Just wondering, about past experiences. Im on a couple dating sites, and have had several dates with women are church going Christians. My Bio clearly states agnostic, but yet they continue to agree to, even ask for a meet and greet. they say they understand the meaning my beliefs, but once expressed, face to face, you can see the expression change all most instantly. Has any one on here had these same experiences. A couple have even came back for 2nd dates. Most just bail out . LOL
I'm an atheist, and state that on the date-sites (Metch) that have that box to check. It has greatly limited my range of dates, even though I'd be willing to date others. I might approach a "christian" on a dating site, if we have common interests and they don't lay their "love of god" on real thick. My reasoning is that some people identify themselves based on background, rather than beliefs. Just as they might self-describe as Italian, or Irish, as an ethnic background, even if they are Americans who've never been to their grandparents' country of origin and don't speak the language, they might be of Methodist (or whatever) religious background. . The "spiritual but not religious" are such a mixed bag, it's hard to know what it means. Many are borderline agnostics, and lots of my friends would self-describe as such. But some are as negative and judgmental as the worst fundamentalists.
On POOF, the box to check only says "non-religious" and that can be a pretty mixed bag, too. All this makes me grateful for this site, and hopeful that there will be more women on it. But I'm still on POOF, at present.
I've had that experience also. I read their bio before going out with them, if it states their "love of God" or looking for a "Christian man", etc. I quickly move on. I also move on if they're conservative and/or Trump voters. I state in my bio that I'm an agnostic, and also that i'm a member of 4:20 club, Lol..
Just to say I've been on a date, I'd go out with phyllis schafly.
Probably some combination between the usual denial of the religious, being horny, and thinking they can convert you.
Perhaps they are more or less militant about those things, and hope you are the same. No charge for asking, is there?
I'm fairly lucky on this front because I live in NYC, and for some reason, calling oneself an atheist or non-believer is just as common as liking pepperoni on pizza. But I have had a few encounters with people who are "spiritual but not religious" or "believe in something, but not sure what" and my experience is that it has to not be a big deal for things to go okay. If they're a regular church-goer, I don't even bother and I steer way clear of Catholics because I just can't with that religion. It could be easier because I have more choices here, but I'd like to think I'd do the same if I were anywhere else. I'm not an experiment to be used to see if I can be converted or investigated via romantic relationship.
I agree with any hot chicks beliefs for sex. Halle Luya !
A lot of believers think they can be the one to "rescue" you from yourself. I have met men like that. They are rampant here in the Midwest, as I'm sure you're aware.
Yes I know, you show up as the closest member to me. I live up by the Quad cities, and very very few liberal, agnostic, free thinkers in this area. If you go towards the Iowa City area it increases but not by much. I haven't had any try to save me, but a few that have just been cold as hell when they find out LOL
I think beliefs are personal matter. u can have 2 people with different beliefs and opinions marry have kids and be very happy. u don't want to marry your twin ! And dating is dating. Many men date for casual friendship and SEX. religion is suppose to unite not divide.
I have had the same problem, but never went to meet anyone. Just deleted my profile.
My profile specifically stated no Christians. Made me jokingly think to myself that they were illiterate.
The worst ones nearly all use the King James and read no other book, you should write. "Therefore show thowself not to be likend unto a Christian before my face." They should understand better.
At this point in my life I would not even agree to date a jesus fan boy.
It would seem that clearly they've ignored your beliefs up until that moment. Surprised they don't try harder to convert you! I hope you have better luck in the future. It's definitely worth waiting to find someone who's on the same page.
Maybe they are trying to keep an open mind? That’s hard to say these days. I was raised Christian and date all types of beliefs. I’m agnostic now mainly because the evil I see in those people, not the actual religion itself. Maybe they are looking for a way out?
I instantly block/delete anyone who claims to be Christian/religious, and if they don't say so in their dating profiles, I ghost them the moment they reveal Christian religious beliefs to me.
I have no reason to argue with or communicate with them further, at all.
They think they understand but dont. Reality is not their thing lol
I avoid (like the plague? Is that too biblical a simile?) anyone who appears to be somewhat serious about their religion. But I have good friends (some of them women) who are religious but are very cool about it.
As long as they don't intend to convert me, or exercise their religion in a harmful way, I am no longer concerned about it. I am content with being an atheist, no longer care so much about being an antitheist.
Oh no biblical similes are the best! To understand the potent literary references therein is the only reason to study the Bible, other than more effectively pissing off christians. Best simile in the Bible is Ezekiel 23:19-22 I think, where the good lord saw fit to inspire the comparison: the men of egypt are hung like donkeys and they cum like horses! Apparently it's a pleasure to be a harlot there. Good to know, god. No yelp reviews for where a fella can get some action though? Oh duh, I'll just conquer a neighboring tribe and take their virgins then shall I? Oh god, you're a hoot. ?
My experience has been that believers actually think that anyone who identifies as agnostic or atheist just need to hear the 'good words' and they'll be magically converted. I think they believe it gives them brownie points towards 'heaven' if they can save some pagan souls.
Sometimes even includes some superiority. But that's people. I know some non believes that act superior as well. Like political arguing... Hardly ever ends with "oh I see it your way now!" All beliefs and non beliefs are pretty deep rooted and are slow to change. But Christians call that planting seeds, they are taught this is godly work to convert you.