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How do you feel about assisted suicide at the end of your journey in this life. I am definitely in favor of it. I was a nurse for 40 years and saw too much suffering. I wish it was legal in my state. And, I don't know if this is allowed on here, but what means would the common person use. I am not in any way ready , nor do I have any illness or plans for this. I'm just one who thinks ahead.

crazycat329 7 Feb 4
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Yes in favor of it under guidelines of course, for instance if you get drunk one night and call for the death squad to come over and finish you off it would be an irresponsible service if they did indeed arrive and finished you off.

JCII Level 5 Mar 29, 2019
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Im in total favor of it. I plan on using this option when the time comes. The legality / controversial nature of the issue is a byproduct of our religious culture.

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I can't say much on the subject because I've never been in a situation where death seemed a better option. I've never suffered pain that could not be helped with an aspirin. And I'm sixty years old. I do know that I would like to have the choice of ending my life in a manner that is dignified providing I was in the state of mind to make that decision and if there was no better option. For other circumstances, I couldn't care less. I will make that decision. Hypothetically speaking.
Right now I'm healthy, I love people in my life, people love me back, some of them depend on me which I like.

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I hope I have the capacity and the courage to end my life once my health and quality of life are irreversably poor, but I would appreciate it if I could legally have a doctor aid me in doing this. If that is not an option by then, I will find a way even if I have to order the drugs by mail to do it.

Exactly,,,100 % how I feel.

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I'm all for assisted end of life. I decided this after watching my Mother, who was mobile with normal aging aches and pains, locked in a secured memory care facility. She had dementia but remembered us but often talked about us as if we were much younger. She cried a lot wanting to know what she had done wrong and how bad the guards were. She wasn't in prison but it felt like it to her. She was miserable for 3 or 4 yrs and even if her memory was scrambled, her emotions, whether rightly or wrongly deserved, were real. I hope my mental state lasts long enough that I know when the right time is.

Me, too.

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Yes. I think sometimes the merciful thing to do is end suffering. I watched my mother waste away both mentally and physically and there was nothing I could do but in the same type of situation with my dog, I was able to end the suffering with a final act of love and kindness. I seriously wanted to smother my mom with a pillow at the end it was so bad. While I was sad when she passed, my main emotion was relief that it was over for her.

I understand. My mom suffered with Alzheimers for 6 years. I was envious of my friends whose mom's with Alzheimers died within several months. It was horrible to watch my mom lose any bit of dignity, any spark of independence. After she fell and broke her hip, she was chair or bed bound for her last couple years. Didn't know how to eat or open her mouth to be fed anymore. Knew none of us. Totally incontinent. I am terrified that I will become her. Nobody should have to live out their last years this way. A pillow over her face would have been merciful.

@crazycat329
I am so sorry you had to go through that. My mom lasted about 5 years in the nursing home and only the last year was to the point she couldn’t speak and didn’t know anyone. I can’t imagine doing it for any longer so I admire your strength to get through that.

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I guess I used the wrong word when I actually said "assisted suicide. I suppose the assistance I meant was in having a Dr assist you, by prescribing medications to assist you in your passing.

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Assisted suicide is bordering on oxymoronic if you think about it. Suicide means "self" inflicted. Assistance comes from "other", not self. So what we're talking about with this term may be unclear. The only circumstance I can think of in which "assisted suicide" might be an accurate description would be where a person was fully mentally competent but physically disabled to the extent they could not manipulate the necessary tools to end their own life.

Plenty of people have ended their lives by simply refusing to eat. Hard as that might be, if a person is unhappy enough with life to choose death, it is a path requiring little else other than determination.

Other than in the fairly rare circumstance mentioned above, I can't think of a reason a mentally competent person couldn't DIY this task without assistance, and if not mentally competent to make the decision at the time then another person following prior instructions would just be a murderer. There is no way to know what you will want in any given moment until that moment arrives. So, for me, except for that one rare circumstance, suicide is best left to the mentally and physically able. There are ways. It's not hard. You can figure it out with a little study. I don't want to "assist".

skado Level 9 Feb 5, 2019
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Yes . Absolutely yes .

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The only thing I wasn't ultimately willing to do to ease my mother's suffering was risk a murder charge. Had that not been a possibility, I'm certain she would have asked me.

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I watched an academic documentary about the decision to turn off life support. It was produced for medical students to help them explain options to relatives. In recent years there have been a number of famous cases involving young children. I understand they caused contraversy in USA because children belong to parents in UK where as they don't here. Anyway they interviewed families who had taken the decision to turn off life support (assisted suicide of a sort). Most moved forward but notably a few families couldn't. One guy said, it is easy to say what you would do but you never know and that is the best way to view it. I can't imagine ever wanting to leave this world, but you never know.

As a 63 year old, I feel stronger in my resolve everyday to leave this world on my own terms. Hospice helps, but just doesn't go far enough.

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I’m 110% for it and as someone who’s watched people die a slow and suffering death due to disease, cancer or even worse the treatments for cancer I want to have that option and I believe that everyone else should as well.

Our country needs to put humanity before profit.

@48thRonin, like corporations are ever going to let anything come between them and profit. And hospitals are nothing but for profit.

@freeofgod I don’t know how much are you willing to risk in order to make them know that we are the majority?
Apparently by your answer you’ve already accepted defeat.

Oh and you’re wrong about hospitals as well. While there are a majority that are for profit there has been a growing trend over the last couple of years of hospitals not just switching to non profit but also replacing their leadership positions with doctors and even nurses.

