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Does anyone else notice people creep your profile but never say "Hi"? And by creep I mean look at it over and over.

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I had to turn off the hover option, so that I wasn't seeing everytime someone just passed over my avatar it showed them looking at my profile. My memory is not what it used to be, and I will use whatever easy crutches are available. I have a tendency to read too fast and I will go back later to make sure what I read is what I should have read. I don't know if that helps in your case since today was my first visit to your profile. I am more concerned about followers than I am visitors, but since I encourage people to follow 2 or 3 people to lead you through the site, I take that with a grain of salt.

glennlab Level 9 Jan 21, 2019
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in what way is clicking on your name to go see who you are when you've made a post they like, or dislike, equal creeping? there is no obligation or need for anyone to say hi just because they checked out your page. what if they checked out 20 pages? do they need to say hi? if everyone who visited my page said hi to me, i'd be creeped out by that!

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genessa Level 8 Jan 20, 2019

Viewing a profile is different than looking at a profile multiple times in a day.

@Jama765 i have not paid enough attention to know if anyone does that to me. i doubt it, though. but i know that sometimes if i see a post that piques my interest in some way, i go to that page, and i might go back to it later to make sure of what i saw, or because i saw another post by the same person (and maybe even forgot whether it was the same person). and i don't stalk people, either.

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Yeah. So?
No one is obligated to say "hello" or any other damned thing.
Kind of silly to expect that.

KKGator Level 9 Jan 20, 2019

Exactly

I find it odd for someone to look at my profile 10 times in a day. I don't expect anyone to say hi. But to look at it that much is odd.

@Jama765 It might be incidental. It might be someone trying to work up the nerve to say "hello".
The use of "creep your profile" is a really negative snap judgment.
You don't know that's what's happening.
I mean, if you want to let it bother you, that's your call.

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Sometimes you want to know more about what a person is about and I don't always remember what I've read about them previously. Sometimes you are looking at that little, itty bitty thumbnail photo and want to see more...and I forget what they looked like, or they changed their photo and I don't realize I'm looking at the same person again. And yes, oftentimes the "hover" view is unintentional.

Great point! Thank you!

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It’s a catch-22.
If you “hover” or look at a profile - and discover the age differential is large or the distance is great, you have two choices:
1) do nothing (and risk being labeled as a creeper)... or
2) say “hi” - and potentially “creep out” someone that thinks you’re too old...

That's why I disabled that function.

PS: I’m always respectful. Many times a “hover” is accidental, you know...

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@NoMagicCookie Thanks. I think I will too.

@Santanaman9 over 99% of my hovers were accidental. Wish that feature was by default disabled.

I meant when someone looks at your profile multiple times.

I use the app so that didnt even occure to me.

@Jama765 That makes a lot more sense to me now. I comprehend and acknowledge.

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I just didn't know how to. I've loaded and ultimately deleted several dick pics of varying quality.

I'm not good at this stuff, okay?

Haha awesome reply!

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Everyone is just curious about people here and want to see some info about them not necessarily wanting to chat. I do it all the time as has others said the same.

jlynn37 Level 8 Jan 20, 2019

Agree, but do you look at a person's profile multiple times a day?

@Jama765 No I do not.

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I look at profiles, read bios and look at photos all the time. If it doesn't seem interesting enough to start a conversation, I don't. I don't think I'm being creepy.

I don't either. I meant the same people look at it multiple times and never say hi. Why keep looking. Lol

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Doesn't bother me one bit. They could at least drop off some tacos and Coronas, but I forgot to take down the "ENTER AT YOUR OWN RISK" sign. That might help.

Mmmm, tacos.

If they gave tacos they could creep me all day. I guess I find it odd someone would look at a profile multiple times and never say hi. Why keep looking. Lol

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I check out profiles to see who l am responding to all the time. I went into my settings and changed it so people don't know if l visited their profile just for that reason. I forget who folks are sometimes. Some people change their main photo and I go there to see if it is someone new, only to see they are not. I don't see any reason to say hi if I don't really want to get acquainted.

Sticks48 Level 9 Jan 20, 2019

Very good points. Thank you!

@Jama765 You are very welcome. smile001.gif

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sometimes just moving my mouse hovers. and then other times, i mean to click one thing and wind up on a profile.

also, there are times when i find something interesting and i check out a profile to see other posts/comments. it's not necessarily 'creeping'.

