I haven't been a spouse in over 10 years and I've grown accustomed to life without a partner. There would be competition with my alone time, so if they won that competition, they would expect:

1. My children are my primaries in life, always, but especially until they have their own lives living on their own. Also, they have an actively engaged father in their lives, and he and I get along fairly well. His parents have stepped in and love me unconditionally after the death of my folks. They will always be a part of my life.

2. R.E.S.P.E.C.T. you'll find out what it means to me--including but not limited to the ability to clean up your person and your space without my help. I have children to whom this is taught, I do not need to teach this to a grown man.

3. I give 110% in a relationship and perhaps the reason they don't last is that I expect the same in return. I haven't "answered" to someone in years, that may or may not be easy.

4. I have a serious aversion and physical reaction to loud noises and voices. So don't.

5. I like it when a plan comes together. I am working on not being rigid or bothered when plans change. I do like to plan a day of spontaneity though.

6. I despise horror films, pranking people, most rap music and country music. I do have a great sense of humor and comedic timing.

7. I take the time to appreciate little things. I actually will comment throughout a day on little things I notice and try looking through a different perspective.

8. I am allergic to animal dander. I am not a lover of cats. I do like dogs; however, I feel that dogs should not be alone all day/night, and just be convenient for the owner. It's a HUGE commitment that requires enormous time and energy. Also, I don't think it's fair to the animal if the owner cannot financially manage medical expenses. Oh and I have no interest in cold blooded creatures without arms and legs that slither or need to be heated on rocks. Same goes for more than four legged creatures or ones that fly or require a perch.

1. I need a certain amount of alone time, depends on the day I have had or the project that has my attention.

2. I rarely watch TV.

3. The cat IS a person. She is my baby

4. I think I snore, I'm not sure because no one has complained of my snoring in a very long time, but then I've slept alone for a very long time.

5. Respect my kids.

6. There is a radio on somewhere in the house at all times. I have tinnitus, I keep the radio on to mask the ear noise. Sometimes it doesn't work. And frequently more than one radio.

7. No TV in the bedroom and I sleep with white noise and the ceiling fan on. Well, try to sleep.

8. I read lots of books, and sometimes stay up too late reading books. I read in bed.

9. I have very relaxed housekeeping standards.

10. I will never marry again, it would mess things up financially. However I am open to a very long term shack up. Why marry?

11. Don't leave the lid up.

After two divorces...thanks but no thanks....not going to compromise anymore...

I work shift work which includes days, nights, holidays and weekends. I do get some days off of course!

If not for a CPAP machine, nobody else in the house would be able to sleep through my snoring.

I'm honest to a fault. Don't ask me a question that you don't want an honest answer to.

It generally takes a lot to truly get me angry and while I never raise my voice or a hand, you'll know when it happens.

I'm a fun and loving father and partner.

I'm very affectionate and faithful with my partner but I mostly bond through things that happen in the bedroom and I'm not the plain vanilla type. Be the demon in the sheets that I need and I'm yours forever.

I've finally become honest with myself. At this point in my life it would take a very rare bird to be happy in a relationship with me. I'm a bit of a slob. I wouldn't live with someone again. I spend most of my time with my minor children. Worse yet, that time spent with them is usually at their mother and step-dads house. That's a long story. And on top of that, I need a lot of alone time. I guess it would kind of suck.

I would be exactly as I am. Honorable. Never hide who you are. If a spouse can't accept you for who you are, why are you even with them.

Due to sleep apnea, I nap during the day. I like quiet or a favorite show on TV. I HATE to be constantly on the move doing this or that! I suffer from chronic depression, ie. from time to time, or occasionally, I'm depressed for a few minutes. I HATE controlling women!