And even more unbelievable than that there’s even a few co operative facilities where they’re owned by the cities and they share what’s needed including treatment information.

All of this might be small and in limited locations but it’s as they say “ trending “

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The fact that you can choose assisted suicide also means you decide how your life ends, not some horrible disease. It also means you can prepare your family, bring them together if they will come, and say goodby on your terms. Who knows, maybe you could even attend your own funeral.

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I'm in favor of mercy. I was present when my father-in-law received the morphine shot. He'd been diagnosed with Parkinsons & Alzheimers many years before, lost mobility and speech. He wasn't living, just trapped in existence. I wouldn't wish that on anybody and the only ones I can imagine supporting it would be insurance companies wanting to make a buck and selfish family members, who just can't let go. I had a living will drafted before then and the experience made me glad I did.

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I've always said that the day I judge myself to be burden or potential liability to my family I will quietly go away and end it all rather than drag them down with me, even if they want to.

Me too...I will maybe check into a nice hotel, take a bunch of sleeping pills, sit in the tub, and have a blood-letting.

@LenHazell, when my mother was dying the nurse said she could have a morphine injection every two hours and asked if I wanted mom to have it that often. I told her to give mom every dose and not miss one. If that helped ease her out of this world I can live with it just fine.

@freeofgod absolutely, that Morphine is a dying person's best friend.

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There is information available under "The Hemlock Society".

Though there are many assisted suicide organizations though out the world that probably have updated information as well.

Once you take religion or mental illness out of the picture - most people can see a time when it becomes a consideration to commit assisted death.

I know I've seen it in my own life - where the dose of pain med may have been what carried the person off - and I'm ok with that. They were more than ready to go.
You shouldn't have to be begging for that moment.

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I am Canadian, and we have it here..but we call it assisted dying..That is the point,, calling it assisted suicide is rife with problems of interpretation..Here it is strictly controlled in the sense that doctors are involved in the decision, usually more than one, and it is still controversial..If you changed the name perhaps it would be less frightening to those who feel that assisted suicide sounds like something you could just pick up a bottle of at a corner store...

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We OWN our bodies NOT the Churches nor the religions, I truly believe that should one be in a situation of having a terminal illness/disease, etc, then IT IS their right to elect to end their life with all the dignity and decency possible rather than be left to suffer just because some totally Imaginary Sky Daddy and its deluded followers say No.
Shit, we don't allow our beloved pets/animal friends to suffer do we, so why should we have to suffer?

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It should be the choice of the person involved. I do think it's important that the person that has asked for assisted suicide be given a small amount of time to contemplate and verify that is what they want for sure. My husband's brain cancer denied him a choice in that area. Eventually I had to make the decision to withdraw life support and that's a very hard decision when the person you love cannot communicate with you any longer. My father wanted to die during the last two months of his life but his decision wavered almost daily. In other words assisted suicide should be granted but there should be safe guards.

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Why can we not do for a person, with their wishes known, what we do for a beloved pet? My living will only goes so far.

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I have told all my children that if I ever contract an illness/disease/accident where my quality of life it essentially non-existent, that I want to be euthanized if at all possible. I do NOT want to be a burden to either myself or my family, and I do want want to be slobbering in the corner with no awareness of anything going on.

I also have a living will, and a POA with my youngest son listed. My youngest son lives with me and is well aware of what I want and don't want if something happens to me. He also is a hardheaded cajun and will make sure my wishes are heard. The only person I'm actually concerned about is my religious sister, but I feel (hopefully) I've taken cared of that by making sure my children know my wishes.

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I’m in favor of it.
I was a Hospice RN and got misconceptions about it being the ‘same’ as euthanasia. I’ve heard the same about assisted suicide, but I disagree. It’s a valid choice for end of life, just as Hospice is.
I wish it was legal here, too.

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Our society values longevity over quality. I've never understood that. In my industry I see people all the time who are suffering, in pain just waiting to die. Its heart breaking. We need better options.

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I would have voted for Jack Kevorkian for president.

palex Level 6 Feb 4, 2019
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I am in favour of it. However we must be careful about its use and abuse.
Firstly, our life belongs to us, and therefore cannot belong to another person or society.
Secondly, having seen this from my fathers perspective and that of my wife, who both died at the end of illnesses. He had had his time and wanted to go on his terms with family and friends around him having a good laugh, his music and probably a drink or five too. Instead he had to starve himself to death, waiting for his body to finally fail. Due to commitments I couldn't be with him at the end, I was nursing my wife through chemotherapy a 1000km north. So that wasn't nice for me or him. Then with my wife, she asked me some years before her untimely death to 'finish her' when the time came. I refused, but at her end, she changed her mind and wanted to live, she didn't want to leave me. Instead the NHS had to dehydrate her to death. She passed during the early hours of a Sunday, but her cognitive functions ceased on a Thursday afternoon. Just the last part of her brain stem operating the automatic functions. As a veterinary surgeon, she had put to sleep many 'furry family members' when their time came, she understood that at that point, it only serves to cause pain to family and friends by keeping a dead body alive. Choice and dignity.

There is no dignity to dying. But there should be choice on when.

@freeofgod One can be allowed to die with dignity, but death does not bring dignity with it when one is FORCED to linger whilst waiting for it simply because of some archaic Bronze Age system of out-dated, ridiculous belief.

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