Every so often, this particular topic comes up.
Recently, I was accused of "hiding" because I don't have a picture of myself posted. The person making that accusation was making a whole lot of false assumptions based on nothing more than an avatar.
I'm not here for dating, and I have never liked having my picture taken.
I do not feel it's necessary to post one's picture on the internet, or anywhere else, if one doesn't wish to.
If I were on this site for dating, that would be a completely different story, but since I never have been,
I don't believe I "have" to put up my picture.
I don't think any of us are obligated to share our pictures.
I agree . I am not here to find a mate , I have hard x to open face to face on that department , I can't even imagine online dating . I don't feel comftable even to have location let aside pic . I did recently Bcz of few nice to me humans on this site that I figured they might wanna know who that idiot w the bad English is or looks like . That includes u , bcz I love to read u . But I reserve the right to put my avatar pic back any x I want , and I don't give a damn what everyone thinks or says .
WOW! That's still a thing? Geez! I think there is a photo of me in my profile pics but since I'm not here primarily to date I don't use it for the main image.
I think if I met someone on this site I'd want to see a picture of them but to think you deserve to see a photo of someone who is here for the community is bull shit and a bit controlling - IMHO.
You are spot on! No need for a photo when not interested in dating. Some "here for community" people though, are also looking just not as open about it. I personally know some. And for them a photo to anyone they have an interest in should be provided, it wouldn't need to be public. But one such person, I know, won't, and won't say why. Maybe there is a valid reason but it's hard to imagine and only creates more and more questions and red flags.
I feel the same way. Not here for dating and also do not like taking pictures. Apparently, being a millenial against taking selfies makes me a pariah with low self-esteem or trying to scam guys. Scam into what exactly? I do not ask for money or support or anything from men. So what exactly am I scamming anyone out of? Couple of days ago some idiot messaged me about my faceless profile then accused me of animal abuse for posting a pic of my sister's dog. Honestly, such men are disgusting because it literally says to me they only think I am worth talking to if they deem me attractive enough to do so. And with a mentality like that, I don't want them talking to me anyways!
Well said, should there be otherwise a 'Catfish' option for those who just wish to play people?
Post the image you are happy with. I'm a plump Englishman in a kilt in my photo. Usually I'm a stout Englishman in trousers. But I live in Scotland.
I'd like to find love, and I think it would be unfair to show a photo of me when I was young and sexy, as I'm almost 57 and not sexy. I don't add 'Here for community' but that is what I do. No one has asked me for a date, and to be honest, I don't think that will ever happen.
I never post my pic online. I'm just another bearded white guy (stunningly handsome, btw, so it's more of a favor to the other guys here that I dont), and I happen to think you can tell a lot more about someone from their choice of avatar than from a pic of them.
I wouldn't mind the option to turn pics off, in reality. I don't really care how someone I like looks, I care much more about how they make me feel.
Oh I agree with you. I'm not here for dating. I found out about this site from Faceberg, where I also have an avatar. My friends and family know what I look like, that's what's important. I suppose if someone really wanted to know what you look like, they could ask you nicely and then you could decide whether or not to send them a picture.
I've found that conversations like the one you just had are more about that other person. It suggests if they can't assign a number to you then they've got to shame you into doing so. They're assuming everyone here deserves their approval to be here.
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A little late on the conversation here. I particularly like to see faces of who I interact with, just like in real life. Even if a dog face I guess. I don't care if there is a profile pic necessarily. I wouldn't judge that person. But again, I like to see a face specially if we become friends.
Actually, we are not far from each other. Haha
(I'm not gonna get into a profile with a pic of someone else's and claiming that is their own.)
That's my two cents. ?