Your funny you ask a very good question and its gonna take a little thought to answer properly

I’m trying to be done with animals

I’m easy on everything (not wanting to repair or replace)

Loud is not allowed

Air should be fresh

Organized clutter works ~

According to my ex, and she otta know, it would be living hell.

im perfect lol

1. I like to cook
2. I play video games
3. I think cats are great
4. Some of my socks are blue
5. I've never been to Indonesia

You guys make me feel inferior. I have only been married once. Had a few girlfriends since then but now I am open to offers. (Girlfriends are still friends - just don't wanna fuck anymore. I didn't think it was THAT bad!)

Wonderful! I am in agreement your points listed above with the exception of number 4. Bugs do not bother me and when you think about it we are walking chemical/bug factories....

Aside from what is already on my profile, I don't want to marry again. It would take a lot for me to consider cohabitating, but I would enter at some point into a dedicated monogamous relationship with the right person and I'm down for sleepovers.
I try to stay balanced in all areas of my life. I am a fairly independent person (but I struggle with some of my cleaning chores now though, and it's driving me crazy.)

I repurpose a lot of things, and usually have some kind of craft project going on. I do spring and fall cleaning/ organizing purges, and at one point kept a garden. I don't mind "living" in my house during the downtime and when folks are there, but I want most often to wake up to a clean de-cluttered and organized house. (I can be distracted from that under the right circumstances.) My home is smoke-free. Contact with tobacco smoke causes me to get bronchitis, even if it's on your clothing, so if you smoke I cannot date you.

I'm a nocturnal person that sleeps by day and functions by night. I sleep on my side, and yes I snore. I love pillow talk. In privacy, I'm a cuddler both in and out of bed. I give massages, and I love wake-up sex. I love 'presence' and you will be given my full attention when you are there, but I also need my alone time.

I don't have cable for my TV. I like my quiet peaceful apt, and most often I will wait to go out for the more boisterous and rowdy activities. On occasions, I do have small gatherings with friends though, and will expect your friends, and family to eventually become a part of that also. I still hostess a pretty good live-streamed Superbowl party.

I love children, but they drain my energy nowadays. I function with them best if I can have structured planned time for interacting with them, and if younger than teen years, preferably if accompanied by parents. (Emergencies are the exception.) I am at a stage where if I date someone with children they need to be grown.

I like to cook, and I also eat meat. I will try most things. I cannot eat some of my favorite foods. I like to go out to restaurants and find activities to do on paydays when money comes in though. I would pamper and spoil you to the best of my ability, but I would also expect you to help me with things like heavy lifting, opening jar lids, and getting things from the top shelf.
I'm recovering from the flu now and had to turn down an opportunity, but I travel at the drop of the hat at almost every opportunity if I know a person well enough to trust them.

I have a few phobias... like spiders...and... spiders. (Did I happen to mention spiders?)
I have an agreement with bugs. As long as they remain in their own habitat, I will respect them and try not to disturb them. When they enter into my domain, they are risking their own life.

1, I will spontaneously burst into Elvis / Dean Martin impersonations.
2. If sat in front of a log fire I will fall asleep.
3. The love for my classic car is matched only by a mother's love.
4. My cats name is Princess Badgerpuss, get over it, she has.
5. I will be in my workshop in my spare time, but don't worry, I'm probably handcrafting you a gift.

I sleep with my dog.. I snore and he kicks and farts.

My work schedule is a disaster.days and some overnights.

I hate kids and use words like rug rats, nose miners,breeders, and breeding.

I use bad language often.

I call men who like traditional ultra feminine women kitten fuckers. Obviously I'm not a Ultra traditional feminine female

1. I fall asleep late (and wake up late too when I can).

2. I could spend pretty much all the time in the world with someone I really care about, though work would likely prove a major obstacle lol.

3. I like the quiet, but I also like loud music, so long as it's good music.

4. I'm not particularly scared of anything-I've already faced depression and decided nothing could be worse, so I'm pretty hard to frighten.

5. I don't like clutter but can live with it easily.

Usually my entire body is practically ice. I like my space heater and blankets.

You'll have to ask my wife. I am ... well ... biased.

