What are your views on polygamy?
My only concern about it that - it often appears to be a way for powerful religious (male) leaders to control & subjugate women & younger men within the power structure of their 'church'.
Otherwise - as others have said here - as long as they are all willing, of sound mind & have a choice to leave if they want to I don't see it as my business to judge.
Your two paragraphs are precisely the difference between polygamy and polyamory.
Your top paragraph describes polygamy. Your bottom paragraph describes polyamory.
@BlueWave I see absolute zero difference between several love partners and several marriage partners. ....the law does not provide a loophole for "intent" when children ADOPTED FOSTER STEP or BIRTH arrive into these POLY lives they also cannot fully embrace intentions nor deserve the evil religions imposed by anyone
THE PROFESSOR AND HIS WONDER WOMEN movie is a true story of polyamory FREE LOVE 1930's until the last son died last year making the movie about his 3 parents
I am happily in a long term relationship with a woman (20+ years with children) and have been very open to also finding my male "beloved." I am bi and she is very supportive and not prone to jealousy. I know very few poly folk and would like to meet more people successfully navigating a triad. Integrity, honesty, and respect are key... its the logistics that i wonder about.
My fantasy relationship has always included myself and 2 bi-sexual men. As an actual long-term/life partnership, not just a drunken night of debauchery that is sure to get back to my mom. (And to clarify this Forever Threesome does not at anytime involve DP. Thank you!!!!!)
Could I do it in reality? I strongly doubt it. I can barely hold onto one man. And I've noticed most our male poly community around here has long hair. Not my bag. In fact, in this reoccurring fantasy, both my lovers look exactly like Dolph Lundgren. (To clarify, this is not an incestuos brother thing either, it's just an odd coincidence!!!!)
But I do know there is only one ounce of lesbian in me and it is reserved for Shannon Doherty.
So.... I try not to concern myself in other's love affairs. Well, from a "morally superior" stance. If you've got video tapes to share, I'll grab the popcorn.
That was freaking hilarious, Alicia!
If all parties are autonomous and freely entering the arrangement, then OK.
But I don't think that's what's happening in the FLDS church. Little girls are raised to believe that they MUST marry whoever the "prophet" chooses for them. They don't have a say. And one might think, "they could just refuse, leave the church, run away." But can they really? They are imprisoned by their beliefs and cultures. They are taught that leaving would doom their soul for eternity. Is that really freedom? Is polygamy for FLDS girls really entered into freely?
No thanks. One woman is more than enough. Sometimes too much.
As a partial transmale, androgyne, demisexual person, I just don't care if people are into polygamy.
I don't seem capable of jealousy, used to think threesomes would be great, as long as someone with whom I was previously bonded was involved.
I also seem to be amoral..seeing sex as a body function. No big deal.
However, I do know that most cis, hetero females are VERY territorial and would never share their spouses.
Polygamy is cultural, whether abhorred (here in the U.S.) or culturally required (Tibet). My personal view is that a family is a group the joins together for richer, for poorer (etc. etc.). If it works, and no one is harmed? All the power to them.
My most successful relationship was with a couple. I am a fan
was? how can that be successful?
@zrez I suppose your defintion of success may be the longevity of the relationship. Mine in this instance was the compatibility and beautiful dynamic as compared to my other relationships. The relationship only ended when the other two had a stalemate on whether or not to produce children or we would still all be together most likely.
the old "do you?" question to have kids should go to no if any party doesn't want them. I would bend and would not resort to loggerheads either way particularly if there was a love not easily replaced or fun.
@zrez just because it ends doesn't mean it failed. I've seen lots of failed relationships trudge along dysfunctionally for years. And lots of successful relationships end because it was time for both people to move on.
The end goal does not have to be 'together til we die' the end goal can be 'fulfill each other until we no longer feel we are growing together, part ways amicably, and remain friends.'
Your insistence on a traditional model in your own life does not mean the traditional model is the only available avenue for romantic/sexual/emotional fulfillment.
I have no problem with polygamy, I have no problem with monogamy. I have tried both on for size and prefer a monogamous relationship for myself. But I never understood the idea of not liking a person based on something like that. I mean, if I meet someone who is really interesting, smart, funny, all that spiffy stuff, and they happen to be into polygamy, oh well! They are still all those things, I'm just not interested in a relationship. They can still be cool people. The only time I've ever had any kind of issue with it is when I go into a relationship, having openly discussed and agreed upon what we are each willing to except, meaning I made it clear that I was looking for a monogamous relationship and they said they were too, then I find out they are sleeping around. But to me that's not so much a poly/mono thing, as it is a lying thing.
It really doesn't matter to me what other adults do within their own relationships, as long as everyone is consenting. That said, I think most of us have enough trouble navigating singular relationships as it is. Adding additional people just seems like asking for trouble.
But hey, knock yourselves out.
Warren Jeff’s was a Mormon polygamist with about 70 wives. He was finally arrested and sent to prison for marrying a 14 year old girl which I thought was appropriate as many of his marriages were pretty much arranged by Mormon religious nuts. However I have no problem with polygamy among consenting adults.