People say that Christmas is a depressing time of year; I think it's valentines. What do you think?
I like thanksgiving the best. Valentines day to you, means lonely, Is it feeling not loved>
I do not know but I find Valentines day a pain in the ass. When I am in a relationship I do Valentines a lot. Always happy to bring flowers and say that something special. Love yourself is the key
I'll tell you what...I'm happier after Valentine's day when the chocolate is half price. heh heh Don't be blue misty.
They're both silly, made up days. One is the same as the next. That's the way I look at it.
I go along with them, but only in context. Once I moved to Thailand in 2010, I never celebrated Christmas at all, and didn't want to. As for Valentine's Day, the Thai celebrate it as friend love, and I always got love cards, flowers, and candy from my Thai students, who honor their teachers.
Valentine's comes and goes quickly. If it lasted 2 months like the "joyful season" does, it'd suck just as badly.
I think any day is what you make of it! I buy myself lovely presents, when I find a frippary, have them ready for forany holiday! Who deserves it more? I especially like picking up lovely things year round, wrapping them immediately, and then on, say, Valentine's, opening a few & being amazed & delighted by my good taste......depending on others to validate you is just not a good idea........
Yes, be good to yourself. I heartily concur.
I hate February! Seriously, the shortest month of the year has the worst weather and the stupid damn holiday in the center. I'm so sick of the cold weather. And when I drive to work (I go directly east) if the sun is out it is blinding everyone and all the other drivers are stupid (yes, I whine.) I just grit my teeth and dream of spring.
you have a good point THis is that last bit of the gray days when you are already tired of it already
i'm glad for feb - it let me hop into the world once; & when i got tired of not having garden party birthdays i moved to oz
I think we make of the world what we want. To me there is no depressing 'time of the year'. There certainly are depressing things that go on in this world over which I have no control. How I deal with those is to recognize them for what they are and make the conscious decision to either do whatever I can about them, or find some way to mitigate their effects on my life.
In any case, my life is mine to live and I am the one who makes it upbeat or a drudge. I prefer to be upbeat and see my world as a place of possibilities and opportunities rather than shackles and chains.
With you on that, brother.
Christmas is fine, most of my various charges from over the years visit, we beach and feast and I go broke. I hate Valentines and Halloween as I mention at every opportunity. Blatant marketing exercises to sell crap.
Ugggh! I HATE Halloween-stupidest "holiday" ever.
No emotional ties to holidays. To me they're just one more day in a series. I don't even really like it when people want to celebrate my birthday, honestly. I don't mind celebrating any given day, if others want to include me in their events, but I wouldn't seek it out, or celebrate on my own.
i'm the same.
When I am not seeing anyone, I find Valentine's pretty easy to ignore. It becomes more of an issue if I am seeing somebody and they have high expectations that I am not aware of.
It is Christmas! And up until a few years ago, I would get so depressed, that I could hardly function. It is better now, but I just try and do something else at that time of year!
I think of Valentine;s day as a kids holiday. IN the past few years it seems it is becoming more commercialized. People are having more expectations. Anticipation is a set up for a let down,
Hooray for capitalism
I think going to bed alone is depressing. Holidays are just another day.
I think single people need to reclaim Valentine's day for a wide variety of reasons.
Reason #1. Syphilis.
Our concepts of romantic love derive from great writers and poets - John Keats, Shakespeare Tolstoy, and Henry the 8th - all of whom were rumored to have syphilis' neurological disorder which ate away at your ability to judge things that attracted or repulse you. There is even a theory swimming out there that Donald Trump has this disorder. So in home-age to literature and martyrdom (as St. Valentine himself was considered) creating the concept of romance - give it up to syphilis.
2.Turn Valentine's Day into Halloween 2: The Masquerade Orgy. Aren't you fucking tired of couples rubbing their lovey dovey bullshit in your face? Singles - take over, get your whips and chains, leather up, skimp it up and lets get sexy.
V-Day I guess since I'm single.
I don't let any of those days get me depressed. Besides look at all the friends you have on this site.
Valentines seems less of a requirement to prove your humanity or life's worth as say Christmas. Maybe it is the length of time we have to look at all of that stuff. At least with Valentines day you can be more flippant and people don't take your comments as seriously, or become as offended. Thursday I saw a pair of plush camels in with all of the valentines plush animals at our area Hellmart and I couldn't fathom why camels would be a valentines plush until someone said; "how else would you tell some one that you want to hump them"?
I enjoy Christmas in a secular way. Valentine's Day is horribly depressing. Even when I was married I never got anything for VD because my ex said it was a made-up holiday for the floral industry to profit from. And now I'm single so I find all the emphasis on couples depressing.
For several reasons, I don't like the whole period from mid October to Valentines Day. Years ago, my wife died in October, so I am reminded of that. Now I spend the holidays mostly alone, but I am constantly bombarded with Happy, Happy Happy messages. Then in February I am reminded of the death of my best friend. I could happily ignore Valentines Day.
I never much liked march.
Since I moved to Arizona, I love March. I don't much like summer.
Statistics say January is, but people have a high rate of breakups in this season because of holidays, pressure, cost and social burden. Add in people with Seasonal Affected Depression and you can see that this whole timerange can be dicey. Valentines is just a day away from half off chocolate day, though!