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Over Spring Break, I took a road trip by myself. Though there were moments when I would have been more comfortable with a travel partner, I enjoyed spending time alone. What solo travel memories do some of you have? Do you prefer to travel alone or with a travel buddy?

tcuhrndfrog 4 Apr 13
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I've traveled pretty extensively around the world. Often the road/plane/boat part was alone, but one makes friends and connections along the way. So, not truly alone. It is hard to fight that instinct to turn and say, "did you see that?" and find there's no one there to share something with. Shared experience is nice, but I'd not have traded some of the moments of solitude either. 🙂

Your response makes me think of one of my favorite exerpts, Steve.

Excerpted from The Poisonwood Bible. Copyright © 1998 by Barbara Kingsolver. All rights reserved. No part of this book may be used or reproduced without written permission from HarperCollins Publishers.

They have no idea. One has only a life of one’s own.

I’ve seen things they’ll never know about. I saw a family of weaver birds work together for months on a nest that became such a monstrous lump of sticks and progeny and nonsense that finally it brought their whole tree thundering down. I didn’t speak of it to my husband or children, not ever. So you see. I have my own story, and increasingly in my old age it weighs on me. Now that every turn in the weather whistles an ache through my bones, I stir in bed and the memories rise out of me like a buzz of flies from a carcass. I crave to be rid of them, but find myself being careful, too, choosing which ones to let out into the light. I want you to find me innocent. As much as I’ve craved your lost, small body, I want you now to stop stroking my inner arms at night with your fingertips. Stop whispering. I’ll live or die on the strength of your judgment, but first let me say who I am. Let me claim that Africa and I kept company for a while and then parted ways, as if we were both party to relations with a failed outcome. Or say I was afflicted with Africa like a bout of a rare disease, from which I have not managed a full recovery. Maybe I’ll even confess the truth, that I rode in with the horsemen and beheld the apocalypse, but still I’ll insist I was only a captive witness. What is the conqueror’s wife, if not a conquest herself? For that matter, what is he? When he rides in to vanquish the untouched tribes, don’t you think they fall down with desire before those sky-colored eyes? And itch for a turn with those horses, and those guns? That’s what we yell back at history, always, always. It wasn’t just me; there were crimes strewn six ways to Sunday, and I had my own mouths to feed. I didn’t know. I had no life of my own.

And you’ll say I did. You’ll say I walked across Africa with my wrists unshackled, and now I am one more soul walking free in a white skin, wearing some thread of the stolen goods: cotton or diamonds, freedom at the very least, prosperity. Some of us know how we came by our fortune, and some of us don’t, but we wear it all the same. There’s only one question worth asking now: How do we aim to live with it?

I know how people are, with their habits of mind. Most will sail through from cradle to grave with a conscience clean as snow. It’s easy to point at other men, conveniently dead, starting with the ones who first scooped up mud from riverbanks to catch the scent of a source. Why, Dr. Livingstone, I presume, wasn’t he the rascal! He and all the profiteers who’ve since walked out on Africa as a husband quits a wife, leaving her with her naked body curled around the emptied-out mine of her womb. I know people. Most have no earthly notion of the price of a snow-white conscience.

I would be no different from the next one, if I hadn’t paid my own little part in blood. I trod on Africa without a thought, straight from our family’s divinely inspired beginning to our terrible end. In between, in the midst of all those steaming nights and days darkly colored, smelling of earth, I believe there lay some marrow of honest instruction. Sometimes I can nearly say what it was. If I could, I would fling it at others, I’m afraid, at to their ease. I’d slide this awful story off my shoulders, flatten it, sketch out our crimes like a failed battle plan and shake it in the faces of my neighbors, who are wary of me already. But Africa shifts under my hands, refusing to be party to failed relations. Refusing to be any place at all, or any thing but itself: the animal kingdom making hay in the kingdom of glory. So there it is, take your place. Leave nothing for a haunted old bat to use for disturbing the peace. Nothing, save for this life of her own.

We aimed for no more than to have dominion over every creature that moved upon the earth. And so it came to pass that we stepped down there on a place we believed unformed, where only darkness moved on the face of the waters. Now you laugh, day and night, while you gnaw on my bones. But what else could we have thought? Only that it began and ended with us. What do we know, even now? Ask the children. Look at what they grew up to be. We can only speak of the things we carried with us, and the things we took away.

