Sorry, I've been a good human my entire life and never proceeded past a point that another human indicated that I shouldn't.

I'm willing to, and invite, an FBI investigation into my account.

My behavior has not changed in the slightest. No problems before. No problems in the present climate.

The me too movement & the like has made me realize that it is not uncommon for men to act in a sexually aggressive manner. I had my suspicions of course. Well, I guess I discovered why I’ve always felt a bit disadvantaged in the dating arena compared to the alphas.

Dont send dick picks or cock shots within the first 5 minutes ...Excuse the terminology.
I really don't get the mindset! I mean , if I met a guy in the pub and he dropped his pants within a few sentences...I would probably fall about the floor laughing
In addition, being a nurse of 34 years...I have seen more male genitalia than I care to mention. Internet should not give men the right to flash there bits carte blanche at the female populace !
Started the dating thang very naive...boy ! What an eye opener!
Am now somewhat cynical, but by no means bitter .
However , I am quite sure there are decent gents out there ....once you sort the wheat from the chaff....
Phew !
Catharsis over.

Edit: The first item in this list is neither a ploy for attention, nor a discussion prompt. See my profile for more info before replying with a rebuttal, please.

1. I'm not very attractive to start with, so that rachets down the whole stress level for me quite a bit. I am very happy about this! I don't give a tinker's fuck about appearances--mine or anyone else's!
2. I'm rabidly anti-social, so that takes care of most of the rest of it. I give off an aloof, unapproachable vibe without even trying, and I'm totally cool with it.
3. I naturally avoid eye-contact most of the time; whenever I sense a guy is interested in me I really avoid eye-contact, and keep my head down.
4. I'll change course and/or turn my back if I think I'm being followed or watched (as a female skateboarder and runner, it happens with distressing regularity). Nobody gets a free peep show if I can help it. If I'm feeling particularly salty, I'll stare back, scowl, make a mocking faux-shocked expression like the ones I'm so used to seeing when I board...maybe I'll even spit.
5. Depending on where I'm going, what I'm doing, and what kind of mood I'm in, I'll engineer my outfit to hide my figure or generally not draw attention.
6. I might wear a fake wedding set or engagement ring, but I know it's no real assurance of anything
7. Pepper spray.

I don't drink anymore, and the only people who ever really approached me were drunk men, so I think I'm okay in that department. It's the ones who goggle at me like I'm a two-headed snake when I'm boarding that worry me. I've been followed, harassed, photographed. I have no idea the phones my picture is in right now, who's saying what about me...and that terrifies me a little.

Ask for her driver license, take a picture and send it to the BMV for verification and have her take a selfie pointing a big sign saying "It is consensual, I an not a minor and I am not being forced in any way, shape or form" then print a copy and have her sign it in front of a lawyer and three whitness were two at least must be woman with proper age pre verification process already conducted by the FBI and all Democrats in your local county just in case.. and even then.......

I just treat women the way I would want someone to treat my mom, sister, daughter, or niece. It's not that tricky. Be polite, sincere, and respectful. Avoid vulgarity, risque remarks, and don't be too forward. Let things evolve.
But above all, don't worry too much about those who are overly sensitive or fearful. Women who view all men as threats or evil are not worth your time any more than tolerating racism is.

I've been on some bad dates, and im a bit jaded. My advice is if you keep your hands to yourself, refrain from showing her your dick, let the conversation of sex develop naturally over time you'll probably be o.k. as a female I only meet in public places and always drive myself until I feel really comfortable with him.

As a small woman, I insist on meeting in a public place, a healthy restaurant or cafe', preferably for lunch (daylight). Never drink alcohol.

I drive myself to avoid being in a strange man's car alone.

Arriving early, I tell the waiter that I'm meeting a man for the first time through online dating. I ask if someone can walk me to my car if the date goes South.

Restaurant staff are always happy to help keep me safe.

Be respectful. Be yourself. Let a female friend eyeball your online profile for review. Don't get bitter over rejection. Always get clear, enthusiastic consent. Not too much else.

