Yes and Yes. I only date people very close to my age. Studies show that men who have romantic partners 16 years younger than they are live longer than men with partners the same age.
But cougar women who marry younger men die much earlier than women who marry within a year of their own age.
Men live longer when they marry younger spouses. Why don't women? [theguardian.com]
Every factor can have consequences, negative or positive, but human relationships are too potentially complex to make general rules. One negative might be outweighed by two positives. I would rather assess a situation by its own unique qualities.
Ditto!
Age has never been an issue for me. Connection matters much more. My husband is 14+ years older than I am. We have been together for over 18 years.
I don’t think it really matters if two people are genuinely attracted to each other, but I have to say that there is something so very comforting about someone your own age relating to you on many
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@Exterminis I feel this way talking to people only 5 years younger
Depends on the person and what life experiences they have. Each generation brings different things to the relationship. My experience is that 15 years younger is about the limit for me. I haven't had a relationship with anyone more that about 5 years older than me...15 years older would probably mean they are dead...not into that at all.
Now you're just being picky. What with requiring a heartbeat and all. ?
@CeliaAnne agree...also depends what you want out of the relationship, since there are so many facets...oddly, the younger ones have not been problematic...the one 15 years my junior is currently my favorite
@CeliaAnne you are too funny! lol But then, you are also nearly 20 years my junior...
I don't like dating people more than 10 years older or more than 5 years younger.
My first husband was three years older than me. My second was eleven years younger than me. Guess who was more mature? Number two. He was also a much better parent as a stepdad than biological dad. We were much better suited to each other. The age difference was a consideration at first, but quickly became irrelevant. If an age gap was was much larger, that is definitely something to make me slow down, but I don't think it would stop me.
It does. I think 10 years on either side of my own age is fine, but anything more would be awkward for different reasons. Issues that would arise with younger than that are obvious. With older it begins to look like you're only with them for the life insurance... lol
It can mean everything and it can mean nothing. I’m new to open marriage and I’ve been meeting men online. Most of the men even attracted to me are younger. Like MUCH younger. I’ve dated men that are 20 +years younger than me and felt it affected nothing. Our personalities and interests and chemistry were hitting all cylinders. I’ve dated some 40 yo that I had no interest in. Most of them are set in their ways. Slowing down. I’m not at all so that doesn’t interest me at all.
It’s all about connection and attraction and courage - and that can happen between anyone.
Funny you ask. Most of my friendships and relationships have been with younger men. I've always looked younger by 10 years. Things have changed. I have met a wonderful man here who is actually a couple years older than me and we are starting something special. Age is not a consideration.
It does matter some, but not a great deal.
This is a recurring question. A person much younger than me would have to be the one pursuing since I would automatically assume she was too young for me. I tend to gravitate toward women around my age. That being said, I’ve noticed several 60+ women who I find myself attracted to.
i think it matters, but it depends how big of an age difference we are talking about. i think ten years is about as much as is ok.
Can they keep up? And do t hey make me laugh & want to dance?....age is irrelevant......
Not really , I am very fit for my age and that is a big determining factor , I really hit it off with a woman 25 years my JR once we really made each other laugh a lot , that is what I gage my ideal companion on sense of humor ! Making each other laugh is so fundamental !!!
Everyone is different. I've dated both older and younger women, with age gaps as high as ten years. I can't say that I cared so much about the numbers as how we connected.
Yes but it is very hard to connect when the person you are dating has no idea what you are talking about !!
@Riki64 Well.... People rarely understand what I'm talking about any way.... Lol
I would not consider dating anyone more than 10 years younger than me and would be careful about more than 5 years in either direction. Relationships are difficult enough without the parties being in different "places" with very different needs and experience (and quite possibly, maturity) levels.
I think the way many older men have women 20+ years their junior as arm candy is rather appalling, actually. And often, pathetic. A young woman can make you temporarily "feel" younger but as a low-energy introverted heady sort of person, I would have quite a bit of trouble keeping up with a very social, extroverted, bubbly, high-energy person my OWN age, much less younger.