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I think it's a way for people to get to know you, especially if you're making posts or replies. We have profiles with information that helps others know who we are. I think just because someone checks a profile it doesn't mean they are creeping.

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I hover over profiles all the time, to get a sense of who is behind a comment on a post. I wouldn't bother them by saying "hi" in that case.

Orbit Level 7 Jan 20, 2019

I do as well. It is often time advisable to understand who you are posting in order to help you gage the nature of your response. I was lectured one time because I asked a question which was answered in her profile. She insisted guys never read bios and ask stupid questions. Never made that mistake again.

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Agree. But do you look at someones profile 15 times a day?

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No, nor would I care if they did.

irascible Level 8 Jan 20, 2019

I just wonder why they would look at my profile 10 times in a day but never say hello.

@Jama765 It might suggest some sort of disorder of personality.

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Creeping around the corner to say....

"Hi"?

Hi

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Hi.

hankster Level 8 Jan 20, 2019

Lo! smile009.gif

Hi!

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???

hippydog Level 7 Jan 21, 2019

Don't be scaring the woman now!

@Wildflower to late. Already started randomly following her, looked at her profile twice, and never left a message. ??

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Always, I do that on purpose just to creep people out. Works everytime lol

AlexRam Level 7 Jan 21, 2019
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Hmm... looking at peoples profiles is kinda of the point... i think it’s fine. If I didn’t want people to see it I wouldn’t post it. I actually don’t look much probably because I think lots of people feel as you do. It says on my profile that I’m here for community so in my mind it’s just hanging out with other nonbelievers. Seems the visit itself is like saying hi.. I peak at my phone while living my life.. I can’t always post or interact in full. So I’m cool with it. As for how you feel, your certainly are permitted your own take and ways. That’s the trick though, we have different sensibilities so we will likely never get a consensus.

I am referring to the same person looking at it multiple times

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It's not like peeking through the window of your home or something

Rudy1962 Level 9 Jan 20, 2019

Haha very true. My point was I notice some will look at my profile 7 times in a day.

@Jama765 if someone looked at my profile seven times a day I probably would not know it. But if they did , I think I'd ask them why they keep looking at my profile. That would either scare them to death or start a very good conversation.

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i am now going to constantly check all your profiles.

I saw you looking!

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I think a few people noted that often members of the community, myself included, will revisit profiles of those posting interesting comments in order to find other interesting comments they may have posted previously. That said, I wouldn’t exclude creeping or not-so-subtle signaling as a possible motivation.

People rarely visit my profile, so I imagine this problem more readily affects female members. Or maybe I’m just not that interesting lol.

@Kattywampus69 Awww-hawww. ☺️

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Ive noticed that people I am interacting with on the threads check my profile.
I do the same thing
I also inadvertently hover over recent visitors when I move my mouse to the right which will look like a visit. I presume that the something similar happens with my visitors.

But if you all ARE creeping my profile, feel free to message me

Lucy_Fehr Level 7 Jan 21, 2019

I do not have a mouse on my NOT SO SMART GALAXY SAMSUNG phone

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I should say I'm not referring to someone looking at a profile.once. but many many times.

Jama765 Level 6 Jan 20, 2019

It may just indicate a level of interest whether it be your bio, your pics, your details, or something else entirely. You could also just message and ask why.

I doubt that qualifies as window peepers who need binoculars or trespass to your window....geographically other people we might contact are listed below all profiles....peeping restrictions destroy community and reduces our posts to cliques and secret small groups

You are attractive and they are hesitant to communicate with you because they are shy. I used to be like that. Not on the internet, just in general.

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Yeah, I just did it to you. I think that conservative word on your profile may turn some folks off. Oh, by the way, hi!

What word is that?

@Jama765 conservative

@chucklesIII I do not have conservative on my profile. My city is Connersville. Could you have misread that?

@Jama765 Yes. I'm an idiot.

@chucklesIII You just cheeky.

@chucklesIII I felt like one trying to figure out why I'd have conservative on mine. Lol

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I've had over 550 people look at my profile in less than a year. I don't think I'd want to hear from all of them... especially since much of the contact wouldn't be positive! lol The more you post the more you know.

Very true. But I'm curious why someone looks at my profile over and over.

@Jama765 ask them directly not vaguely...s/he might assume you like her/him...and a direct question might stop the peeping...it's not creeping unless it's obvious when it continues after being confronted

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