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Islam allows a man to have four wives. Why does Islam not allow a woman to have four husbands?

anglophone 8 July 27
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Because some of the men may give her better sex and none of the other men want to be a loser in the dick department.

Ah, that group of men who use their testicles as a substitute for their brains. 🙂

@anglophone When they were passing out brains the men hid because they thought they were saying RAIN.

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Because it's a man's world no matter the religion.😒

And I have major issues about it being a man's world. I do all I can to further the cause of equality.

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One explanation given is that it allows a man to marry and support the widows of men killed in battle.

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My guess is that it is an overtly sexist dogma intended to, among other things, keep women in an inferior subservient role. But I'm willing to listen to someone explain it to me in non-dogmatic terms.

zeuser Level 9 July 27, 2022

My own prejudices align with your thinking about keeping women subservient.

That is my thought, too. Women get treated like chattle. In fundamentalist Mormonism, faithful men are rewarded by being allowed to marry more women, and they can be punished by having wives taken away and given to other men.

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We subjugate the fuck out of our women and treat them like second-class citizens/property/incubators now. Don't think we have much room to talk about how any country or religion treats their women.

I would not say that about all American men. But it seems true about Christian nationalists. They are open about their desire for patriarchy. And of course Madison Avenue has long objectified women in advertising.

@Flyingsaucesir
I'm not just taking about men. Women are voting to take rights away from women here as well. So if some men don't, it doesn't much matter on a nation-wide scale. Just like there's probably some Muslim men that don't have more than one wife, but that didn't prevent commentary on the fact that they're allowed to.

@ChestRockfield It's true that there are many women who support the subjugation of women. In fact, one could argue that it couldn't happen without their active collusion.

@Flyingsaucesir For sure. They are a majority. They could, if they cared about their rights more than anything else, vote as a bloc and control every single elected and appointed position in the country. Instead, men are actually more pro-choice than women now (according to a poll Maher referenced on his show).

@ChestRockfield I think it's because the women with more than one child want the rest of the female population to be just as miserable as they are.

@K9JetLee999 🤣 Probably. But then why do these mothers continue to have more babies??

@ChestRockfield The husbands want them barefoot and pregnant. They probably have no money for doc appointments and don't know how to pay for the birth control.

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Islam allows a man to have four wives with the provision that he can support them. I believe that there is a requirement that he has to treat all of them equally with no favouritism.

A rich man regardless of his religious or non-religious views can have many mistresses and the same could be said of a rich woman who can have many lovers. The simple fact is that those who can afford it may have as many relationships as they wish.

@Gwendolyn2018 Everybody knows that there are repercussions if a Muslim woman has an affair and she is found out. The barbaric practice of stoning a woman or a man to death is not practiced by all Muslim countries.

[religioustolerance.org]

[islamicfiqh.net]

@Gwendolyn2018 She does run the risk of stoning by the Taliban if caught fornicating...but so does a man, if he is not politically connected...

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Until we are able to teach girls that the concept of marriage is unnecessary, we'll have to keep fighting this battle.

Equal pay would likely boost the number of women that choose to not marry as well as the number of women that choose to leave unsatisfactory marriages.

I didn't marry or have kids and get asked what is wrong with me by rude people with limited minds. WTF, it's a choice not a character flaw!

@MizJ Religion needs to be demonized as well. Since it's primarily religion that perpetuates this bullshit.

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Why would a woman want four husbands? Seriously though, the Q'uran says that if a man gets pleasure or children from a woman, he is supposed to take care of her forever. So, in theory, when a man tires of his first wife, he does not toss her into the street to fend for herself in a male-dominated world. She and her children have a home. Hopefully the work of housekeeping and child care is shared among the multiple wives.

The biggest problem with polygamy in various cultures is that the women are subjugated. If they had equal power we might call it polyamory.

I have come across several groups of polyamory and have found that women do not have equal power in those groups. They think they do but reality is different.

Only way I'd want 4 husbands would be if one was a handyman around the house, one was a neat freak and kept the house clean and did laundry, one was a great cook and loved to do the grocery shopping, and one was good with money matters, technical issues. None would be jealous, we'd each have our own bedrooms and life would be grand, haha!

@Julie808 You forgot to say that one of them should be a licensed massage therapist....

@TomMcGiverin Good point, but if I'm not doing my own housework then I might not need a massage!

@Jolanta Ooohhhh

@Julie808 And they are all good lovers. That's something I could get on board with!

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Really? Are you requesting gender equality from a religion?

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Patriarchy.

You took the word right out of my mouth! 😂

Kill the patriarchy!!

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This is practiced in some areas of the world. My ex often talked of it.

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Why on Earth would you want more than one husband?

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Control and children. If women were allowed four husbands that control would shift.

Betty Level 8 July 27, 2022
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It's allowed. Most men can just run faster. LOL

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.... or any other major religion allow it, for that matter?
[britannica.com].

Petter Level 9 July 27, 2022

Because religion is all about power. We cannot let women have power over men.

@Spinliesel But I like the woman on top!

@Petter That'a not power, just position.

@Spinliesel .... or a powerful position. 😜😜

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Because it's a religion made by men for men. Women are second class members.

"Second"? So highly rated? I thought they were rated below sons, dogs and the car.

@Petter Well, at least the car.

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