I lost my father Friday in a freak work accident, should a man of 49 feel so empty inside? Though our early years were rough, and he later betrayed my mother (who passed in 2005), we still agreed on football, politics and many other things. He lived in the mountains of Colorado, where i grew up and I in Florabama (Pensacola area) and work in Mobile, who the hell do I call when I can’t take the phsyco conservative politics down here or want to bitch about the Broncos? Fuck, kinda lost.
I am very sorry for your loss.
When you need to do those things, you can come here.
You are bound to find someone who wants to bitch about the Broncos, and I can
absolutely promise you that you will find multiple someones to commiserate with
about the psycho conservatives down here.
Be gentle with yourself. Losing a parent is hard, even when the relationship was "complicated".
This is a pretty good community of people. If you need support through this, or just need to vent about how shitty you're feeling over this, or whatever else, you can
usually find plenty of people who will listen and offer their best in response.
When I think about my father (disabled vet), whom passed in 1985 I remember his willingness to help mostly, now that there is not much help I would consider these days. Back then I just didn't know how he could help, now in retrospect - I do.***Glad you have good memories and sorry for your loss.
I remember that feeling. My Dad departed unexpectedly when I was thirty. I was working in Florida at the time. My boss took me aside and told me it would hurt for four years. I don't know how he knew, but it turned out to be true. I also don't know why he thought that would comfort me, but somehow it did. Best wishes.
Just because he betrayed your mother doesn't mean that you would not have things in common. The loss you are feeling will subside as time goes and you can get on with your life We feel an emptiness when someone passes even if we did not like or love that person the way we think we should have just because they happen to be our parents. I never got along with my mother, neither did I like her yet alone love her but still felt a loss when she was gone. I think that was a loss for something I wish would have been but never was and now it will never be. You have us 24/7 you can say whatever you like here and we will listen. Sometimes we will agree and other times not. Take care.
I am so sorry for you loss. Of course you feel empty, you've lost part of your identity and apparently a good friend. Your foundation has been shaken. It will take some time for you to process this. Grief has no timeline and it is ok to feel lost. You may also be angry, and run a whole gamut of emotions. It is normal and eventually you will become accustomed to the change in your life. I wish you peace.
I'm very sorry for your loss. That's terrible.
And I think we have a football group - yup.
"NCAA College Football and Basketball Fans"
Not the same as your Dad ever though. My Dad's been gone since I was 32 and I still miss him. So I remember what it felt like - if you ever need to talk.
I'm sorry for your loss, much in life is about suffering and learning to survive it. After my husband passed I read a lot of books about loss and it's a normal part of living, everyone suffers loss even if it's a beloved pet, it hurts a lot. Have you ever meditated? I found mediation calmed me and made me feel whole so I did it for years, helped me get thru so much. Calming yourself like that kicks in good seratonin and keeps us sane. Try it if you have time. Might help.
I am so sorry about your dad! Grieving hurts at any age and it is hard. And, that your dad died without prior warning adds another element to your grieving. We love our parents, even when they have often failed us, but we heal and realize we just wanted more than they had to give. I am very sorry that he had to go and leave you with a hole in your heart. It will heal in time.