I've been married to me for a long time, and it seems to be working out. But other people who have attempted don't appreciate these few things:
I) I can't just sit around and do nothing. I get fidgety.
2) I don't need people much. I came to realize that most people need to feel needed. I fail at making people feel needed.
3) I am a MMA junkie. But the person with me doesn't have to be, (see number 2).
4) I live for alone time. But I can be alone and share a room with someone (see number 2). A talent I learned in the marines.
5) I don't care about money. I give things away all the time. If I were married, I would not do that without the consent of my partner, however. I am big on sharing decisions if I am in a relationship. Saves on arguments.
6) I laugh a lot.
7) I listen to truly obnoxious music, but do not need my partner to listen to same music (see number 2). In fact, it doesn't matter what my wife listens to, I will make fun of it. And I expect the same in return or I will think you don't care.
8) I am perpetually creating something. About 12-16 hours a day or more...I will stop to bow chi chi bow bow or just have 'us' time. I'm not that bad. Okay, maybe I am....hehe.

Kind of like being married to a white guy version of Urkle.

I am an introvert. So need a lot of alone time. Socially, it takes time for me to be friends with anyone. But for reasons unknown, with a few i straightway make a connection. I believe in this site i found a friend like that. I do not know whether the other person thinks the same way though.
I eat a lot and i have a sweet tooth. My taste buds are also very choosy. My wife always complain about it.
I am a very lazy person. Another big irritating factor for my wife.
On off days, sometimes i skip my bath.
Hate nagging.
When i sleep, its deep. I will totally be unaware of the surroundings. Even if a bomb goes off, i wouldn't know. I snore heavily.
Politically, i have a leaning towards left from the centre.
I am not chivalrous but i respect freedom and privacy of the other person.
So the list goes on about my negatives. Basically, i am a very boring person. So, lets end my chance to find a date here...ha ha...

1. I sleep like a rock.
2. I need to have alone time.
3. I like a quiet house. Or with some agreeable music, but not constant TV.
4. Some of my best friends are bugs and germs.
5. I try to buy as little as possible, but use and then repurpose everything as long as possible, before composting it!

I listen to music almost constantly.

I eat three healthy, usually home made squares per day (breakfast is a must!).

My most hated chore is cleaning the dishes, though I do it promptly because I abhor bad smells.

I am an unapologetic cat person.

I love comedies, romance, fragrances, and modern art.

I can live without TV or sports, though can compromise.

I am straight edged - avoiding all intoxicants.

I find most things funny, even things that I probably aught not.

I look the same upon rising as I did going to bed (wear minimal make-up).

I am a night owl, not a morning person.

I am quite addicted to my full wave waterbed. I will totally try to sell you on the idea of sharing it with me.

I am fiercely loyal. I will be your best friend as well as mate. I will always have your back. I will be open and honest with you and will genuinely want to hear what's on your mind.

I was previously happily married for 20 years, ending it when cancer took my husband. I love marriage and know that it can work very well between the right people.

To be married to me would be horrible, I would hate it, and I am probably the only person who could tolerate me. I have been happily divorced for almost 25 years, my ex wife and I do not get on, but she still wants me back. 3 actual relationships since them, couple of years at most, but I still get on with these ladies, 2 of them I speak to daily and all 3 want to marry me. Silly women. The 3rd makes contact occasionally and all contacts with all 3 of them a very friendly. I am a bit of a control freak, not of other people, but of me an my surrounding, I fix things, not a handyman, but I don't leave problems unresolved. I can cook, far better than any women I have been in a relationship with, and I am a better mother, ha. I have raised most of their children, even when the kids weren't mine, in fact a couple of "not mine" kids are ion the next room at the moment gaming with my son. I am overweight and sore when overweight, I am very hot, it is impossible to sleep with me in anything but the cold of winter. I can't be lied to, it makes me very angry, and I can tell if someone is lying to me. I neither forgive nor forget any injustice. I am very kind, but not generous. Did I say I have been alone most of my life? I wonder why?