Just remember: saying hi to a girl without their expressed written and notarized permission is an egregious offense punishable by a a dose of bear mace to the eyes. Have fun out there

If you conduct yourself as a gentleman, and keep aware of how what you do affects others, that ought to take you most of the way through. Here's a tip : some people are for you, some are definitely NOT for you. How to tell the difference? That's the hard part. Good luck, brother.

I’ve had to reevaluate my own actions. Being a nurse, I’ve always been tactile.
If you’re starting to date,be a gentleman and always consider her safety. Always meet for the first few times in a public, neutral location.
Most importantly, if she says “no”, she means it and don’t get upset.

Sexual misconduct is not a “these days” thing. It’s a systemic issue to do with the way society has traditionally treated women and children. They are undervalued. Social media has allowed people of all genders and orientations to call out the injustice, especially when they were children or teens. If a man wants to know how to behave towards women the answer is simple - treat us like you would treat someone else in your life that you respect completely. If she wants to be with you sexually, she will let you know.
How do I protect myself from predators and cat fishing? I don’t date online. I take up a skill, or attend a group event so I can see people and read them in reality. I really recommend MeetUp for that reason. Even then you will never know if you have met Ted Bundy, so I will take it easy, and date again in public. Then he meets my gay male friends so he gets vetted by other men.

If using an online forum like this one or say match.com, read the profiles critically. A person should treat it like a resume or job application. Put some thought into it and you can assess someone pretty well. Works for me anyway. I've had dates where there just wasn't a connection, but never a bad one, been scammed etc.

Good luck and best wishes for success.

It's not easy. From my experience, there are two types of dates, hook ups and real people.

You will probably know right away if it's a person just looking for sex or someone to have a real relationship with.
I always meet at a well frequented place like Starbucks. Or maybe an afternoon at the park. My safety is minimal. I'm pretty trusting.

I didn’t really date before I was married for a long time, so I was a dating newbie after my divorce. Luckily my best friend taught me some basic safety rules.
First meeting always in a public place - do not give him your address nor get into his car on first meet.
Before date, give best friend time, location and info on date (name, phone number, etc)
Friend checks in at a pre-determined time to make sure you are ok.

As for guys - there is really nothing to be “worried” about if you treat women like human beings. Then, Make sure she’s into you before touching her. Make sure she is enthusiastically consenting to sex rather than “giving in” to persistence.

Some couples have an instant magnetic attraction,others take a while for all the broken pieces to line up,much like a wonderful desert to "Gell", I believe lot's of e mail and texting before a date,may pave the way to reduce the jitters upon meeting,you and she are selling yourselves,do not rush,creating a loving couple(if that is your goal),is worth it.

I don't do first meets at someone's house. I don't give my real name on dating sites. I drive myself to dates. I drink alcohol sparingly, amd keep my wits about me.

There's also this new concept of affirmative consent. Like, instead of doing stuff and waiting for a no, or nonverbal sign the bahaviour is making her uncomfrotable, ASK FIRST. I like this, because it's hard to not understand a yes or no.

Lost wife of 27 years in Sept.2017 to cancer,most online dating sites are full of scammers,lot's of "Catfishing" be aware of phone calls being redirected to countries other than the US. Local Women should be researched before falling for a beauty half your age,from the other side of the World.

If I understand your question (Is it about consent?), when in doubt, ask permission or have a discussion early on. If I were a guy, I know I would research how to protect myself from being perceived or even reported for wrongdoing. I see @Humanistheathen said it better just before my comment.

Wish I could help. Been through more relationships than I want to count over the last 16 years and still alone. The worst one tricked me into a marriage based on lies and then claimed I was the abusive one to courts. Got a criminal record out of that which I think was her goal. There are some damaged people by this age and it makes it difficult.

Just be yourself. Be honest and be aware of red flags when speaking to someone. There are scammers with men and woman so if your gut says its not feeling it then it probably isn't. Just put yourself out there and try.

Well, I'm using online dating and see how it goes. Whenever has to happen will happen.

Thank so much for posting this site

Me too. 25 years married and separated about 3 years. I've no idea how to behave but I have read that I would walk a tightrope between being a gentlemen and recognising women's equality. I've never had to give the new rules a try because I don't know where available women my age are in the real world. I've read that many of them are lonely too. The one thing that might always be a constant is probably to make them laugh. I hope you have better luck finding them.