Yup... Been there. I find out political and religious views well before investing a great deal of time.

Sorry for your loss and missunderstanding experience! I like to travel bit not to get disappointed like that. I guess lesson learned...

You are right. Most people don't know much about their own religious beliefs and traditions let alone anyone elses. There have been several studies showing that non believers have a significantly higher knowledge and understanding of religions than believers do. In my experience when it comes to religion don't assume anything.

religion or lack thereof should be an early topic of discussion if you expect to get cozy with someone

I state in all my profiles the following:

I am not religious in any form or fashion!!!

If you are conservative we might be able to have centrist discussions about politics and your god(s)!

Most do not read your profile!

I now ask them if they have read my dating profile to avoid confusion!

Even if you do find one that might work they might turn out be allergic to your pets, after the fact even when mentioned in your profile!!!

Sorry

We don't fault people for believing. We disagree completely but we get it. If they take the same position with us they're disrespecting their god. Hard for us not to hate their god.

It was not meant to be, a faith clash..

Maybe she wanted to continue the relationship after death. Heaven does not accept hell’s travel passport. LOL.

That's too bad but personally since she did say she was a Christian I think it is fair to ask some clarifying questions before you commit to a 375 mile drive. The first person I dated as an adult was a Christian and was clear about being an active churchgoer. Other than that we had a tremendous amount in common and corresponded and spoke at length. I flew half way around the world to meet her, met her friends (whom I assume were Christians too), even went to her church for a service and went through the motions. But she dumped me because she couldn't handle not being able to share her Christian life with me. I think it was just as well and she saved me a lot of heartache further down the road.

After that I never dated a practicing religious person again, but I did end up dating a few lapsed Catholics along the way though

Dating sites .. Ugh. 375 miles is one long ass drive. I hope she was meeting you halfway.

Dodged a bullet there. Still, props for putting yourself out there.

The older believers seem to escalate their faith habits REGARDLESS of liberal or fundamentalist kinds.... it is sad to see and hear from our Atheist perspective when the true good news there is no hell to fear nor heaven bribes in reality to accept

At least you were upfront... It saves time and energy

Is it possible both xian female and Atheist widower are both TrumpOLINIbots ? Maybe she loved Ayn Rand and so does he ? ?

Hard to believe anyone could be that naïve. I sometimes don’t mention what my religious beliefs are before meeting but to drive 375 miles without revealing that is your own fault. Don’t blame her!

My wife and I began our marriage as “liberal” Xtians, with a belief largely based on the writing of Ethicist Joseph Fletcher who was a Xtian Ethicist but eventually became an Atheist. I fairly recently came out of the closet as an Atheist to my wife even though I thought that many of my comments over the past 5 years expressed my feelings that god is a myth and that I was confirming something that she already knew. She was in fact horrified that I would express such a thought. Since that first conversation about my most recent religious thoughts her way of dealing with my attempts to talk about it have been avoidance, criticism of my reading material and resulting thoughts, questions about my mental health, and instructions to keep these thoughts to myself in the future. I have thought that over the 37 years that we have been together that we could talk about anything, even if we were in disagreement but this was apparently a bridge too far.

I certainly emphasize with what you experienced on your date.

Wow! Lesson learned?

That is a worry for me too cannot take another believer unless it's weak belief

Thanks ; timely info as to how a person will present themselves - in some regions of the country , "religion free"
seems to be looked at as a DEFICIENCY, as opposed to an excersize of a clear and rational mind.