. We had 17 years together till he passed away, we never tried to change each other's views. We completely respected each other from the start.
We never crossed each other's boundaries.

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Sure sounds like it. Guess it depends on each of your levels of tolerance.

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Things can work if both of you set boundaries.

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Are you more of an agnostic believer or an agnostic atheist?

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Probably

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Most definitely!

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A woman that doesn't consume any alcohol or coffee would not be very compatible with me but as long as you never marry this woman (and can tolerate one another) I guess you are OK.

OCJoe Level 6 Sep 19, 2018
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I misread that at first and read moron.....but answer is just this:. If you don't mind your significant other believing in fantasy and acting as though it is reality, no problem. Fantasy can be nice..

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Whoooowee yes! One would think. But who knows?

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As long as you are both up front, and you are clear that you will not be joining her religion then I think it can work, although there will obviously be complications that arise.

It all depends on the people involved IMO

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What her minister says?

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