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I like to travel alone. Last year about this time, I took a road trip in my brand-new Subaru Legacy to spend a week in Hot Springs, Arkansas. I ran out of gas in a construction zone on a state highway about 10 miles from Hot Springs. Got to spend some quality time with an Arkansas State trooper . 🙂

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Ive road tripped through western Canada on many occassions by myself and amny occassions with a partner. Sometimes its great to travel alone with just your thoughts but other times it`s nice to have a companion to share the trip with too.

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I've traveled solo a few times. I went to Amsterdam in 2010 and the Dominican Republic in 2011.

Awesome! I can't imagine traveling that far alone, but I might someday.

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I have done several trips on my own. I spent 2 months in Singapore and during that time I went down to Indonesia. I have also been to Pune India. I had a great time in both places. I would definitely go back to Singapore.

Wow! Very cool!

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Oh nice. I see you also have a Subaru. I took my just- purchased Crosstrek out west and up into British Columbia. I spent two months in the vast greenness that is Vancouver Island, Oregon, Washington, and Northern California. It was a perfect experience and I will do it again but a travel buddy would improve many of the experiences and probably encourage me to be a little bit braver in some areas; I didn’t hike the Pacific Rim National Park because there was a wolf watch ?

I know how you feel. When I am alone, I take extra precautions to be safe. I love my Subaru, by the way. 🙂

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When young I was solo in everythign so all my travels were on my own. Never gave it much htought. Now I hate travelling alone.

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I have quite a few memories of traveling and being accused of being dead... I would have loved to have had someone to share all the other experiences with, but I won't forget the journey just because I was alone.

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I'm fine either way. I've done a lot of solo travel since my divorce but have also had some nice trips with special ladies. Right after my divorce I found myself in Miami for work and decided to book a last minute cruise. I met the most amazing woman on that trip. We have gotten together once or twice a year ever since. Neither of us can really move so we just get together when we can.

I hope you guys find a way for one of you to move, Tim!

@tcuhrndfrog ahhh thanks! ?

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Having a travel buddy is like having a business partner. They'd better be damned good or else it's better to fly solo. Hmmm, sounds like marriage.....

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Traveling alone has it advantages you can do what ever you want to do
but is nice to have a buddy too to look out or feel you can discuss options and laugh and joke
I met and made lot of new feinds on the way but nothing like having a buddy whom you know that is there if you need her/him

Rosh Level 7 Apr 13, 2018
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South Pad?
I prefer to be by myself. I remember once I drove to Big Bend. I came over a hill, not too far west of FW and suddenly felt as if I'd changed planets. All of a sudden, the horizon seemed wider and further. I chased it until it go too dark. Then enjoyed a million stars.

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I just did my first solo holiday! You do what you want, you eat where you want. I was gone for 2 weeks, which turned out to be too long for me to be alone. I think a week would have been perfect, and I will do it again in the future.

I have travelled with friends - some felt the need to do every little thing together and that drives me bonkers. I need some alone time! A perfect travel companion for me would have a good balance of time together and time alone.

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I ran away from home when I was 17. I drove my Pontiac Tempest 8,000 miles all over the Western U.S., alone for 3-1/2 weeks. I only went home because I ran out of money. It was a great adventure. I fell in love with the West, prompting me some years later to pull up stakes and move out there for two decades. I like traveling alone, but it is fun to share and adventure too. I'm okay with being alone, I kind of like myself and enjoy going where my sense of adventure points me, without a plan or anything. I've been threatening to do a Blue Highways type trip, staying off Interstates and major U.S. highways as much as possible, to see the country, not the Walmartized and McDonaldized version of it.

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I've done both. Lately, I want a partner. Maybe it's the partner...maybe it's the age.

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When I was in Kansas, my work with public schools took me across the entire state for meetings and in conducting training. When I travelled, I ususally travelled alone and NEVER took a cell phone with me.That time on the road was MY time. I would turn the radio to classical music and enjoy the scenes of the prairie. It was also my time for thinking.

I also took a number of long trips v(1.200 - 1,400 miles) across the country by myself. Although I sometimes got tired, I did not mind either long distance driving or travelling alone.

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I don't travel. I get homesick way too quickly.

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Most of my travel is solo.
Kyoto, Sapporo, Frankfurt, Leipzig, most of our national parks, Montana, Alaska, Hawaii; all solo.

I'd prefer a like-minded partner, but otherwise I'd rather go alone than in a group just to have someone else there.

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LOVE road trips. I'm heading to Arizona at the end of May for my next one.

Duke Level 8 Apr 13, 2018
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A travel buddy, as long as she brings the beer ?

And leaves the underwear at home !

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