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My mother died last evening of cancer.
Though we were estranged to some degree I am terribly sad ?.
I may not be on here much over the next few days.

SunnyCorazon 5 Apr 13

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My condolences to you and your family. No matter what type of relationship we have with our parents they are missed when they die.

What you said is NOT true. Maybe this applies to your particular situation, but I am sure that it does not apply to everyone. I went to school in Wallaceburg. My father "stopped his clock" with a shotgun, my first year in high school. And my old mother, had talent; she could start an argument with anyone: Mahatma Gandy or the fictional JC. either. That was her "joy" in life. If Nature has provided a second life, I never want to meet either of them again.

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I'm sorry. Mother daughter relationships can be challenging. Though you had an estranged relationship, at the end of the day, you only have one mom. I sometimes wonder if part of the grief is that there is no longer a possibility of reconciliation. :-/

Take care of you, take the time you need to grieve. It's still a major loss. Sending wishes of peace and comfort and healing thoughts...

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I am so sorry. My father and I did not know each other well and had just started having a relationship when he died when I was 31.

I understand the kind of the sadness that comes from that.

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Sorry to hear that your mom passed on. At this time, I’m recently estranged from my mom who’s in her mid eighties. I wish I knew words to help U, cuz I know when she leaves us, I will be very sad. Hope U fair well. Let me know. Best to U.

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Take your time to grieve; we'll still be here when you want to reconnect, hopefully to make you smile and help you through.

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I’m so sorry for your loss 😟 whether a lost love or a death, science says it stings in the same place in the mind. It seems only time will heal the wound but having a support group of friends and family also helps immensely! Try not to be alone!

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Sometimes grieving a person with whom the relationship was strained is more difficult. It can be confusing with all kinds of feels. Wishing you peace.

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I am very sorry. Emotions are complicated. Let yourself feel what you feel and take what comfort in any good memories you can find. Wishing you peace and comfort.

Deb57 Level 8 Apr 14, 2018
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Sunny, we are sorry for you loss. Whatever the situation, it must be very difficult for you.

When my father died from cancer, I realized there are things worse than death. Your mom is no longer in pain.

We'll be here when you need us.

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I am so very very sorry. Look after yourself give yourself lots of time, estranged or not sadness will take its toll. Nothing takes the pain away. Just let yourself cry...and slowly you will heal enough to manage a new chapter.

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Very sorry for your loss. Estrangement doesn't lessen the pain of loss.
Please be gentle with yourself. Take all the time you need.
We'll all be here when you get back. I, for one, have no life and am always here. 😉
Seriously, we're here for you.

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Sorry to hear - take care.

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I'm so sorry for your loss. Losing a mother is never easy. If you want to talk, I'm here for you.

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Sorry for your loss. We understand.

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So very sorry for your loss. You are not alone and while nothing can temper what you are going through the good folks here on agnostic.com give you a virtual hug and will be here for support. I lost my dad some years back and went through the same range of emotions you are going through. Hugs from us all.

Ohub Level 7 Apr 13, 2018
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I am so sorry for your loss. It is hard when there is unfinished business between you.

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I'm so sorry for your loss....

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My sincerest condolences to you.

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So sorry for your loss.

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Condolences on your loss.

Coldo Level 8 Apr 13, 2018
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That much would be understandable, and my condolences for the loss of your mother, death is never fair for anyone. I hope all goes well for you, do take care.

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There are no words

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My deepest sympathies and condolences to you...

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At my mother’s funeral, a good friend softly said to me, “Keep your head up”.

Keep your head up SunnyCorazon.

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