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My social skills aren't exactly finely honed, so i'm wondering if I can get a few takes on this. I tend to say i'm awesome (almost exclusively for humor purposes) and occasionally when I pull something off I didn't expect to be able to i'm actually serious. Most people will laugh with me or at me or add in something like 'you be awesome, i'm gonna be super awesome' they usually get a chuckle out of it and move on. I am also liberal with telling others they're fantastic.
However the is one man at work that it annoys the hell out of him. I don't run others down and even if I meant it 100%of the time that i'm awesome, why would that bother him so much? I'm at a loss. Shouldn't everyone think they're awesome?

CommonHuman 7 Oct 25
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Ask him.

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Well, you are awesome! And people who can’t admit it may have self image issues. I’m a recovering conservative Christian. Humility was preached a lot, and seeing yourself as awesome was not cool to them. There may be some misogyny there too, which goes back to indoctrination as well as moor images of women. I personally think intelligent and confident women are sexy

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Maybe, when he was a boy, his puppy got run over by a truck full of awesome.

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Thank you everyone! This has been enlightening!

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Not everyone will like you, no matter how amazing you are or try to be. Some people are more serious and don't like it when people are that kind of "in your face happy" around them. Don't worry about it too much. It takes all types.

MsAl Level 8 Oct 25, 2018
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..being positive is an aquired skill set
I think you on your way-regardless of what
(Critisym; cynisism;negitivity)you?
encounter.These emotions may be
some what contagious(why negitive people
are emotionally draining); so be aware
of others motivation/defend your
emotional balance?

Defend your emotional balance. Love it. Sounds like i'm about to enter a prize fight or duel.

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In just about any situation, there's always that one guy... Blow it off, awesome lady. ?

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Hugs...he clearly doesn't see your fabulousness!!!

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Tell him to keep his Debbie Downer off your cloud

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Because it's annoying? Most people are not awesome, special or any other superlative. Most people are average, 68% in fact. The bell curve exists for a reason.

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Yes absolutely we should all know how special we are and it's frustrating when we feel others don't see us in our best light or see what we are worth. How to put that across I don't know I'm no expert trust me but maybe by our actions and not by us telling them will they undetstand

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Optimism and happiness is deeply offensive to some people. I don't really know why. Best guess, their lives are miserable and
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Given the state of the world, how surprised would you be to learn some people enjoy tearing others down for no logical reason?

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There are some people that are offended by positivity. So it could be that. Some people find what they feel as self-aggrandizing as offensive, so it could be that. Then there are people who are like the meme, "bitch be eating crackers."

Without further context of the relationship and how he reacts to others it is hard to know. But it is him, not you.

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Ignore him. You can control that. You don't and shouldn't waste time trying to control him.

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Some less than awesome comments on here with regard to someones interpretation of another persons reaction to them. Answers to this question will differ between the USA and the rest of the western world, where the rest of the world considers such statements to be boastful and coarse. It's a cultural thing. The rest of the world tend to be more reserved and find such self-promotion irritating.

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Maybe the world would be a little nicer if we were all told we're awesome and we believed it. Everyone is good at something. Why not be proud of it?

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Ah, I know what it's like, it is like a sports team celebrating their victory. No one calls them conceited.

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I've always believed that we should strive to be honest in our self-assessment.

BUT, I've always said that my narcissism is like a warm blanket; it covers me no matter where I am. 🙂

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My guess is that the person, for whatever reason, just doesn't like you. It's pretty natural, especially for tongue-in-cheek comments, to see the comments as self serving or insulting to people we don't like. It might be kind of sad but I also would not worry about someone not liking you for no apparent reason. We all have preferences some of which make no sense and that includes people. It takes a maturity some people do not have to avoid acting negatively to their "non-favorite people".

OCJoe Level 6 Oct 26, 2018
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Even though you could be the most awesome person on the planet, continuously repeating the same phrase could become bordering and monotonous, but redundancy can also, to some people, be irritating. For me, I don't become irritated very easily. I am good at finding humor in these kind of things by employing a little mimicry.

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I feel sorry for this man. Maybe he was raised that way or perhaps he is unhappy in his life.
I used to be him. Then I discovered another way and although I still have that negative nelly living inside of me, I have a much more positive disposition and it has improved the quality of my life.
You can’t make everyone happy or like you, so just keep on being your awseome self and I hope that this man can maybe find something hopeful in his life.

@LetzGetReal Sure. Why not. Sometimes though, it isn’t that simple, but you never know until you try.

@LetzGetReal Yes, good point, absolutely.

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Firstly, it sounds like you are awesome and good for you for recognizing that. The person at work who has a problem with the way you are is not a problem you should concern yourself with. Sounds like he has a problem with believing in himself and that's part of his journey. You are not responsible for him. Keep up the good work.

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you are right, everyone should feel awesome. your coworker obviously has issues. be proud of yourself.

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Must be a believer.....or maybe just a person that can't handle others success's.....thinking I wouldn't be worrying about him...

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Barney...wait for it...Stinson?

Maybe youre coworker is insecure and doesn't feel so awesome. I don't get why that would bother someone, but some people have no sense of humor.

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