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How do you respond when somebody you have never met in person and only exchanged a sentence or two with online suddenly tells you they are "honest?"

Deb57 8 July 1
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Agreed, anyone you don't know that has to "prefix" a statement to manipulate you into their frame of reference.... worst yet are those that use gaslighting tactics to put you on the defensive or invoke a emotional response to a clearly deceptive premise.

One should stand by what they say and more importantly what they due.

Kuato:
You are what you do. A man is defined by his actions, not his memory.

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I say, "I have trust issues and people have to prove themselves to me. I think everyone is dishonest until he/she proves to me otherwise over a period of time."

Guilty until proven innocent. I don’t blame you. I’ve run into scammers. Sure as Hell (did I say that, I don’t believe in Hell] is a sad commentary on our society.

@banton I can spot a foreign scammer online by looking at the profile. Homegrown ones are more difficult. However, the signs soon show up!

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Also remember the motto of that bumbling nitwit President W. Bush. Errrrrrr... You can fool all of the people all of the time, but you can't fool none of the people at no time at all. That's the logic he used in the Invasion of Iraq.

@LimitedLight I wrote a book on how he got into Yale as a "legacy student" due to his grandfather, Prescott Bush. The story recounts how he defeated Kerry in 2004 with the help of Pope Benedict. Read The Moron and the Mouse and you'll understand what these bastards are getting away with. I get mad just thinking about it.

[amazon.com]

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Honest and intelligent people have no reason to state such things about themselves.

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"Believe me, many people say I'm honest...very stable and honest!"

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Could be worse, some people think that's enough interaction to tell you they love you.

That usually never happens before the third private message. 😉

@Deb57 I love you.

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when people say they are really honest or tell story and say they arent lying, I think it is strange. I just don't find most people say that. I assume people are honest unless I find out otherwise

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I typically will trust someone until you show me I can't. Then hit the road. That is not to say I'm giving my car keys to a stranger.

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Well, you've no way of knowing how honest the person may or not be considering your limited contact with them. If they don't get that, walk away now.

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I would just ignore the comment.

alon Level 6 July 1, 2019

i wouldn't. it's a clue. don't ignore clues.

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Not enough information to give an opinion.

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What does your inner self say one or two sentences or conversations doesn't IMO call for a, oh I'm honest.

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I'd ask them why they have a need to declare their honesty ?

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"Aren't we all".

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Honest people don’t usually feel the need to advertise the fact. Without context it’s hard to really advise you how to respond.

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"Methinks thou dost protest too much" - Shakespeare.

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Tell them you lie all the time....especially if it makes someone feel better, like yeah you look skinny in those jeans. Not everything needs honesty.
Most people probably fib a hundred times a day, if that's true the person is not being honest.

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Do not believe them! Truly honest people never give it a thought...have You ever said that to anybody?

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I will ask: what do you mean being honest? Maybe this person will answer but keep asking questions until this person gets tired. "Scammers"

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I would evaluate their need to tell you such. Why do they feel it important to convince you of that? But yea, Red Flag, honestly 🙂

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That person is the Judge, jury and the accused...

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Well, perhaps I believe that🙂 time can tell if they are really mean what they told. As well as I myself telling that I am honest even I just talk or text the person even we haven't met personally.

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I'd say, "Great! I think most people ARE honest, don't you?" And get into a long, deep discussion about honesty.

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Everybody lies. Big lies, little lies, we ALL do it. Sometimes without even realizing it.

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That's odd.

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