Every so often, this particular topic comes up.
Recently, I was accused of "hiding" because I don't have a picture of myself posted. The person making that accusation was making a whole lot of false assumptions based on nothing more than an avatar.
I'm not here for dating, and I have never liked having my picture taken.
I do not feel it's necessary to post one's picture on the internet, or anywhere else, if one doesn't wish to.
If I were on this site for dating, that would be a completely different story, but since I never have been,
I don't believe I "have" to put up my picture.
I don't think any of us are obligated to share our pictures.
I agree . I am not here to find a mate , I have hard x to open face to face on that department , I can't even imagine online dating . I don't feel comftable even to have location let aside pic . I did recently Bcz of few nice to me humans on this site that I figured they might wanna know who that idiot w the bad English is or looks like . That includes u , bcz I love to read u . But I reserve the right to put my avatar pic back any x I want , and I don't give a damn what everyone thinks or says .
WOW! That's still a thing? Geez! I think there is a photo of me in my profile pics but since I'm not here primarily to date I don't use it for the main image.
I think if I met someone on this site I'd want to see a picture of them but to think you deserve to see a photo of someone who is here for the community is bull shit and a bit controlling - IMHO.
You are spot on! No need for a photo when not interested in dating. Some "here for community" people though, are also looking just not as open about it. I personally know some. And for them a photo to anyone they have an interest in should be provided, it wouldn't need to be public. But one such person, I know, won't, and won't say why. Maybe there is a valid reason but it's hard to imagine and only creates more and more questions and red flags.
I feel the same way. Not here for dating and also do not like taking pictures. Apparently, being a millenial against taking selfies makes me a pariah with low self-esteem or trying to scam guys. Scam into what exactly? I do not ask for money or support or anything from men. So what exactly am I scamming anyone out of? Couple of days ago some idiot messaged me about my faceless profile then accused me of animal abuse for posting a pic of my sister's dog. Honestly, such men are disgusting because it literally says to me they only think I am worth talking to if they deem me attractive enough to do so. And with a mentality like that, I don't want them talking to me anyways!
Well said, should there be otherwise a 'Catfish' option for those who just wish to play people?
Post the image you are happy with. I'm a plump Englishman in a kilt in my photo. Usually I'm a stout Englishman in trousers. But I live in Scotland.
I'd like to find love, and I think it would be unfair to show a photo of me when I was young and sexy, as I'm almost 57 and not sexy. I don't add 'Here for community' but that is what I do. No one has asked me for a date, and to be honest, I don't think that will ever happen.
I never post my pic online. I'm just another bearded white guy (stunningly handsome, btw, so it's more of a favor to the other guys here that I dont), and I happen to think you can tell a lot more about someone from their choice of avatar than from a pic of them.
I wouldn't mind the option to turn pics off, in reality. I don't really care how someone I like looks, I care much more about how they make me feel.
Oh I agree with you. I'm not here for dating. I found out about this site from Faceberg, where I also have an avatar. My friends and family know what I look like, that's what's important. I suppose if someone really wanted to know what you look like, they could ask you nicely and then you could decide whether or not to send them a picture.
I do not think you have to have a picture. I think many of us do enjoy being able to see an image who we are talking with. But it is not a necessity. On the other hand some people post such blurry photos you can not tell what they look like any way. The other one is the group photo...ahhh which one in the group are you?
I've found that conversations like the one you just had are more about that other person. It suggests if they can't assign a number to you then they've got to shame you into doing so. They're assuming everyone here deserves their approval to be here.
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A little late on the conversation here. I particularly like to see faces of who I interact with, just like in real life. Even if a dog face I guess. I don't care if there is a profile pic necessarily. I wouldn't judge that person. But again, I like to see a face specially if we become friends.
Actually, we are not far from each other. Haha
(I'm not gonna get into a profile with a pic of someone else's and claiming that is their own.)
That's my two cents. ?