sorry, no kids here. as a kid i wasn't forced to kiss or hug anyone. i wanted to. one uncle always said he couldn't because he had a cold. i guess he didn't want to be forced!

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No kids, either. When I was a kid I was told to hug/kiss relatives and I never really minded. The only relative I couldn't bear to touch was my mother. That made my skin crawl.

I don't remember, but I doubt either that I was forced to kiss relatives, or that I forced my kids to do it, since we're all a bit headstrong and rebellious at times.

But it's a very bad idea to teach kids to accept unwanted physical touching from adults. Ever.
Or to be mindlessly obedient to them.

No. I think my parents encouraged us to say bye, and we kinda decided if a hug was gonna happen.

I continued that with my own kids. As we leave, I say tell them bye and they decide to what degree.

But I'm not a huge kiss/hug-say bye type myself, unless it's my SO

! I always hated having to feel the rough stubbles of my relatives on my cheeks as they hugged and kissed me in family gatherings. It felt like sandpaper.

No. What you are referring to is not common in Denmark where I grew up.

I think this is changing today. Possibly we see it secretly today that all this huggy kissy stuff could have caused uncle Charlie to end up molesting you. That's why he doesn't get this treatment from kids today and gets only a goodbye if he gets anything at all. Today kids are told to say "goodbye" but only if they are in the same room as the adult leaves.

I’m very affectionate and have a very small personal space so it was never forced. My kids are pretty affectionate as well so it’s almost a foreign concept to me. Ultimately no, I wouldn’t force them but I would talk to them to understand why. My fear being inappropriate touching from the adult. However, if my child just wasn’t a cuddly person, I would respect that.

No.

I'm mostly Italian, and it's just tradition to hug and a kiss on the cheek.
Well, at least the hug part.
It's not sexual in any respect, it's a show affection, love, and respect to each other.
There are some traditions I still hold dear, and that is one of them.
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I'm the same way with my good friends,men and women, a hug upon meeting, and leaving, minus the kissing part.

But I do feel a bit strange doing it with people I don't really know yet.

I was, occasionally, but don't inflict the same treatment on our son.

My daughter was just naturally affectionate . As a child I showed affection to my parents and grandparents but I don't remember hugging and/or kissing others. I'm not a particularly affectionate person but I will hug people I know. Don't want to touch or be touched by strangers although I will shake hands .

I was forced to. I did not force. I think that it can hurt the child's sense of personal autonomy and and could set them up for abuse.

Only up until 5 or 6, can't say forced to more like asked to.
Didn't do it when my daughter was young.

Good question. My family were not, and are not huggers. It still feels creepy and forced, to me. Never forced my kids to hug anyone, usually helped deflect such awkward moments. Our hugs are earned, not given away

Not normally but last time my son saw his granddad I made sure he gave him a kiss .......granted my dad has not got long so it may have been the last time it happens so I can be forgiven for it

My daughter doesn't force my grand girls to kiss or hug anyone...I like that. I didn't force my kids to do anything like that either and I also made sure they knew how to refuse anything inappropriate. For example, when my girl was a preschooler, we went into a convenience store for water and an old man approached her with a quarter he insisted she accept because she was so pretty. Wow. I politely refused and made sure my daughter understood what was wrong about that situation (oh so much).

Yes I was, being raised Latin it happens. No I don't support it.
My children have their own body autonomy and it is up to them if they feel like they would like to hug or kiss anyone.

i never was. i still kiss my mom and my one aunt with a peck on the lips, my dad with a peck on the cheek. most of my family is so estranged that if we get together it's so awkward even a hug seems innapropriate.

Yeah, my mom was big on that shit. Not good.

We didn't kiss at all as a family, and only hugged in the immediate family. We still all do this, but I think it's mostly because my family is spread out, and only see each other infrequently. I love showing my family affection with a hearty hug, and it is reciprocated. If it was not, I wouldn't do it. I won't force my eventual children to do it. I think, for us, there was no breakage in the family roles. My parents only ever acted like caring nurturing people, and my siblings are good natured, so we never dealt with any kind of abuse, physically or sexually. I think this is why hugging my mom, dad, brother, or sister, is totally natural and comforting to us.

I remember one person in particular, Great Aunt Tess swooping down for my Xmas hug, christ she was scary. An unmarried, wiry woman in her 60s, formerly the headmistress of an all boys school in the east End of London. Femme Formidable

Yes I was forced to and no I did not force my children to. There was an incident at the store where an elderly kept trying to talk to my son who did not respond. She said something about rudeness and I immediately told her that my son had been taught not to talk to strangers and reminded her that she was a stranger.

My youngest grandson has an aversion to hugging to me. Unsure if he is like that with everyone but my daughter in law tries to coax him into it but I always take his side. He is willing to fist bump so that is what we do.

My kids only hugged people that they felt afection. for..

Wasn't and never made my kids. It's gross. When my kids were younger it seemed to offend many people that they didn't.